Distraught And scared

[Bumpnthree]

I'm sitting here crying as I type this I don't know what to do I'm really upset and scared

Basically my other half has gone out after a conversation we had started half hour ago.
I'm 30 I'm ten years older than him. After sex he started asking me questions about my sexual past. I told him none of it mattered and that I wasn't comfortable with sharing it in case he got mad. He laughed and went about digging info out of me little bit by little bit. Each time convincing me that it was fine and that he wants to know. Everytime is protested he came on even harder as if he would be more cross if I didn't say anything as I'm either holding back or hiding things. So I was honest.

One answer rolled onto a further question when in the end he had enough info including who had the bigger penis of my past sexual partners. It wasn't him but a man who I have not had anything to do with since. My partner got out a tape measure and was laughing saying god he must have been a porn star!! You slag!!! All making out in jest. I wasn't laughing but reassuring him size made no difference and that I was in love with him and we have by far had the best sex I've ever had and that I was proud to be carrying his baby.

Then he just turned the other way went all cold and silent. Didn't want to talk or lay near me and claws his eyes and shut me out.

Then when I said I wish he had sent asked and it wasn't like I've cheated in him all this was before him over a fifteen year period!

I'm not a slag and have slept with between five and ten men and I'm now 30.
I know that prob more than some but alot less than other women my age and doesn't make me a slag as only one ofbthem was a one night stand the other were boyfriends that go back from my teenage years.

I love my partner dearly and he has gone out leaving me feeling so empty and upset. Like he will never look at me the same way again and that he thinks I'm a slag (((
He's 20 and has slept with 33 women so why is he making me feel like this?

I've text him but he has ignored my message.

This last week I have been feeling very insecure and emotional as it is. I'm 29 weeks pregnant and am scared he will not want to be in a relationship with me anymore. I'm scared I'm going to be left single and so hurt ((

 

[iwantabub]

Huni don't u dare feel guilty about that stuff Hun... If he wants to be an immature git let him... He will get over it.,, there is no right or wrong answer and I'm a good bit younger than u and can assure u my number is higher and I'm certainly not a slag!!!

What is a slag anyway?! Like its ok for guys but not girls... Hell no!!!!

I'm sure ur man will probably have a think and realise he's been a dick... But please please don't think of yourself that way... That's not the case at all!!!!

Xx

 

[beccaboo82]

I just wanna give you a hug! Men are strange creatures!
He is still young so I am sure he will come back with his tail between his legs!
My husband is younger than me and used to act a bit like your partner then he used to come crawling back all apologetic.
You shouldn't be made to feel like he is making you feel. Everyone has a past and nothing can be done to change that xx

 

[Expecting1]

If he wants to call you names, tell him about the girl on the baby page who went from 0 to 15 in the span of the age of 16. Lost it a few days before her 16th bday and met her now hubby a couple weeks after her 17th bday. Yep that's me. I'm not at all proud of it but I will stand up for myself. I admit it was all a huge mistake but if I hadn't of made those stupid decisions I wouldn't be where I am today.
My hubs has had a few low digs at me about it but he's at the same number but they were all girlfriends so that makes him think he's in the right to call me names when we fight.
I can say from experience don't ever let him say things like that, stand up for yourself and take him down because you are a strong beautiful woman not a 'slag'
IMO a slag is a cheater. Plain and simple. "Slut, whore, slag" all cheater to me, man or woman.
He wasn't there so he should count himself lucky you were honest!

Sorry if that didn't help but I couldn't stand that he called you that when you're not even in double digits.

 

[Athena]

He's obv most upset that you have been with a man bigger than him, men are so weird about their willies!! Don't worry about it he can hardly call you out when he's slept with ppl triple your numbers.

