Dissappointed

[kaye]

Hi

Little bit of rant really, but i am getting really annoyed with all the read n run's.
I have posted quite a few posts and im lucky if i get one response sometimes.

THought we were here to help & support each other? Yes we might not all be having the same issues, but we are all struggling to get the same thing!!

Sometimes just a word of comfort or hug sign can go along way. Sometimes we all just need that little pick me up when we are so down and sad.

Maybe you dont agree with me writing this, but its just really bugging me. Maybe i should just try a different board as this is not like it was when i joined anymore at all

 

[Lollylou]

Oh no thats no nice

It's rubbish when you need advice and there's nobody to talk to, I'm always on here so chat away and i'll help as much as I can

Lolly x

 

[LizMcD]

Hi kaye sorry to hear this! I must admit I've hardly been in here recently, I have a break now and then because I get a little too obsessed with the whole fertility thing.

Point me in the direction of ur other posts pls...

Hope u r ok, sending BIG hugs xx

 

[kaye]

Thanks Ladies, sorry just moaning/ One of them days.

How are you both getting on?

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi there,
yeah i hate that as well, when you see your post has loads of views yet v little replies, unless sometimes others frm other boards read the posts here but as they are in different situations they dont reply. i used to be on ivfconnections.com ivf vets for support but its more or less gone now because of read and runs. v sad as it was a great support.
rosebud

 

[KittyCat82]

Hi-I have found this too. Sometimes when I had a legitimate question on say the IVF procedure that people must know if they have had it, and no one replies. Frustrating.

There is a danger of posting when you dont know the answer though ie posts about PCOS which I know little about when its not clear in the heading-I suppose like you say tho, the odd hug doesnt go amiss...x

 

[RM_Wife]

I know that feeling too - sometimes when I post it's like I am talking to myself on other longer threads which are on here. Sometimes a thanks when replying to a post or as you say just a little acknowledgment would go a long way. For that reason, I kind of logged off for a while and didn't even check it once.

I hope things start to change as I am still quite new, and as I know a lot of people have friendships on here it can be quite daunting!

 

[Missus_L]

I'm one to come off the boards too when I'm finding TTC hard but when I can I will always give a reply. Hope your ok

As others have said, we are in this together and we all need the support as we all understand the journey we are all going through x

 

[kaye]

Thanks everyone for your replies.
Its a shame i had to have such a big rant lol. Just pure frustration. xxx

Hope your all ok and sending you lots of babydust xx

 

[NavyWife84]

First, I want to say that I'm sorry you're feeling this way, we are all definitely on here for support that only we can give each other. However, I am going to play a little bit of devil's advocate here, maybe it will put the R&Rs in perspective (I personally HATE when people write "please don't r&r"). So here is my take on it...

If someone is having a bad day and just ranting, yes a hug or a thanks is nice. However, if I am reading a post that I thought I could relate to but it turns out to be something that I don't know anything about, I don't post. It is pointless for me to say something when what I say isn't going to help anyway. Also, when I am asking a question about something, I look for my post in my CP. I get excited when someone has posted and check it right away, hoping for answers. But, when it is just a hug or a thanks, I feel let down...almost like it was a waste of time. Also, if I posted on all of the threads that I read, my fingers would really hurt and I would be on here forever! I don't feel that every thread I read requires a post.

We are all on here for support and we are all ltttc, but we all have different stories. When the docs told me I had endo, I tended to look more for those posts. Now the docs think it is pcos, so I look in those posts. However, a lot of the ladies with pcos have already started taking meds and I haven't been prescribed anything until I do another full cycle of blood tests. Sooo, I might go on the pcos threads and see that the women are talking about meds. Right now, I have no clue what meds I will be on (If my doc goes that route) so I might just read to hear what people say about them so I can be prepared. However, I don't find it necessary to say anything becaus the docs aren't positive that this is pcos yet and I don't know anything about what the other ladies are saying.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is please don't get discouraged. People aren't trying to hurt your feelings or frustrate or ignore you. Maybe some people just have a reason for not posting.

