do you get along with fob?

[lizardbreath]

As title says does anyone get along with fob I'm tired of people saying I can't get along with him its not fair to the girls. Wtf ??? I'm sure the girls would rather us get along if we can't be together. We get along really well actually we have kept it out of court we still do things together with the girls he will come help put. Them to bed and i do the same at his.place. so I was just wondering if anyone else still gets along with fob or if I'm just crazy.

 

[lemontree12]

I agree! I would love to get along with fob! And always thought before being in my situation I would Put my feelings second! But what fob has done to me in the last 6months was disgusting and I never thought it e possible to be treated so badly! I'm not one to argue with people nor hold a grudge and In our relationship I would of said sorry first to keep the piece! But when I talk to him now I break down because of the sheer hurt and anger of what that person has done to me and my unborn baby! (it's that bad apparently his family and friends have sided with me)

So yes I think people can be friends with fob but situations effect this also! this is something I doubt me and my fob will be! Mayb in time if he actually decides to be in our daughters life we can be civil but I will never be organising a day out to the zoo with him!

I'm glad uv got a good relationship with fob x

 

[Natsku]

I try to get on with him, for Maria's sake, but we argue pretty much every time he drops Maria off/picks her up

 

[jemmie1994]

Of a fashion, I trust him about as far as i could throw him but things are 'civil' between us mostly cos i cba arguing with him i'm not the one missing out anymore

 

[Laura2919]

It is on and off for us. We argue about the same things we argued about when we were together because we parent completely different and we don't see eye to eye on most things but then we have a day like today where he dropped the girls back and we got on ok, he came in to say bye to the girls after putting the car seats back in my car and it felt good not to be at war with him, he's happy with his life and I am happy with mine and it was nice.
It was Twix's birthday today (the dog we got together) I think when he left he came in to see her as she was in my living room, she still greets him like he is her owner.

He even showed me what this little knob on my door did I had no clue!

I'd prefer to get on with him than not.

 

[Ceejay8]

Just ignore them sweetie! Im sure you're doing your best. It can't be easy for single Mums. x

 

[dustbunny]

I think the concept of getting on with FOB is brilliant, fantastic though but as lemontree said it depends also on the situation as a whole. I can't forgive FOB for the things he has done and said to me as the majority have had a knock on effect with LO during pregnancy and after having her he has held the things he has bought [apparently bought!] to ransom which is not hurting me at all but LO [although she wants for nothing!]. Also he has never once genuinely apologised for anything.

Although I dont understand why people are telling you that you cant get on with FOB because it will affect the girls... do what makes you happy and is best for your situation.

 

[Ceejay123]

It must be hard - But if you can do it it'll be great for your LO. x

 

[tammii1981]

It's very new for me as we only just broke up recently, however as it was just because we didn't really get along together whilst we were a couple, we are still best friends. I realise that many of you probably are saying 'yeah we were too at the beginning' so I'm aware this might be more difficult as time goes on, but we want ruby to still have 2 parents who love each other, even if it is just as friends. X

 

[Ceejay123]

It's very new for me as we only just broke up recently, however as it was just because we didn't really get along together whilst we were a couple, we are still best friends. I realise that many of you probably are saying 'yeah we were too at the beginning' so I'm aware this might be more difficult as time goes on, but we want ruby to still have 2 parents who love each other, even if it is just as friends. X

That's very sweet I really hope it works out for you guys. x

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Yeah, I do for Lucas' sake. No kid wants to grow up with parents who bicker and fight. I don't like him and he doesn't like me but we still banter when he picks up Lucas and we're as friendly as we ever were with each other. He came to Lucas' birthday party last month and now and then we take him out somewhere together.

 

[lizardbreath]

It's very new for me as we only just broke up recently, however as it was just because we didn't really get along together whilst we were a couple, we are still best friends. I realise that many of you probably are saying 'yeah we were too at the beginning' so I'm aware this might be more difficult as time goes on, but we want ruby to still have 2 parents who love each other, even if it is just as friends. X

That's how me and fob are I called him the other night crying and he came over just to talk to me. As a couple we sucked we were truly a horrible couple but as friends were great together I still love him and he still loves,me but its a different love we feel for each other now and what we have works. All the best to you I hope it works

 

[tammii1981]

It's very new for me as we only just broke up recently, however as it was just because we didn't really get along together whilst we were a couple, we are still best friends. I realise that many of you probably are saying 'yeah we were too at the beginning' so I'm aware this might be more difficult as time goes on, but we want ruby to still have 2 parents who love each other, even if it is just as friends. X

That's very sweet I really hope it works out for you guys. x

Thank you! I hope it does too, except him being extremely stubborn possibly means it won't. Giving him some space at the min. It's very hard though when you can see what a waste it all is!