Do i lie to try and get a scan?

[Jem88]

I really don't think i'd get an early scan if i just said i was worried and nothing was actually wrong, but would it be bad of me to maybe wait until mon, when i should be 7+3 and phone the EPU or goto the docs and say i've been having cramping? when i started spotting about 4 days before my mc about 2 year ago, i went to the docs and they didn't check me over they just arranged an early scan but i then m/c the day before I feel bad for even thinking it because obv i don't want to jynx anything.. i don't think i can wait another 5 weeks worrying

 

[KatyKat]

That's going to be something you need to decide for youself to be honest.

Personally, I wouldn't just in case I jinxed myself. However, I do appreciate how hard it is to wait for the 12 week scan, so you need to weigh up what will work best for you?

 

[Jem88]

Yeah i guess. I mean i don't want to go and say i've been spotting when i haven't incase they do a scan and everythings fine, and then i do end up spotting and then they don't do 1. I have LOADS of symptoms this time when i didn't really with my 1st preg so i guess i might not try and get a scan, i'm not sure :S

 

[KitKatBit]

Hi Jem,

I totally know how you feel. They said the same to me about getting a scan and I considered lying, but like KatyKat says, I was just so worried that I'd jinx myself and I also felt bad about the women I might be nicking a scan slot from - they might REALLY have been bleeding.

I can't wait another 5 weeks though, so I'm getting one done privately. I know that's not an option for everyone and I'm lucky because I've found out that my healthcare plan will cover it, but even if I had to pay I think I might have to try and get the money together some how.

I hope you manage to get something arranged. Fingers crossed for you.

 

[hopedance]

tbh, i don't think you should lie, but you could pay to have a private reassurance scan if you're really worried. there are lots of clinics who do them.

 

[Mum2bewaiting]

I really struggled to get a scan when I was bleeding and cramping with my MMC due to the pressure on the EPU services. For this reason alone I would say if it is just reassurance you need and are having lots of symptoms then go for a private scan. Although I had a scan at 7 weeks due to spotting, but it only reassured me for a week or so... if that
GL with the rest of your pregnancy, I'm sure you will be fine...

 

[milkmachine]

no you will be taking up the nhs space of someone who could really need it!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Do what you think is right, I'm sure lots of women lie about bleeding to get early scans, personally I would never do it, I'm lucky that my doctor always offers early scans. If you really cant wait why dont you get a private scan, I think the are about £65 and it will be money well spend to put your mind at rest.

Good Luck.xxx

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Even though you must be scared hun. I wouldn't as you willbe taking up a space that someone else might need. Imagine how you would have felt if you couldn't get a scan and something was wrong. Just because someone lied about haveing pains
xx

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I considered doing this, coz I was told I woulnd't get an early scan unless I had bleeding, even tho I'd had 8 m/cs, but in the end I just paid for a private one for 2 reasons!
1, i was worried that if I lied about it, karma would get me and I actually would start bleeding, and 2, like others have said, could have been taking away epu time from a woman who actually was bleeding!

 

[aob1013]

No, don't. You will be taking up space for people that need it.

Pay for a private scan, it's only fair.

 

[ginasgemz]