 

[Jennifer01]

I get disappointed sometimes, but more likely I get freaked out cause I think wow if no one on here can answer this, I must be really up sh@t creek lol!!
Just so you know it's not you, I haven't really had very much help on my last couple of threads either

 

[Amandamb1108]

I feel the same way i have posted a few threads and got no responses but 50 views. its kinda like whats the point of posting the thread

 

[XwishX]

First, I want to say that I'm sorry you're feeling this way, we are all definitely on here for support that only we can give each other. However, I am going to play a little bit of devil's advocate here, maybe it will put the R&Rs in perspective (I personally HATE when people write "please don't r&r"). So here is my take on it...

If someone is having a bad day and just ranting, yes a hug or a thanks is nice. However, if I am reading a post that I thought I could relate to but it turns out to be something that I don't know anything about, I don't post. It is pointless for me to say something when what I say isn't going to help anyway. Also, when I am asking a question about something, I look for my post in my CP. I get excited when someone has posted and check it right away, hoping for answers. But, when it is just a hug or a thanks, I feel let down...almost like it was a waste of time. Also, if I posted on all of the threads that I read, my fingers would really hurt and I would be on here forever! I don't feel that every thread I read requires a post.

We are all on here for support and we are all ltttc, but we all have different stories. When the docs told me I had endo, I tended to look more for those posts. Now the docs think it is pcos, so I look in those posts. However, a lot of the ladies with pcos have already started taking meds and I haven't been prescribed anything until I do another full cycle of blood tests. Sooo, I might go on the pcos threads and see that the women are talking about meds. Right now, I have no clue what meds I will be on (If my doc goes that route) so I might just read to hear what people say about them so I can be prepared. However, I don't find it necessary to say anything becaus the docs aren't positive that this is pcos yet and I don't know anything about what the other ladies are saying.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is please don't get discouraged. People aren't trying to hurt your feelings or frustrate or ignore you. Maybe some people just have a reason for not posting.

Hi, just thought id let you know I have pcos,was diagnosed when I was 18 and im now almost 24 so I know quite alot about it lol.Im not on any meds either after a long long time trying to convince my docs to put me on something they still wont put me on anything even though ive been ttc for over a year.longer realy wen u take into account ntnp for approx 4 years. think they have never taken me seriously as they think say your only young,u got plenty of time. haaate that!! If you wanted to know anything just ask and il tell you what i know

lots of baby dust to you all xx

 

[Dazed]

I'm sorry your having such issues Kaye. I'm always here if you need a shoulder. I generally don't post much anymore, but I'm always here.

 

[Armywife84]

Don't leave! I've been off of here for a while, to give myself a piece of mind and to take a breather from anything baby related.

I think it's more of women reading it and don't know how to answer your question. Like I can't comment too much on women who are facing the infertility because I have no idea what that is like, when I'm facing male infertility. However, I try to keep in mind that we can all relate to each other in some sort of way.

For some of us (myself including), this is the ONLY support I have. Kinda sad, isn't it?

So no leaving!!!

 

[wannabemummyb]

I agree with armywife and some of the others, i sometimes read threads but feel i can't offer anything worthwhile so duck out without posting. However, i have also been on the other side and had loads of views but no answer, as such i rarely start threads and only post every now and then. That being said this forum holds a wealth of information

 

[NavyWife84]

Don't leave! I've been off of here for a while, to give myself a piece of mind and to take a breather from anything baby related.

Welcome back, Armywife! I noticed that you hadn't been around lately. Any news on your DH's deployment. I know you were waiting to hear and then it got pushed back.

 

[readyformore]

Honestly, it doesn't really bother me if people read and run. I really don't see it as offensive. It's not like someone is trying to hurt your feelings.

We try, but can't all relate to one another. And yes support is nice, but 2 pages of hugs gets deflating.

I'd like to have someone that can relate to my issues, and sometimes you don't know if you can relate or not until you've read the whole thread.

I wouldn't take it personally.