 

[lolita1990]

He's being childish. On what planet does stuff like that matter when you are having a baby!? Sorry if this is harsh but I wouldn't put up with that. Very immature! He has to man up and you have to stop feeling like this because you've not done anything wrong!

you'll be ok. He's insecure and that should get better with age but if he doesn't want the truth he shouldn't go digging x

 

[jellybean83]

You should tell him that although he didnt have the biggest penis he is certainly acting like a giant dick,

You have nothing to be sorry for,He is being an arse x

 

[jellybean83]

You should tell him that although he didnt have the biggest penis he is certainly acting like a giant dick,

You have nothing to be sorry for,He is being an arse x

 

[alisha_t]

 

[cupcakekate]

Don't worry, his pride is probs abit hurt because of the penis size thing! He'll come round x x

 

[Bumpnthree]

He's been totally off all day. When I try to go for a cuddle or kiss and ine thilegs tarted to lead to another he let me go 'there' for abit then says actually I'm Gunna go for a run actually I'm not in the mood stop. He's never been like that EVER!

I can't believe it. We've had problems in the last week but I'll go mad if he starts being funny with sex aswell!

How dare he make me feel like this!

 

[tristansmum]

He is being pathetic. He wanted to know the details and he can't handle it. I would not be offering him sex..... Let him beg you for it. Idiot. X

 

[o0Squeaks0o]

it sounds to me like his got a hang up about his penis size and the fact he hasn't been your biggest as that seemed to get the bigger reaction from him well that's how i read your post. i really hope he pulls his shit together his out of order for probing into your past then acting like a plonker that he didn't like what he heard. thing is we all have a past and yes when you deeply love someone it can be hard to think of that another person has touched them in an intimate way but his acting really immature. and doing so is hurting you. have you tried discussing this with him since ? sorry your having to go through this i hope he realises how hurtful his being xx

 

[sue_88]

He is being pathetic. He wanted to know the details and he can't handle it. I would not be offering him sex..... Let him beg you for it. Idiot. X

^^ WSS!

The main problem being his is twenty and sounds like he has the mental capacity of a 14 year old. He needs to step up a MASSIVE amount if he is going to attempt at parenting as right now I wouldn't trust him around a baby. What an idiot.

Why do blokes ask questions, and push for answers that they reeeeeeally don't want to know.

Don't entertain his stupid attitude and wait till he grows up some.

 

[05mummy07]

Men.... Honestly what is wrong with some of them?! Don't you dare feel bad about his behaviour towards you that's his problem, not yours! If he wants to be a dick let him get on with it he'll soon realise how pathetic he's being. You don't need this sort of stress right now.

 

[Bumpnthree]

I've tried to talk about it with him and he just got very defensive and said he doesn't know what I'm talking about, it's all in my head. Then in the next breath he says " all blokes ask those sort of questions! Do you think my reaction is not normal? All blokes would think and feel the same way"

Like its my fault. I'm sick and tired in feeling upset I'm usually very strong but being pregnant makes me feel like I don't know myself I get so upset I can't think straight

 

[shelx]

So somebody has a bigger penis than him!! And im sure alot of the men in the world do, he needs to get over it.

 

[laila 44]

Wow I'm sorry but he's really acting his age. I hope he can man up when baby arrives because he needs to be way more mature if he wants to be a father...

 

[o0Squeaks0o]

his right other men do probably think about it, i mean even us ladies wonder about our mens past. it'd be weird if we didn't. but his wrong for the fact most men don't behave like the way he is after asking tons of questions. thing is everyone has history and he needs to deal with it. is he normally a jealous type of guy ? and as for saying its in your head. what a cop out. don't feel bad you've done nothing wrong here. his the one with issues. hopefully he'll man up and tell you what's put his nose out so much. im still banking on it being him not being the biggest penis you've had. i had an ex who asked similar questions then got all pissy my ex before him had a bigger penis. men are so weird over that. if only they'd understand for most women its not about size but how we actually feel for that person that makes a difference. xx

 

[MrsWhy]

I know it would be difficult but just ignore him - try not to make him feel better because he asked you the questions and when he couldnt cope with the answers, got all defensive.

You shouldn't feel bad, he pushed and pushed for answers until you gave them to him. If he can't cope with the answers then he shouldn't have asked the questions in the first place.

He needs to realise that there's a reason that you're not with any of your previous partners and why you're with them. Size doesn't make the man.

Honestly men can be arses sometimes

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