I don't know - this is a difficult question. It's not that easy to get a private scan -even if you pay for it - since for example, over here private places won't even allow you to have a private scan until you've had atleast one scan at your ob-gyn.
I think if I absolutely had no reason for an early scan other than being impatient and worried, I would definitely not lie about. However there's another side to the story, many of us have had history of pregnancy losses and unfortunately they won't start to pay closer attention to you until you've had 3+ losses, but most of us would rather not lose 3+ kids in order to just get proper care 4th time..I've had an ectopic pregnancy and I am scared to death that it will repeat, and I think it's ridiculous how they tell you that just wait and go to the ER if you have bleeding and severe pain. I mean, if I do, chances are I'm gonna lose my other tube/ovary too which means I will have no more chances to get pregnant and I would rather avoid an emergency surgery if at all possible, it'd be cheaper for everyone, if they had an early scan -as early as possible - to rule an ectopic out.
That being said I am holding out till my scan which is at 6w2d-6w3d (tomorrow), I've had spotting once and had some side pain on and off but it wasn't overly worrisome so I decided to wait unless it gets progressively worse (it didn't). If however I had it getting progressively worse, I can entirely imagine that I would've "lied" about my symptoms, saying that I am bleeding more than I am, or I have more pain than I do, just to make sure that they will get me in for sure. In other words, no, if I had no reason to worry, no history of losses, just "simply" worrying (which is also totally understandable) I would listen to my common sense and wait, if something's wrong it'll become obvious soon enough..but with history of problems and having worrisome or worsening problems, I probably would play my symptoms up a bit. I hope that makes sense. Good luck either way!

 

[Lucina]

I wouldnt do it as I would be worried I would jinx it. It could also make somebody that really needed it have to wait a bit longer as there is such a strain on resources. I know its tough though. Im currently worried as my clearblue test is showing me at only 1-2 weeks and should be further on than that which is what happened first time I miscarried and the waiting game is hell but its not worth compromising yourself over.

 

[Jellyt]

I had one at 7+6 purely because i'd had m/cs before and I just asked. I know not everywhere would do that but have you asked? To be honest, it only reassured me for a few days and I was a mess again up until my 12 week scan but if they won't do it and it would make you feel better then have a private scan hun. I wouldn't dare lie for fear of jynxing things but i'm terrrible for that sort of thing. Good luck x

 

[Drazic<3]

Personally, I don't think it's a good idea. You could be taking EPU time from someone who really needs it and they are already so busy. It's bad karma. I can totally understand how you feel, but jellyt is utterly right, the reassurance is only temporary and then you have all the stress until that 12 week hurdle. If you really want to, go private. Good luck, and do try not to stress, it's easier said than done but it won't help either of you

 

[Beanbabe]

I wouldn't do it but I can say that now cos my consultant has told me he wants an early scan. If I wasn't getting one I have to say I'd be tempted but afraid of jinxing it.

On the subject of wasting epu resources this is a true story. I was wrongly booked into the epu for a scan to check for "retained products" after i lost Matthew. I went along for my scan and the epu had an emergency before i arrived so everything was backed up. I took my seat and waited like everyone else. One of the staff came round asking had everyone booked in etc and sorry for the long delay. this woman started giving out loads about how she had to wait and she was in pain etc and made a real show of herself. She had no apt and had just walked in expecting to be seen (which they will do only they dont like it known that they will).

Anyway as we were waiting it turned out that motormouth didn't even know if she was pregnant or not. She had not tested. She just assumed she was cos she had no period for three months. She sat talking loudly to her friend about names for the baby the christening and the possible father etc so everyone knew everything about her. It turned out she was not pregnant, had not been pregnant and there was no sign of pregnancy at all. She had gallstones. Some women waited a week for an apt and she walked in with gallstones which she was going to name Dennis. It really is a true story. I was totally fuming cos I had to fight to get scanned that day because I wasn't pregnant. ( eh no shit sherlock I just had a mc )

 

[Mum2bewaiting]

^^^ god that is dreadful... although I did have to chuckle at the bit about gallstones named Dennis...

 

[Jem88]

Thanks for the replys, and nope i'm not gonna do it, i thought about it but then i guess even if i do get a scan i guess it could still go wrong before the 12 week mark and i'd feel bad for lying.. i'm just gonna wait it out and see what happens

 

[Drazic<3]

^ Time feels slow right now but I promise it will start to fly by. Be kind to yourself

 

[Boothh]

i wouldnt want to tempt fate if i were you i know how hard it is though, id suggest going to your gp and explaining how you feel even maybe worth mentioning you were thinking of lying to get a scan and he might see how desperate you are and get you an appointment! hope you sort things out xxxx