Didnt know i was pregnant until i was miscarrying

[Laurna]

I went to the doctors last week for a smear but the doctor couldnt do it for some reason so he took bloods (i have anaemia so i didnt think anything else about it). The next day I had a phone call from the dr saying i was pregnant!!! I was in shock as I had a period (or so i thought) the week before.
The hcg levels didnt tie up with my periods!! The following morning i started bleeding again so went back drs for more bloods taken. My hcg levels had dropped dramatically!!! Just been to the EPU and had a scan and more bloods taken... Everything has now gone.
We werent trying to conceive as I was on the pill, but I just feel empty and achey inside!!

 

[Baby Potter]

I'm sorry for your loss. We had the same thing happen to us last March. I didn't have a period in January, but i have PCOS so that's not uncommon. I started bleeding the last day of Feb, and it was heavy and very big clots, I figured it was overly heavy since I had missed on. It finally got to the point on the 1st of March that I was going through tampons and pads faster than I could change them. I called my Dr that morning and the nurse told me to wait til the next morning to take a HPT. Later that afternoon I decided that if i was preggo that it would show up on a test. Went to store after work and bought a box of pads, tampons and preggo tests. What the combo right? Went home and took test, it came back positive. My DH said how can that be your bleeding, I looked at him and said because I'm miscarrying. Long story short I ended up in ER that night. They think I was 10-12 weeks along and I had NO clue I was even pregnant.

So unreal that you can be that far along and not realize theres something going on inside your body. I just had another MC 2 weeks ago, and found out about that one around 5 weeks. The only reason I took a HPT this time was because my boobs were sore and they never hurt, and I was 1 day late on my period. Decided oh well I'll do HPT and it'll come back NEG and AF will start 10 min later, like it always has after doing an HPT. Only this time it went positive almost immediately. I was completely shocked to say the least. Unfortunately we lost this baby at 12weeks (8 weeks 6 days gestation).

I have to be very careful and pay close attention to my body as apparently I do not have all of the usual early signs that most women do. We were sad about this loss but it all felt like such a dream. To find out that your are preggo and MCing withing minutes of eachother, is such a shock that it didn't really sink in for quite awhile.

I wish you the best in your recovery and I'm hear to talk if you need to. I completely understand the shock you are feeling and going through.

 

[Laurna]

Sorry to hear that x I have Pcos too n dont have really regular periods, looking back i think i did have clues.. sore nipples n exhaustion but i just put that down to my anaemia.. the OH was shocked when i gave hime a preg test but told him i was bleeding.. he says at least it didnt happen weeks down the line when we had got used to the idea. But within 24 hours i had got used to the idea after the shock subsided x

 

[Baby Potter]

Sorry to hear that x I have Pcos too n dont have really regular periods, looking back i think i did have clues.. sore nipples n exhaustion but i just put that down to my anaemia.. the OH was shocked when i gave hime a preg test but told him i was bleeding.. he says at least it didnt happen weeks down the line when we had got used to the idea. But within 24 hours i had got used to the idea after the shock subsided x

I totally understand, upon looking back after everything settled, there had been signs for me too, but there was always an explanation for them. I was getting sick every morning and thought it was from too much/too strong of coffee, so I quit drinking coffee and i quit getting sick. I had, had a few nights where I was exhausted but chalked it up to taking care of the house & animals and working more since my hubby was working out of town all the time.

My hubby was totally shocked too. I kept trying to get him to come in the bathroom when I'd go because i couldn't believe I was losing so much blood and didn't understand why. He of course wouldn't, and told me after this last loss that he was so scared after the 1st one because he didn't have any clue as too how much blood I was actually losing until we went to the ER that night and i was literally leaving a trail everywhere I'd go. He told me he was so scared that something was going to happen to me.

Such a scary, unbelievable experience. And we too are greatful that our losses have been so early. It's so hard to deal with at any stage but I don't know how I would cope if we got farther and lost a LO. I feel sorry for myself alot lately after this one, and then read some of the other womens stories and quite frankly don't know how they've coped and moved on. Guess us women are stronger than we think.

Here's to hoping our next experiences are much happier.

 

[Laurna]

I suppose what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
We have decided to try again and this time I have started taking vitamins extra iron and b12 as well as folic acid. So fingers crossed in time it will happen.

Good luck x

 

[Lost n alone]

I just went through a similar experience. I broke up withy boyfriend of a year because he decided he doesn't want children. Christmas came and went and I didn't question my huge breasts and my very light spotting for my period . I thought it was stress and too many cookies.
A week later the cramping started, I passed a lot of tissue and bled so heavily for a week I couldn't keep up with changing pads. I have had my ultrasound and bloodwork and confirmed I was 4-5 weeks.

I am in the darkest depression I have ever experienced. All I ever have wanted is a baby and now i don't have my partner or my baby.

I cry everyday and pray for my angel. It feels like the sadness will never go away.

Does it?

 

[carebear1981]

I just went through a similar experience. I broke up withy boyfriend of a year because he decided he doesn't want children. Christmas came and went and I didn't question my huge breasts and my very light spotting for my period . I thought it was stress and too many cookies.
A week later the cramping started, I passed a lot of tissue and bled so heavily for a week I couldn't keep up with changing pads. I have had my ultrasound and bloodwork and confirmed I was 4-5 weeks.

I am in the darkest depression I have ever experienced. All I ever have wanted is a baby and now i don't have my partner or my baby.

I cry everyday and pray for my angel. It feels like the sadness will never go away.

Does it?

I'm so sorry to hear that I am now a month since my mc and I still hurt, I still cry all the time. It would have been my first baby and I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant even though we weren't trying. Just wanted you to know that you may always grieve for as long as you need but it does get better and I know we will all have a baby to hold once we are truly ready.

 

[Lost n alone]

Thanks for your support. I still cry everyday. It comes out of nowhere and I have taken to staying at home because I don't think I can be out with people and not start crying and ruin everyone's else's time. I miss my boyfriend and I am angry that he isn't here to deal with this grief alongside me. I am angry that my sister dismissed it because it was only 4 weeks. I am sad and anxious about a baby shower I need to attend next week
Will I be able to stand it or will it be too much? I want to share in the joys of others but right now have no joy in my heart or soul. I just know I wish my bean was healthy an growing with me and that God's plan would have allowed that. I feel lost, sad, distant and angry. My counsellor tells me to try to look forward to the day when I will wake up happy again. I try but this profound sadness makes it hard to see that light. No one will ever understand how this feels unless they have gone through it and I am thankful I can come on this forum and talk to others that are going through the same emotions and that have been through it and come out a survivor.

 

[carebear1981]

It does get easier. I have had a few good days in a row. I found a keepsake to remember my little one by and at first I cried while I looked but now I am happy to have a little angel charm to hold when I get upset.
I know how you feel about wanting to share in other peoples joys. A friend of mine announced her engagement and I tried so hard to be happy for her but it just reminded me of when I announced I was pg Is it possible for you to send a gift to the shower? They should understand that you need some time.

 

[Lost n alone]

I am going to look for a memento that I can carry to remember my bean. I think that will help. Thank u for your kind words. Today has been a rough one . Hopefully tomorrow will be easier.