Do you ever think....

[Sambatiki]

That the tears should have dried up by now??? Im now nearly 5 months post MC and I still for the baby we lost. Does anyone else wonder when the heartache ends??

 

[NickyT75]

its not fair is it hun? xx

 

[Sambatiki]

Nicky - I really admire your strength, to have gone through what you have and still have a smile on your face. Its just that when you think you are getting over it all, it comes back and kicks you in the proverbial balls. I dont know why I was so upset last night it seemingly came from no-where. I suppose I just have to accept that there will be days like these.

 

[buffycat]

i wish i knew too.......there are some days that i really struggle to get through....and even things like wihen DH is away (like tonight) i get all lonely and sombersome...

and then there are the small comments from my parents....oh this will be your last big holiday, next year you will be off to devon with little people.....

oh how i envy the idea of that.....

 

[Sambatiki]

Im 'lucky' as Im not married I dont have to put up with those comments. But it must break your heart when they say things like that.

I know that you can't put a date on the end of grief as I suppose it never goes away just easier to deal with.

Are you both finding it harder now you are TTC??

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

the tears never stop... i still cry now. i pine for all my angels. it doesnt help i have constant reminders esp with the tests.
one day they might ease off

it never gets easier.
xxx

 

[maccy]

Big hun know how u feel, and if your anything like me I keep thinking I should be so many weeks now etc etc. I don't think the pain will ever go away, but it's got to get easier think it'll be bit better when we eventually get our

I'm always here hun if you ever need a chat!

 

[Sambatiki]

Thanks maccy, equally Im here for you too.

 

[WelshGirl]

We lost our first child in January this year - he was Stillborn at 28 weeks, and I still cry for him almost everyday....

I wish I knew when that would end, sometimes it feels like it will never get any easier

 

[Sambatiki]

oooooh welsh girl. I have no idea how you must be feeling. Always here to talk to if you need too.

 

[todteach]

I feel your pain too.

I really thought that I was 'better', my missed miscarriage happened in May of this year. I was feeling like myself again, hoping to be able to conceive soon. Well, the doctor put the stop to that. I need to wait until my catscan in October. Hopefully, I'll be able to be pregnant before my EDD. It just hurts so much. Now I am completly obsessed with pregnancy, and am surrounded by it everyday.

I'm seeing a lot of the girls at work come in with their newborns and it is tearing me up inside. I actually had to discretely leave the room when one of our daycare parents came in with their newborn last week. I work at a daycare with more than fifty different families, majority of whom are expecting again. Sometimes I feel as though, I don't want to work with children anymore.

One of my coworkers (who i love dearly) is due just two weeks before I was suppose to have my baby. Everytime I see her (several times a day) it reminds me of how i'm suppose to look and feel. We're planning her baby shower, I honestley don't think that i'll be able to attend. Selfish of me, isn't it.

Sorry to ramble on here hun. I just needed to tell you that we're all thinking of you. If crying helps, let it flow.

 

[Sambatiki]

Todteach - Its good to ramble sometimes. Ppl expect us to just get on with it. Just because we might not have carried our babies for very long doesnt mean to say we miss them any less.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

it doesnt get easier... iv done it 4 times and it doesnt make it any easier on the emotions..

 

[Hopeful3]

Hi all, there are always so many reminders around us including dates like anniversarys. They will always be special and always be missed. Just having had my second m/c you start to wonder why this happens. It isn't fair, I feel like another bit of me has died. I'm determind to try to stay positive though in the hope that eventually I will get the bundle of joy I want, and hope you all do too.

 

[pinkpill]

I'm really new here (this is only my 2nd post) but I wanted to offer you some hope and share my story.

Its 12 years since I lost my angel and I still think of him and what might have been, it never really goes away but it really does ease and the pain does lessen over time.

I found it difficult again when I became pregnant 5 years after and again 3 more years later and every so often there is something that will send me into a spin but they are few and far between these days. I know now that I'm allowed to think of him and still be happy with the children that I have had since I lost him.

It takes time, it is hard and you will never forget but eventually you will be able to live with the sadness. Hang in there.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

<------- 7 months post mc



I don't think it'll ever end, I just think eventually I'll cope better. Maybe.

 

[LeaArr]

 

[Zoya]

Hi dear........so sorry for your loss......I think we can never forget our angels but we can't get them back......time is a big healer........just think about your next baby..............I know how difficult it is to see all ladies with ......makes me also cry.........
I just wish that you feel good soon.....
sending u lots of

 

[Logiebear]

I have lost 2 babies this year and am just about to make it to 12 weeks this time. The pain of the losses hasn;t gone away for me and I don't think it ever will. You just learn to cope with it. I still wonder about my first as I would have had the baby this month and my second due date was November. I am now due in March but this baby is not a replacement for the lost ones but another littel bundle brought about by our love for each other and other children. I will always wonder what if xxx

 

[Sambatiki]

The last few days for me have been good and once again I feel positive about TTC etc etc etc But I know that probably soon something will happen to make me upset again but I suppose we have to take each day as it comes.

Big to those that need them