citrusfruit
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Wonder if anyone can relate or help. My husband and I have a 2 year old and are expecting another baby. Becoming a threesome has not been an easy road for us. We were raised very differently and have very different ideas on how to discipline, although our end goal is basically the same.
In a nutshell, I think my husband is too hard and expects too much of our son and he thinks I am too soft and pander to him. We have tried to discuss this and compromise but my personality means I am quite controlling and I find it difficult to see his point of view. He has basically shut down as sees any conversations about it as pointless as it is just me trying to get him to see my view. He is not going to change and become softer and I cannot get cross at my son. Must add here that I do discipline e.g. by setting limits and not giving in to tantrums etc, I just do it calmly and without a temper. I'm a big believer in gentle parenting and he is not.
How do we navigate this without getting a divorce or screwing up our child?? We don't argue in front of him but there have been some tense moments and the older he gets the more apparent this will get. I'm not looking for opinions on who is right as I genuinely think we both have faults but I don't think either of us can change and I want to embrace our differences as healthily as possible. Any advice gratefully received.
In a nutshell, I think my husband is too hard and expects too much of our son and he thinks I am too soft and pander to him. We have tried to discuss this and compromise but my personality means I am quite controlling and I find it difficult to see his point of view. He has basically shut down as sees any conversations about it as pointless as it is just me trying to get him to see my view. He is not going to change and become softer and I cannot get cross at my son. Must add here that I do discipline e.g. by setting limits and not giving in to tantrums etc, I just do it calmly and without a temper. I'm a big believer in gentle parenting and he is not.
How do we navigate this without getting a divorce or screwing up our child?? We don't argue in front of him but there have been some tense moments and the older he gets the more apparent this will get. I'm not looking for opinions on who is right as I genuinely think we both have faults but I don't think either of us can change and I want to embrace our differences as healthily as possible. Any advice gratefully received.