Do you tell your baby 'No!'?

[pinklizzy]

I love Ivy!
We do say no but usually with an explanation, say if she pulls my hair I'll say 'No, that hurts Mummy' etc. At the moment she just blows raspberries at me!

 

[charlotte-xo]

she is to bloomin cute. shes deffinately going to break a few hearts.

Aww thank you! I'm not too sure though, she's not too great at playing hard to get. Her new thing seems to be pulling little boys pants down...I'm not even kidding she did it twice in the playground today Sorry for hijacking your thread OP!

 

[xnmd1]

i tell him no. he doesn't know what it means now, but how will he ever know what it means if it is never said to him?!

 

[iceylou]

i tell nicole NO if shes at the tv or cables. she knows to move away and most times she does and her new thing is to shake her head

 

[mystika802]

sure do, I say NO a million times a day lol

 

[kellis]

I tell Georgia a stern no when she goes near the fire guard, however, it appears to be the funniest word she has ever heard

 

[Lyndz]

No is all i seem to say these days

but no, you're not mean, Bella understands what no means now, she'll go upto things she shouldn't have and say "nooooooooo" (not that it stops her!) TBH i tend to take no notice of what people with no kids think of my parenting, they'll understand when they eventually have kids, i no i had alot of preconcieved ideas on what sort of parent i would be before i had her and in reality i'm nothing like it!

 

[kiraelliott]

Welllll I think you've got enough reassurance here! lol

Babies respond well to tone of voice, so I guess as long as you keep consistent with tone and word with whatever situation they'll learn eventually.

I don't mind LO playing with my hair or grabbing my skin as it's them learning to a degree, but there is a limit, so I always issue a 'careful!'

xxx

 

[stacey&bump]

my little one is 9 months and when shes being bold i simple point and say no and she now backs away from what shes doing as she knows its bold. I dont roar or screm it i simply say it in a different tone and she knows shes being told off. Youre her mother and you know whats right dont let your friend tell you how you should treat your child especially when she doesnt have one of her own x

 

[charli87]

we use it with chloe, as long as its not done in a shouting way i dont see the problem wait until she has her own children it will all change then

 

[sjminimac]

i try not to. Charlie does respond very well to 'charlie roberts, thats not for charlies, come away please' - but we reserve NO for if he goes for something dangerous which is very very rare. There is psychological research to back up that saying no too often is derogatory, but i don't know a lot about it this is just something me and my husband automatically agreed on.

 

[thedog]

I say no, he crawls over to the plug sockets so i say no thats very dangerous and pull him away, he gets all sobby though so i cuddle him!

btw i don't say it loudly or anything, he must just realise no means he shouldn't do something!

 

[Seity]

Until he was 9 months we didn't because I didn't feel he was ready to understand it before then. Once he was 9 months we felt it was time to start introducing gentle discipline. In this case "No" and redirecting his attention when he was trying to get to things that were dangerous or he could damage (and that couldn't be put out of reach, like electronics). Once he understood that, we moved on to using key phrases. "Not for Gabriel" and "Hands off" Those two are very good because they are positive phrases. As opposed to "Don't touch" which ends in the word 'touch' reinforcing the behavior you don't want vs 'off' the behavior you do want <- (It's a psychology thing)

 

[RileysMummy]

What!? i tell Millie no, like someone said you teach them other words so why not no? how else are they going to learn that they cant do certain things? xx

 

[Wriggley]

I dont see anything wrong will starting to use no that young

We say 'not for coi coi' most of the time but thats only so we can save no for extreme cases like if he went for something really dangerous

 

[bellablue]

not yet but sure will teach her no when shes ready

 

[Bingo]

My LO is nine months and understands 'no'.

 

[Emzywemzy]

I usually say "No, not for Holly" and move her or the object away but say "NO!" if she is going for something dangerous/that will hurt her. She understands as well now at 10 months. If I say "No, not for Holly" she will hesitate but sometimes do it anyway, whereas if I say NO! in a stern voice if she is going to hurt herself, then she stops in her tracks and 9 times out of 10 doesn't do it. I think it is very important for them to learn the word no! x

 

[tu123]

Funny you should start this thread OP as i have been thinking about it alot. Last week "no" just came out. She stopped hitting the socket, looked at me and i am sure she knew what it meant. I would not say she understands at just 8 mths but i think the low tone and confident "no" sounded different to the usual coos i make at her!

I had never actually thought about discipline until LO became more mobile and madly vocal over the last few weeks. I thought it would be something along 18mths but now i am starting to think differently. She is only 8 mths but her perception of body language and tone is far better than ours!

It is tricky. I do not want to give her a negative outlook on life but i want her to respect herself and others.

Anyone have any good books?

 

[emilyjade]

i said no to my son when he was young and hes fine?!