Divorce help

[sammiwry]

Can anyone possibly help reword so they sound less spoilt brat like please:

I resent the fact that Warren can and does go off to enjoy his hobby of downhill mountain biking often in Essex, while I am unable to enjoy my hobby of horse riding as my hobby “isn’t going to go anywhere”


Warren doesn’t display any concern for trying to save money for the future of the family and would rather spend it as soon as pay day has arrived.


I have no faith or confidence that Warren will have Madden when he says he will due to him letting me down at the last minute because he is “tired” from work or because he is going out for the night with friends.


I have been living with my parents since middle of October 2011 and it is now May 2012 with Warren spending at most 6 weekends in the same house as myself and Madden.


I find Warren’s behaviour unreasonable in the fact that after I have started work at 5/6am when I come home I am then expected to do the days driving to where ever we are going as was the case in March when warren wanted to go to Brighton and was expected to do the drive.


His continual use of the word bender to refer to a gay friend of mine, he has used this language in front of said friend even though he knows I find this type of language offensive.


Warren has threatened that had I gone to pick a friend up at 1.30am he would take Madden while I was at work.


Warren has refused in the past to go out with me if I am wearing make up or certain clothes and shoes as he believes I am trying to impress other men.

its for my divorce paperwork

 

[TattiesMum]

I'll give it a go

Mr X's behaviour has at times been extremely controlling including dictating what I should wear when we go out together ; accusing me of trying to attract other men ; threatening to remove our son from the house if I did not comply with his (Mr x's) wishes in respect of my friends ; insisting that I drive him to places that he wished to go regardless of my physical capability at the time ; indulging his own hobbies while refusing to accommodate mine ; putting his own needs in respect of socialising above those of his family and reckless spending of the family income regardless of household expenses.

In addition he has displayed homophobic behaviour to my friends in front of our son and refused to modify his language when requested to do so.

*****

There is little point in putting the bits in about how little he has visited Madden in the last 6 months Hon - it's only really relevant if you are contesting access and even then the court are unlikely to see it as an indicator that he shouldn't have unsupervised access

The best you can hope for there is that ... if he does keep letting Madden down .... then you stop access there and then on the grounds that he is damaging Madden emotionally and let him take you back to court

 

[sammiwry]

I'll give it a go

Mr X's behaviour has at times been extremely controlling including dictating what I should wear when we go out together ; accusing me of trying to attract other men ; threatening to remove our son from the house if I did not comply with his (Mr x's) wishes in respect of my friends ; insisting that I drive him to places that he wished to go regardless of my physical capability at the time ; indulging his own hobbies while refusing to accommodate mine ; putting his own needs in respect of socialising above those of his family and reckless spending of the family income regardless of household expenses.

In addition he has displayed homophobic behaviour to my friends in front of our son and refused to modify his language when requested to do so.

*****

There is little point in putting the bits in about how little he has visited Madden in the last 6 months Hon - it's only really relevant if you are contesting access and even then the court are unlikely to see it as an indicator that he shouldn't have unsupervised access

The best you can hope for there is that ... if he does keep letting Madden down .... then you stop access there and then on the grounds that he is damaging Madden emotionally and let him take you back to court

Thanks would it be ok to write it as you have done on the form?

 

[TattiesMum]

I'll give it a go

Mr X's behaviour has at times been extremely controlling including dictating what I should wear when we go out together ; accusing me of trying to attract other men ; threatening to remove our son from the house if I did not comply with his (Mr x's) wishes in respect of my friends ; insisting that I drive him to places that he wished to go regardless of my physical capability at the time ; indulging his own hobbies while refusing to accommodate mine ; putting his own needs in respect of socialising above those of his family and reckless spending of the family income regardless of household expenses.

In addition he has displayed homophobic behaviour to my friends in front of our son and refused to modify his language when requested to do so.

*****

There is little point in putting the bits in about how little he has visited Madden in the last 6 months Hon - it's only really relevant if you are contesting access and even then the court are unlikely to see it as an indicator that he shouldn't have unsupervised access

The best you can hope for there is that ... if he does keep letting Madden down .... then you stop access there and then on the grounds that he is damaging Madden emotionally and let him take you back to court

Thanks would it be ok to write it as you have done on the form?

If that says everything you want it to say then yes Hon

The controlling behaviour is what constitutes 'unreasonable' and you can expand on it if or when he contests it