Do you also sometimes get a bit annoyed with ladies with a OH?

[donegalfairy]

I do.
I see threads where they whine for nothing.
That they had to go to the store alone etc etc the list can be made long but I wont bother!

Anyone else getting annoyed at these ladies nagging?

 

[AppleBlossom]

I don't really see it as them whinging for nothing. I suppose when you're not used to being a single parent things like that don't seem trivial. The thing that does annoy me a bit is people (not necessarily on here, just in general) who complain about doing night feeds and things when their OH shares it with them because I never had any help from my ex with anything like that and I was expected to cook all the meals and do all the housework as well!

 

[xJG30]

It doesn't really bother me tbh.. There's more important things in life that you can worry about.

 

[frouphea]

I think we are all guilty about complaining about things that aren't important in the grand scheme of things.

It does seem a little harsh to get angry at those in relationships though, I think people are entitled to talk about their relationships, and the ups and downs.

 

[MissE007]

I don't really notice the threads but it annoys me when people I know do it. My friend is always complaining about her oh and has said loads of times things like "I know how you feel" because her boyfriend goes to work, comes home by 3pm and is sometimes "tired".

She doesn't understand being alone during the daytime because your oh has a job doesn't compare to being alone physically, emotionally and financially 24/7.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I think its a bit sad those that cant go anywhere without OH. People who moan when OH goes on a night out etc, but thats their problem not mine x

 

[Janidog]

I do.
I see threads where they whine for nothing.
That they had to go to the store alone etc etc the list can be made long but I wont bother!

Anyone else getting annoyed at these ladies nagging?

Eer I think we have the right to vent our annoyance at our OH if we like, that is what the forum is for - you're using it to vent your frustrations then why can't we??????

 

[Linz88]

it wouldnt say it annoys me but i think damnnnn u dnt no how lucky you are..
so what your oh told his friends..
so what your oh stayed out an hour later

 

[Jetters]

It doesn't make me angry or annoyed, but it does make me sad! I HATE feeling so alone, I'm overwhelmed with panic at how i'll cope on my own and just wish they wouldn't take it for granted so much.

What DOES make me angry is how every fricking pregnancy book/leaflet/mag I read refers to partners CONSTANTLY. Let your partner do this, take into account his feelings, yadda yadda. Never f-all about going it alone!

 

[pinkflamingo]

I do.
I see threads where they whine for nothing.
That they had to go to the store alone etc etc the list can be made long but I wont bother!

Anyone else getting annoyed at these ladies nagging?

Eer I think we have the right to vent our annoyance at our OH if we like, that is what the forum is for - you're using it to vent your frustrations then why can't we??????

Agreed!

 

[littlekitten8]

I don't get annoyed with them. I think they have as much right to vent as we do. But I don't think people understand what its truly like to be alone unless you actually are a single parent. What does confuse me slightly, and this isn't a dig btw, is when people with partners come to the single parents part of the forum to defend themselves. OP was just venting same as you guys do. I'm not sure there was any need really for the comments about it not being fair.

 

[suzanne108]

Littlekitten I was thinking the same thing

 

[littlekitten8]

Lol glad its not just me being a hormonal biaaatch lol.

 

[pinkflamingo]

When I read the OP it just seemed a bit personal to us married/attached ladies on this site. When we are 'having a rant' it's about our OH's and not directed at anyone here. I appreciate that it must be incredibly difficult at times to be a single mum, and am sure that you all do a wonderful job. Sorry to have gatecrashed your thread, but I am sure that if someone had started a thread in the Relationships section along the same lines but about single mums, then a few of you may have commented on it too?

Didn't mean to ruffle any feathers and hope I haven't.

PF x

 

[Pyrrhic]

I do.
I see threads where they whine for nothing.
That they had to go to the store alone etc etc the list can be made long but I wont bother!

Anyone else getting annoyed at these ladies nagging?

Not, not at all because none of us have any idea what it is like to be in their lives.

The problem with having an unsupportive OH, is that because you are there you feel like you should be able to rely on them and then when they let you down it hurts all the more. At least being on my own I know it's just me, and I don't rely on anyone but myself.

 

[missmisty4]

It doesn't make me angry or annoyed, but it does make me sad! I HATE feeling so alone, I'm overwhelmed with panic at how i'll cope on my own and just wish they wouldn't take it for granted so much.

What DOES make me angry is how every fricking pregnancy book/leaflet/mag I read refers to partners CONSTANTLY. Let your partner do this, take into account his feelings, yadda yadda. Never f-all about going it alone!

I completely agree!!! Omg! I put down my pregnancy book the other day bc I was so frickin pissed! Not everyone who is pregnant is with someone! However I went online and there are TONS and I mean TONS of single mom books out there! I just ordered one the other day I cant' wait to get it! Even books on coping with pregnancy alone! I recommend to look into that for any and all of you ladies out there!!

 

[suzanne108]

When I read the OP it just seemed a bit personal to us married/attached ladies on this site. When we are 'having a rant' it's about our OH's and not directed at anyone here. I appreciate that it must be incredibly difficult at times to be a single mum, and am sure that you all do a wonderful job. Sorry to have gatecrashed your thread, but I am sure that if someone had started a thread in the Relationships section along the same lines but about single mums, then a few of you may have commented on it too?

Didn't mean to ruffle any feathers and hope I haven't.

PF x

I never even look at the relationship section to be honest!

I'm sure the OP never meant any harm. I agree with her that sometimes you see threads where OHs are being complained about and I do sometimes think "count yourself lucky" especially if I'm having or have had a particular bad day. We all get annoyed by little things sometimes and the OP was just letting off steam at a place where she thought someone might understand

Don't get me wrong, I know for a fact that if I had an unhelpful OH to look after aswell as a baby I would definitely be complaining!!! Having someone there who should be helping but isn't must be bloody annoying!

I know people appreciate its hard being a single parent but I think its difficult to pass comment unless you have been or are in that situation.

And I don't mean to ruffle any feathers either x

 

[Janidog]

I don't get annoyed with them. I think they have as much right to vent as we do. But I don't think people understand what its truly like to be alone unless you actually are a single parent. What does confuse me slightly, and this isn't a dig btw, is when people with partners come to the single parents part of the forum to defend themselves. OP was just venting same as you guys do. I'm not sure there was any need really for the comments about it not being fair.

It would be the same if i was in the BF section moaning about the women in the FF sections, they would want to defend themselves, would they not?????

 

[littlekitten8]

Yeah I know what you mean but I just don't understand why people who are not single parents come and post in the single parents section. It is by no means easy being a single parent and this is the only place we have to rant where other people in the same boat understand what we are going through. Its not as if we think you have it easy. Believe me I have been there with the unsupportive partner. Hence now being a single mother.

 

[Janidog]

I post if i feel i can add something, but in future i will keep my butt out of the single forum