Do i have i right to be upset??

[lozzy21]

Bf in my family is perfectly normal and my brothers who are 18 and 14 dont look twice if a woman has her boobs out bf yet in my OH's family they all bottle feed and OH was rather imbassed the first time he saw my aunty bf. I told him that she wasent imbassased so why should he be? I also told him that hes going to have to get used to it because im going to bf our kids. He turned around and said that if id have to go to another room if we were with his family so i swiftly told him im not going into hiding just to feed and that if they have a problem with it they can bugger off.

The next time she invited you round just ask her straight,are you going to make me go to another room. If she says yes just say them il give it a miss as i dont like being made to hide to feed my child.

 

[mummyk]

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[TJ79]

Hi Kirstie, I agree totally with the majority that there is nothing embarrassing about bfing and you shouldn't be forced out of the room for feeding your child. It's perfectly natural and in the best interests of your baby.

However, taking a slightly different turn on reasons why she may be uncomfortable.... maybe in HER family bfing was something to do in private and as such she may have been brought up to expect the same from everyone else and feel awkward when others don't hold the same views she was taught?

I'd definitely say something though either way, otherwise neither of you will feel comfortable around eachother for a while.

Good luck honey xx

 

[PixieKitty]

I'd be so pissed off! I bottle feed, but I was planning on breastfeeding. It's such a natural thing, I can't understand people being uncomfortable around it.

 

[jms895]

Nice friend! NOT! I whap my boob out anywhere now, if people want to leave they can

 

[Shifter]

I would try to talk to her about it. There is probably a reason she is so uncomfortable and it would probably be best for your friendship if you knew what it is.

At home I'll pretty much feed Jack in front of anyone who is visiting, but out and about I prefer a bit of privacy, personally, especially around people I don't really know. But I would be appalled if someone told me to leave the room!

Last weekend we visited two different friends at their houses. The first was one of my closest and oldest friends, but I had never met his family before. On that occasion I asked for a private room to feed in as I didn't fancy feeding in front of three people I had never met before!

At the second friend's house, a friend I have recently got back in touch with after about 8 years and who has two little boys of her own, I asked if she minded but got on with it before she really answered! I think she was a bit flustered, she did offer me some privacy but I smiled and got on with it! It turned out that she was FFing her two week old.

I think a lot of people who aren't around BFing don't necessarily want to see other people's breasts. Yes, BFing is normal and the natural function of breasts but as a society we are bombarded with images of breasts as sexual things and you can't really blame people who have been manipulated by that. It's a shame though and the more open and comfortable BFing mums are the more those attitudes will change.

 

[Novbaby08]

Wow what a bitch. I would've just whipped it out right there.