Do you all have a normal sex life after BFP ??

[Natty_babez]

I am terrified of having sex with my other half I don't want to risk losing this baby and I've also heard it can irritate the cervix and cause slight bleeding which I don't think I could cope with even if it was just caused by that.

I'm contemplating trying to keep away from it till I have my 12 week scan which is another 6 weeks away if not more if I don't get my appointment around 12 weeks.

Is feeling like this completely normal ? When did everyone get intimate with their other halfs after getting pregnant after a miscarriage ?

Xxx

 

[hanni]

Totally normal to feel like this.
When we had our loss I bled a tiny bit after sex. Now we don't have sex until 12+ weeks and even then it's few and far between. I think we've done it twice this pregnancy so far.

 

[Natty_babez]

I feel so bad as my other half has a really high sex drive so he is going to struggle but I'm sure he understands why I don't want to its not that I'm not attracted to him or that I don't want I just want to give this little bean the best chance and if I can help it I don't want to have to go through what I did last year ever again

Xxx

 

[jessmke]

We had two losses in a row and then a sticky bean the following cycle (so I got pregnant 3 cycles in a row!). We didn't really have a normal sex life after getting a BFP, but that was more because of terrible morning sickness for my entire pregnancy. When we did have sex I had no bleeding or discomfort at all. I understand your worry, I am a runner and my two losses started the evening after I had been for an intense run. My doctor assured me that running can't cause a miscarriage, and since I run pretty much every day it was pretty understandable that running and miscarriage occurred on the same day, but I was still terrified to run after getting my third BFP. And that bean stuck. I am sure it was just a coincidence, but I didn't run until 14 weeks into my pregnancy.

 

[maryanne1987]

We wait till we are plus 12 weeks, but our doctor recommended it for us after a few losses. To be honest I'm glad as im too tired and achey to want to do anything anyway. I do miss being close with my partner in that way sometimes but neither of us want to risk the baby. We barely had sex all last pregnancy as we lost a daughter at 18 weeks due to my waters breaking early so we worry that we could cause it to happen again even though our consultant said it's safe. Id speak to your gp, I think they will give you honest advice for your situation and what's best for you, but ultimately it's what you feel comfortable with. Congrats on your pregnancy.

 

[lilesMom]

Even though Drs haven't said we need to abstain.
We haven't bd either
Like ye said if it caused bleeding,
It would just panic me.
Plus I'm too tired ��
Totally normal to feel like that hon xx

 

[tcinks]

I've been spotting since week 6 , so no BD for us either! Doctor says it's fine but I don't want to take any chances. My husband is very understanding.

 

[Lala77]

Full disclosure : my husband and I haven't had sex since the BFP and I'm due in 3 days. We have had close intimate moments with lots of laughs but no sex. After having 2 miscarriages and approaching 40 I just wasn't in the mood. We look forward to having a healthy sex life again. We openly talk about it with each other which is fun. I couldn't have handled it if something happened after sex. I'm afraid of the toll that would have ultimately had on our sex life.

 

[bubbles82]

I've had three losses and due to those me and DH both worry about having sex and don't risk it, even though we've been told it's fine and two of my losses still happened anyway even when we didn't have sex. I'm almost 12 weeks now and we did do the deed this week for the first time this pregnancy, I think we were both missing the closeness in that way and it was starting to feel a bit strange that it had been so long. I was so worried about seeing any bleeding especially as I've had two random bleeds at 6 and 8 weeks, but there wasn't any so it was fine. We're both still nervous though and I don't think it will be a regular thing.

 

[Rei]

I was terrified to have sex after a bfp, when I finally caved I started bleeding like I did when I had my miscarriage. Doctor said it was caused by something else, so we tried having sex again and I started spotting. It was then that I was diagnosed with slight placenta previa and was put on pelvic rest. Now that I am no longer on pelvic rest I am HUGE (late second tri), and just don't feel up to it. Then not having sex for a while then trying to do it again has made sex really uncomfortable. So no...I do not have a normal sex life after my bfp XD

 

[JemmaLouise]

Guess I'm the only one both OH and I have quite high sex drives. Despite having a loss, it doesn't put me off at all, sex didn't cause me to lose our angel so I'm not worried. We have scaled back how much we do it as obviously nausea and fatigue gets in the way so it's more every other day than everyday + some