Do you have a life outside of Lo's???

[jaytee146]

I was never really the go out type prior to having lo but now I notice that I sometimes lone for adult conversation... I observed some parents go away from there lo's for a weekend with no problem. I have to make myself schedule a girls' night out with friends and it's few and far between. Now that I'm a mother my circle of friends have changed. The young ladies my age are all about partying, and wearing the lastest fashions, and that's not me.

So I guess what i'm saying is I don't have much of a life LOL! I'm even actually dating a guy and he has two jobs so it works out only seeing him during lunch and occassionally we'll meet for dinner or hang out at night.

I kinda feel guilty about not being with lo in my free time as I work 40 hours a week and that's going to change with the new pt job I have so, I just always have her. I guess I wouldn't feel so bad if her father would step up and I knew she was with her other parent who loved and cared for her as much as I did, but that's not my reality and I fully accept that for all its pros and cons.

Do you have a life?

 

[bbkf]

I have ZERO life I dont even have a job and LOs dad is useless at the moment so he never has her and I dont feel comfortable leaving her with anyone else so my life is literally me and her 24/7. I wouldn't really wanna go clubbing or something so if I did have free time im not sure what id actually do!

 

[Becky61]

Im with my LO 24/7... Except for 3 hours on a saturday morning when hes with his dad. I fill this time up with chores and a (well deserved in my opinion) soak in the bath.
Im unemployed. And all my friends are married mummys.
When LO comes off the boob, and goes to FOB for the weekends, i dont quite know what im gonna do!
At the moment, i wouldnt have it any other way. But i guess if, like you, i worked all hours, and had a boyfriend, i would crave a bit of "me" time.
These days are very precious though, and currently, im very happy with "my life with LO".
X

 

[Mummy1995]

Not really. But to be honest it doesn't bother me! They won't be small for very long so I'm gonna enjoy it while I can! I do understand what you mean though! Maybe go to some local mum and baby groups? Might meet women in your position xx

 

[babycrazy1706]

i go to the gym some evenings or over to friends houses every few months for a dvd/takeaway etc but tbh i prefer to be with Lo anyway and my best friend has a baby too so we meet up most days with the kids and that is my adult interaction xx

 

[Jennaxo]

Yes, I could probably say I have quite a balanced life, I'm at work 4 days a week at most, the other days I'm at home with Caleb so we still get our quality time. But I still set aside time to make plans and go out with friends over an evening even if its only once a month or so it's better than nothing. I love spending time with my LO but there's only so many evenings you can spend watching Peppa pig or singing nursery rhymes before you realise you need to have an adult conversation.

 

[babycrazy1706]

agree on that one!!

 

[moomin_troll]

For awhile I had no life other then my boys.
But no I love going out, not lucky enough to get a weekend away lol
I now have a boyfriend, and he works weird hours, so his free time I spend with him or him and my boys.
Ur a working single mum, which isn't easy at all! Go u!
I think it's fine u want to spend time with the guy ur dating, we aren't just mothers, we are women too

 

[daneuse27]

Im about to start full time school, up until now I've stayed at home with LO all year. I honestly enjoyed it. The odd time I left her with my mom so I could grab food with a friend but it was a rare occurrence. Enjoy it while they're little. The older they get, the more you and them begin to lead your own separate lives.

 

[Natsku]

I do. Every thursday I go to my poker night, talk about anything except for babies/children and have a good laugh - keeps me sane!
And sometimes when Maria is at her dad's I go to the city to party with my friends.

 

[Boomerslady]

I have no friends which generally equals no life!! Ben goes to his dads 3 days a week and I did work which gave me that adult interaction but I left my job due to stress/bullying and it's left me feeling really depressed tbh. I spend those 3 days indoors alone. If I go out I spend money and I don't have any spare so try to avoid it! I've lost all motivation. I just sit and apply for jobs or watch YouTube! I have a group of girls I went to school with and I very rarely see them, prob 4 times a year so that's my social life!! It sucks!

 

[jaytee146]

Im about to start full time school, up until now I've stayed at home with LO all year. I honestly enjoyed it. The odd time I left her with my mom so I could grab food with a friend but it was a rare occurrence. Enjoy it while they're little. The older they get, the more you and them begin to lead your own separate lives.

I will be starting back to nursing school soon at night so I'll be working during the day and school at night for a year or so

 

[jaytee146]

I actually started a play group, and the same week I scheduled to have everyone meet ladies I was called to work a second job, the extra income will help with lo's birthday in a few weeks as well as offset the cost of daycare. I hope to have the group meet very soon though

 

[daneuse27]

Im about to start full time school, up until now I've stayed at home with LO all year. I honestly enjoyed it. The odd time I left her with my mom so I could grab food with a friend but it was a rare occurrence. Enjoy it while they're little. The older they get, the more you and them begin to lead your own separate lives.

I will be starting back to nursing school soon at night so I'll be working during the day and school at night for a year or so

Sounds very busy for sure! But its only temporary and you'll be better off in the long run

 

[mummy_ellie09]

None at all. Even when I do go out with friends(during the day), LO is with me. I used to go out a couple times to the cinema when he was a bit younger and I was living with my parents as they had him for me, but these days I do nothing

 

[Quackquack99]

I do and think I will. It has been over a month since we broke and on saturday it was the first time he had her overnight, so instead of staying in and moping, I went out with friends. If I am being honest, I loved having that time away with my friends.