Do I have a right to be upset?

[debsxhim]

I don't really have anyone else to talk to who won't be biased, so what do you girls think?

My OH acts perfect sometimes, even though no one is. But lately hes been driving me up the walls. To start with hes had a lot more pent up anger and has been arguing with me over the silliest of things, and been ignoring our 3 month old puppy, except to vigurously train him.

Yesterday he hit a kid with his car! He was on a bike and his excuse was he didn't see him and that the kid was dumb for jumping in front of the truck. The kid was fine, but I started crying and told him he needs to stop being so dumb. His response? "Maybe its not my fault. Even though you think everything is!"

I get home and see a text convo between him and his ex about a dream he had kissing her. She said "Youd better not kiss me!" and he says "I would if I were single (basically)", he called her sweetie, and later said he wants a break sometimes but loves me too much. I mention it and he says its okay because he said "IF" he were single.

My friend, whos very sensitive, was over swimming today. She asked him to carry something, and he just flat right said no. She got pissed and left.

Ive been tired of cleaning up after him for everything, so he promises to clean and it takes days to get to the garbage, dishes, or clean anything! His excuse is hes tired from working even though he hasn't worked all week. He claims all of this is because of work frustration and stress yet he won't talk to me.

Im just about to blow a fuse because of all this pent up anger. I try and talk to him but he just DOESN'T understand! Am I being too irrational? What can I do?

 

[Eskimobabys]

wow 1st why does he have his Ex's number still? they got kids together? cuz if not he has no business talking to her! poor pup they need love and attention he shouldn't have a pup if he doesnt have time for it. maybe his mind is some where else..as in another woman? not trying to put thoughts in ur head but if this behavior is outta the blue it sounds like hes detaching emotionally from you.
EDIT-and poor kid good thing he was alright!

 

[debsxhim]

Yeah. I really hope not.
We grew so much closer after the miscarriage.
But now that were moved in together and things seem different. He promises that were fine and he won't leave me and there's no other women for him. He's never spent more then 2 days away from in the 1.5 years we've lived together, and I know he hasn't cheated. I know in his past relationships he has, but im scared if he does I'll never even know!
He acts fine until I say he did something wrong and show him what hes doing, then he sulks, wont talk, and wont let me make dinner or hug him or anything. Maybe hes depressed?

 

[Eskimobabys]

mmmm i dont know im sorry only you truely know him but something is bugging him. sorry im not much help. hop someone can give u better advice.

 

[Bride2Be]

Your OH is being really ridiculous! I'm sorry you're going through all of this

The whole deal with his ex blew my mind and it is perfectly understandable that you would be upset.