Sakura-chan
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Hi
I am new to this part but have been reading some other posts over the last couple of weeks.
My older son is almost 20 months old and in the last couple of months I have started to get a bit worried about his development.
He reached all of his milestones on time or early- sitting at 4 months, creeping at 5 months, full blown crawling by 7 months and walking properly by 11 months first word before age 1 and physical milestones have always been good- he is a fantastic climber and can run quite fast for his age.
I should point out the last 7 months have been a bit rough on us all- We were in my home country, Australia for 2 months, came back to Japan and then I gave birth to his baby brother 2 months early {when he was 12 months old} and came home when he was 15 months old {but we had stayed with the in-laws a bit during this time and I left him each day to go to the hospital for a couple of hours} Then March 11 we had a very big earthquake in Japan- it was a really stressful time for us all and we had numerous aftershocks that first month and still getting a few large ones now. There was threats of power cuts and more and in the end I took both boys to stay with a friend for a bit before we came back to Tokyo/Chiba.
We then moved house.
He has not dealt with his brother so well- I guess that was to be expected though considering his age. He had to grow up fast I guess.
In the last couple of months his language skills have gone backwards- he has always been a bit behind with language but at one stage he had about 12 words...since 16 months though he has gone back to having only 3 words. Currently his words are go, down and will say "ta" when prompted if I am giving him something. The words he has "lost" are all nouns- dog, ball, star, mama, daddy {he still say daa for daddy sometimes}
He is in a bilingual environment- his only Japanese word {at one stage} was Jiji which means grandfather.
He uses baby sign to sign for drink, eat, more, milk, car, train, sleep and other signs as well.
He gets overwhelmed over small things sometimes but other times they don`t bother him, will scratch at his own face or on other things when frustrated-like textured walls or floors, will look around at me or the room out of the corners of his eyes and lately insists on having his left shoe put on before his right shoe. Dislikes loud noises. Certain spaces he hates- like wheelchair toilets. He screams blue murder whenever I have to take them into one to change nappies or go to the toilet myself while we are out.
If his routine is broken- ie, I do not clean his teeth straight after our shower etc then he can meltdown quite badly.
He is socially okay. Makes eye contact, likes hugs, has no real sleep issues, not usually violent to others except to me, husband and his little brother. He is usually okay with strangers/new people. He points at things {I have heard not pointing can be a sign of ASD}
I mentioned my concerns to husband- he agrees something is a bit off but things it is situational. My MIL and my own mum thing he is too young to know if something is wrong- MIL thinks the speech is not delayed and is normal for his age.
I mentioned speech concerns to paed {ie, losing words} and he said if he is still communicating in other ways ie, pointing, signing, getting his needs across then no use worrying yet and we will see what he is like at 2.
Do mums always know though, deep down? Some have said it is just an adjustment period for him after the crazy year we have had so far. Others have said mum`s always know {this is usually from people I know in RL or online who have children on the spectrum}
Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself and son instead of just lurking.
Maybe someone can offer advice,
Thanks
I am new to this part but have been reading some other posts over the last couple of weeks.
My older son is almost 20 months old and in the last couple of months I have started to get a bit worried about his development.
He reached all of his milestones on time or early- sitting at 4 months, creeping at 5 months, full blown crawling by 7 months and walking properly by 11 months first word before age 1 and physical milestones have always been good- he is a fantastic climber and can run quite fast for his age.
I should point out the last 7 months have been a bit rough on us all- We were in my home country, Australia for 2 months, came back to Japan and then I gave birth to his baby brother 2 months early {when he was 12 months old} and came home when he was 15 months old {but we had stayed with the in-laws a bit during this time and I left him each day to go to the hospital for a couple of hours} Then March 11 we had a very big earthquake in Japan- it was a really stressful time for us all and we had numerous aftershocks that first month and still getting a few large ones now. There was threats of power cuts and more and in the end I took both boys to stay with a friend for a bit before we came back to Tokyo/Chiba.
We then moved house.
He has not dealt with his brother so well- I guess that was to be expected though considering his age. He had to grow up fast I guess.
In the last couple of months his language skills have gone backwards- he has always been a bit behind with language but at one stage he had about 12 words...since 16 months though he has gone back to having only 3 words. Currently his words are go, down and will say "ta" when prompted if I am giving him something. The words he has "lost" are all nouns- dog, ball, star, mama, daddy {he still say daa for daddy sometimes}
He is in a bilingual environment- his only Japanese word {at one stage} was Jiji which means grandfather.
He uses baby sign to sign for drink, eat, more, milk, car, train, sleep and other signs as well.
He gets overwhelmed over small things sometimes but other times they don`t bother him, will scratch at his own face or on other things when frustrated-like textured walls or floors, will look around at me or the room out of the corners of his eyes and lately insists on having his left shoe put on before his right shoe. Dislikes loud noises. Certain spaces he hates- like wheelchair toilets. He screams blue murder whenever I have to take them into one to change nappies or go to the toilet myself while we are out.
If his routine is broken- ie, I do not clean his teeth straight after our shower etc then he can meltdown quite badly.
He is socially okay. Makes eye contact, likes hugs, has no real sleep issues, not usually violent to others except to me, husband and his little brother. He is usually okay with strangers/new people. He points at things {I have heard not pointing can be a sign of ASD}
I mentioned my concerns to husband- he agrees something is a bit off but things it is situational. My MIL and my own mum thing he is too young to know if something is wrong- MIL thinks the speech is not delayed and is normal for his age.
I mentioned speech concerns to paed {ie, losing words} and he said if he is still communicating in other ways ie, pointing, signing, getting his needs across then no use worrying yet and we will see what he is like at 2.
Do mums always know though, deep down? Some have said it is just an adjustment period for him after the crazy year we have had so far. Others have said mum`s always know {this is usually from people I know in RL or online who have children on the spectrum}
Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself and son instead of just lurking.
Maybe someone can offer advice,
Thanks