Does anybody else feel completly useless??

[Heather.78]

I feel so useless at the moment normally(when not pregnant) my house is really tidy my husbands dinner is on the table everything is done and organized but since becoming pregnant or at least the last few weeks my house is a shambles my poor husband is making his own tea im sleeping all the time and have no energy to do anything sorry if im having a bit of a moan I just feel if i cant do anything now how are the next 6 months gonna go there is so much to be done to prepare and no energy to do it with.

P.S I also have a cold which is why im extra moany

 

[leeanne]

My motivation sucks and I am always tired. But I have to ignore it all as I have other LO's mouths to feed, bring to school, etc. No rest for me

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'm like that still! my oh is getting a bit fed up i think! I'm always tired and the place is always a mess but I can never be bothered tidying cause all I wanna do is curl up in bed and watch tv lol

 

[Vickie]

It really does start getting better (at least a little bit) in the second trimester. My DH had to cook his own meals the entire first trimester because of my tiredness and nausea. Hope you feel better soon

 

[kelly2903]

ohhhh honey. i felt the exact same. you will get that burst of energy soon. and you'll start nesting all over again waiting for your arrival. its just a big change to your body. you are producing extra evrything of course you cant be bothered but you will be able to soon. i was tired and lazy in the beg. but now i upset my self trying to get everything done he he he he you'll be ok honey big hug from me

 

[cupcake]

oh i posted like this a few times, i hated those feelings my
dh literally did everything for 3 full months. it felt like ages, i never could go in the kitchen, could barely do anything, there was always washing and no food and mess. it was awful and i totally sympathise. i also am one of those woman who like to have their mans supper ready. all i can say is it took me a while but i had to come to terms with reality and that was im pregnant and things change. if you can afford it, gets some help for a couple of months until you feel better. if not start buying food that your dh can prepare easily like microwave meals or frozen stuff. it gets better and you will be able to do more soon.

 

[Ann-Marie]

I am so there with you all on this... and I feel soo guilty. It annoys me how much DH goes on at me though, like I wanna feel like this !!! Can't seem to get any motivation to do anything, and if I even turn the cooker on, the smell of it makes me feel really ill. ANd I can't just sleep when I want with Ethan - 2, and Lewis - 5 @ school. It actually feels like depression

 

[cparks1]

I totally understand where you are coming from. My first trimester I didn't cook a thing. So many things bothered me, especially smells. I was very picky on what I could eat and I slept a lot (which, I still sleep a lot). NOw that I am in my 2nd trimester, I can get more accomplished. I'm a tidy person myself and our house just wasn't up to my standards, but I had to get over it. My husband is pretty lazy when it comes to housework so it all depends on me. I get more things done now, but they come in spurts. I'm still sleeping a lot (hopefully that ends soon). I'm patiently awaiting that "nesting period".

My husband complains that I am always tired and sleeping, but he gets over it. I always tell him, you try being pregnant and see how you feel, lol!!! Men couldn't handle being a woman, behind all the masculine features, they are just big sissy's.

 

[anita665]

I was the same. I used to keep my flat spotless and OH never had to do anything but as soon as I got pregnant I was always too tired or ill. OH actually wasn't very understanding about the mess and was always having a go at me.

Since I've gotten over that now the house work has improved ever so slightly but things are still really messy. I guess I've just become lazy. That and OH is always around to mess things up again strait away now.

 

[maddiwatts19]

I totally agree! I have no energy and all i want to do all day is sleep!. I haf 13 hours sleep last night, and i still feel so tired!!.

 

[charlie07]

Sunday was the wort day so far. Didn't get off the sette all day, except for running to the loo!! No chance of other half cooking though!! Thing is, if I don't cook, he'll just grab something. On Sunday though, he asked if I wanted anything. I said toast with just butter. Blesshim, I was so chuffed. Next thing there is a ham and cheese toasty in front of me. Like a selfish bitch I wanted to cry. I wanted toast!!!!!!! Anyway, I was so apologetic, he ate the toasty and made me lie down and made me toast. Lovely. I felt awful though, how could I react like that bless him.

Fortunatelt, my better half is very house proud and hoovers and cleans all the time. So I guess I can't really moan about him not cooking. I find it hard to cook when the food makes me want to hurl.