Do i have i right to be upset??

[mummyk]

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[marley2580]

I would be pissed off at anyone asking me to feed somewhere else. I even fed Kaya in front of my grandparents, if they were a bit embarrassed tough, Kaya had to eat.

 

[missjacey44]

I would be slightly pissed off if my 'friend' told me to go out of the room. I wouldnt say anything this time but if it happens again when your around her or at hers i would just explain you dont want to go out of the room, breastfeeding is only natural and nobody should be embarased by it or have a problem with it

 

[Logiebear]

I would say something if you have to go round again. Just say well I'll come but if I had to feed Skye I'm not being locked away. Then if she says "but you did it last time" just tell her how it made you feel.

I would be mighty pissed off too though hun, that's awful

 

[mummyk]

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[asacia]

I'd try not to fall out over it. I don't think either of you are in the wrong - you have a right to feel a bit upset at being 'pushed out', but I think she has a right to feel comfortable in her own home.

Perhaps just say that you'll have to only visit for a short time next time, as you weren't happy feeding alone, but you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.

Another thing, do you know why she bottle feeds? Perhaps she wanted to and wasn't able to, and watching someone feed successfully might make her a bit upset? I know that doesn't make it easier for you, but it could explain it. I know I'd feel quite emotional seeing someone feeding - I'm exclusively expressing as we haven't managed breastfeeding yet.

 

[DizzyMoo]

Is it possible she could of been thinking of you though? Possibly that you may want some quiet time or privacy? She may not of understood how to handle that situation either. So when you speak to her about it approach it carefully, But remember its also her house & she may not like bf infront of her.Not everyone likes it & we all must respect eachothers decisions. When i bf my son i didn't like bf in front of people & i ALWAYS left the room & went elsewhere in the house even in my own house if people came round to mine i went into my bedroom where it was quiet & noise wouldn't distract my son feeding. I don't like the idea of me bf in public at all, i fed infront of my mum & my sons bio but that's it anybody else i left the room.
Everyone is different that's all .

Just thought my side might give a little insight too

 

[leeanne]

Wow, that's not very nice of your friend!

I breastfed my first two and bottlefeed my third, but there is no way in hell that I would tell a friend of mine to go into another room to feed her baby if she is breastfeeding.

I had a BBQ and invited my best friend over recently, who's daughter was 3 weeks old. She breastfeeds and I told her she can do it wherever she is comfortable. She did it in my living room....no big deal!

 

[Chaos]

I would be a bit upset, yes, because at the end of the day this is your friend and that kinda thing shouldn't really matter.

But on the flip side it is her house and you gotta respect her rules. Maybe her brothers partner was not comfortable around breast feeding, or maybe she was worried her partner or brother might walk in and felt you might be embarrassed. Or even maybe it didn't even occur to her as its her "breast feeding room" and its just what she does.

I'd mention it to her and just ask why she has a specific room and you felt a bit uncomfortable being made to go there. If shes a true friend shes gonna understand you were a bit hurt and just explain .. she aint gonna know shes offended you unless you tell her.

 

[mummyk]

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[Pearl]

on the other hand she may have just been thinking u want privacy ?? if shes ur friend, just try to think the best. Let her know (in the nicest possible way )

 

[Mervs Mum]

I'd try not to fall out about it but if you are going to be going around there again just tell her how you feel - assure her that you dont mind, and she's not actually doing you a favour, rather that she's making you feel a bit excluded.

 

[Always&4ever]

I'd be offended aswell hon, I could never tell a friend who breast-feeds to go into another room, she wouldn't have done that if you were bottle feeding

 

[mari72]

Personally i'd not say anything but when i was next there i'd just whip out my boob and stick my baby on it! Or when she directs you to the 'breastfeeding room' just smile and say 'thanks v much but we're nice and comfy here.' That way she will have to say to you that she has a problem with it and why-of course she might just not ask you round again. In my opinion you should only be shown another room if you ask for some privacy, i'm not quite sure why someone would have a problem with you bf.

 

[Pyrrhic]

Wow, I'd be really annoyed!

I always ask friends if they mind if I BF in front of them, but if they said yes I'd say 'well I have to go then, as Niamh needs fed'.

I'd never BF in front of a male friend who didn't have kids though.

 

[Blob]

Thats a bit weird, my friends i think were a bit weirded out about it at the start. Most of them were shocked i was wanting to feed in the same room. But i'd not fall out about it, maybe they'd get used to it if they went over to your house and saw you BF??

 

[DizzyMoo]

Some people are just not comfy around people bf, To one it seems natural & instinct but to another they find it a little awkward & possibly embarassing.
I would defo ask if she has a problem with the feeding & if she has then there is not alot you can do other than leave her house if the situ arises again as annoying as it may be when you have a crying hungry baby, Try leaving half hour before a feed is due

I'm not sure how i'd feel if a friend asked me to use another room as i've always been the one to leave the room anyway i don't like feeding in front of people .
Ask her though hun & just see what she says

 

[Foogirl]

Her house, her rules. I'd just avoid her house....

....and also have a set of bizarre rules for my own house whenever she came to visit.

 

[Jelly Bean]

This is so ridiculous to me it borders on almost humorous. Someone being embarrassed by discrete breastfeeding is as illogical as someone being embarrassed about being seen eating in public or excusing themselves to use the loo. Basic human needs, people...

I think you deserve an apology.

 

[Mervs Mum]

....and also have a set of bizarre rules for my own house whenever she came to visit.

Great idea!