I also have doubts. I have no idea how we're going to manage without family close. We're pretty busy people, but I have no idea how to fix that. It's not like we can convince people to move here. My parents are not alive and my DH's moms are not available. I trust that we will just make room and make it happen somehow. Kinda superficial, but I am also really worried about keeping my house clean. I actually lose it when my space is not clean. I make due with DH because he doesn't like to clean up and I'm a softy and try not to nag. I love him, but I am hoping that a LO kicks him out of being lazy. But I'm worried that if it doesn't I'm going to lose my mind. This may sound superficial, but I'm afraid I will turn into a shrew.
Do you get doubts?
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I'm another who has doubts now and again about our ability to cope with it all etc, but I know me and hubster will make it work and they will grow up very muchly loved and we will do everything we can for them as it is something we do very much want.
But we also have full support of family and friends to help us if we ever need it.
But we also have full support of family and friends to help us if we ever need it.
@ jellyjots. I wish. My mom was retired and would have come to stay with us whenever we needed her to. DH's family is just not able to do that so this will be interesting. But I trust it will work out somehow. This is one reason DH is reluctant. Family is very important to both of us and we'd like our kids to be as close to our families as we were. But I guess we can't wait forever for that day to get here. Oh...if only I were Camille Grammer or Diana Ross and could hire 2 nannies for each of my children. LOL. That of course is in addition to the multiple housekeepers, cooks, and groundskeepers. LOL
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lol, wouldnt we all like help like that. i worry more about hubster being posted away and being left to manage everything on my own. it's not too bad at the moment but at the end of next year he is available for ooa deployment again, which will make it his 4th since we got together 6 years ago. dont think he has ever been at home a whole year yet with small unit deployments in the uk too and we still havent lived together properly since we got married over 18 months ago thanks to him going through more training to become an officer. all for a good cause though and im hopeful it will all be sorted in the next few months. just got my fx for a good posting in september. im sure when baby does arrive the families will make every effort to see you as much as possible.
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Argh the doubts are back today. I'm panicky and feel that I should take my pill. It really is a roller coaster of emotions this ttc business. I know it's just because it's overwhelming and it will pass as it does come and go, but when I feel it it's hard to ignore. It's such a change of your life.
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Ferens06: I know exactly what you mean! This ttc business is truly scary! Every time that my dh and I start talking about ttc and dtd once without protection we end up getting just a little freaked out! LOL we both want one, change is always scary. My dh is international so he is not home much, we just moved out of state so no family close by either. I am not going to keep worrying about stuff like that because I know if I do I will never have a kid. We will never be fully prepared, but we will always do what's necessary! GL ladies and keep you head up!!!
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^^^ Thank you, it's nice to know I'm not alone and that it IS normal. I have good days and bad days as I'm sure I will when I'm actually pregnant, but I know I will always feel like this, because as you said ShanMorgan97- change is scary!!! And I'm not a great lover of change as I've experienced it far too often in my life.
OH was actually saying how he was thinking about it most of the day at work on Friday and how weird the thought of it all is. So I know we're in it together but I don't like to talk to him about it too much as I want to keep all pressure off us! I even get scared when I get a BFP in my dreams.....LOL x
OH was actually saying how he was thinking about it most of the day at work on Friday and how weird the thought of it all is. So I know we're in it together but I don't like to talk to him about it too much as I want to keep all pressure off us! I even get scared when I get a BFP in my dreams.....LOL x
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My dh has always wanted a baby...but after we actually decided to ttc #1 all of the sudden the pressure is on for him(he told me that)LOL, As for me I am ecstatic!!! I do get a lil nervous like I stated earlier, but I look at that as being normal.
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i have doubts if im doing the right thing,one minute im like yes i can do this and the next its theres no way i can do it.i really do want kids its the changes that will happen that scare me.
im a big worrier,i worry how we will cope with money etc the strain on our relationship and we both LOVE our sleep and are v.grumpy without it.tbh ive wanted a lo for a few years and have always put it of due to my worries,family problems but no more,were just going to go for it.
im a big worrier,i worry how we will cope with money etc the strain on our relationship and we both LOVE our sleep and are v.grumpy without it.tbh ive wanted a lo for a few years and have always put it of due to my worries,family problems but no more,were just going to go for it.
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Everytime it doesnt work i think god is trying to tell me something. Me and df are young and we know it will be tight but this is what we want. My mother did it by herself i know we can do it together. We want to star our family now and we dont care what anyone else thinks. The doubt does suck tho. All in all it will happen when its supposed to. (that wont stop us from trying tho lol) baby dust ladies. 
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I have known since I've had my first babydoll that I wanted to be a mommy! Sometimes I think I should wait until I'm super financially stable but then I sit there and think "If you wait until everything is perfect it never will be!" Or that I don't know enough yet and that I should read more books! I've read every book in my local library on parenting.. So we continue on with hearts full of love, excitement, ready for whatever the universe is going to throw our way! (p.s. universe- can you throw a little quicker?!?)
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Ditto, that's what me and my OH keep doubting. He thinks that one of us may have a problem: I'll know soon enough as I have a dr's appointment on Wednesday
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Same with me hun this is my last actual TTC if AF shows up then im going straight to the specialist for more testing its so frustrating but what can you do..we have to keep that hope alive and hope for the best i hope you get your
soon hun i know that precious baby is well worth all this
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Same with me hun this is my last actual TTC if AF shows up then im going straight to the specialist for more testing its so frustrating but what can you do..we have to keep that hope alive and hope for the best i hope you get your
I hope you get yours soon too hun. It'll be more than worth it when we get to hold that little baby in our arms for the first time - that's what keeps me positive
I get doubts, but mine are either about financial things or about never actually getting a BFP. Sometimes I worry about the lack of sleep too, but I'm kind of counting on those post-partum hormones to get me through that. Mostly I worry that the money will cause problems or that we'll be TTC for years and years...
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I feel like I'm in the same boat as well! All I've ever seen were blank htp's with one line - I'm getting to the point where I can't even imagine having 2 lines show up
So hubby and I went to a baby shower and tonight he says, "are you ready to have my baby yet?" (Sweet huh? since we've been reconsidering TTC lately). No sooner than we finish dinner and go to the lake to relax, do we run into a friend taking a "break" from his kids. He of course gives DH a million reasons we should wait as long as possible. Now he wants to wait until we're 40...are you kidding me? If I thought he was really serious, I'd be in tears. But now I just know it's him being erratic.
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I think the longer you leave it, the more you won't be used to it! As you are used to living life as you want it for longer, so a baby would be harder x
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