Does anyone else feel like this??

[lou_w34]

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[tinkabells]

Oh i had FOB baby saying that to me, if i needed anything let him know he'll give me the money etcm, but i wouldnt take anything off him anyway, incase he through it back in my face, and now we have no contact with each other anyway xxx

 

[McLovin]

Hi'ya Lou. My FOB is living with me, only because his parents and a few mates of his knew I was pregnant and he didn't want to be judged - I think some of his mates actually think we are together as a couple. Mine is different I guess because he is paying for half of everything that the baby needs, although he is tryin to make me go back to work 6 weeks after our baby boy is born.... he is basically refusing to support me at all, and saying it's perfectly fine and normal to put such a young tiny baby into full time nursery! The thing is.... it's impossible to claim the benefits I would be entitled to if he wasn't living with me.
Our tenancy agreement is a joint one, and as I am under 25 I am unable to claim HB or LHA until baby is here so I am completely stuck....... and he's seen in the brightest light with his massive glowing halo!
Most days I wish he would just f*ck off and completely leave me to it to be honest, like he said he was going to when he first left me at 10 weeks pregnant.
Personally, I would keep your FOB well at bay until you have the birth certificate sorted, WITHOUT his name on it. In my experience and what I've read etc etc - they tend to become interested in babies once they start to do stuff like talking and walking... you don't want him in and out of your lives as he pleases, your baby needs stability and routine xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Thats how i feel, if i took his money he would use it to get back at me, saying i couldnt cope or do it without him, I just want him to leave me alone now, its not as if he brings me anything but trouble.

 

[lou_w34]

Thanks, yeah thats what i want her to have, she needs stability, and with him running in and out as he pleases she wont get that from him.
He is deffinatley not going on the birth cert, so untill i have that sorted, and his intentions are made clear, im going to try keep as far back as possible.

Ohhh you poor thing, can you no stay with a relative? untill the baby is born? Are you sure about the HB thing being over 25, cos my sisters friend is 19 and shes used it before her baby was born.

Its rubbish how they look so great, while deep down were the ones who are struggling.

 

[McLovin]

I think the HB laws/rules changed recently (due to the increase of school leavers having babies)

 

[tinkabells]

Thats how i feel, if i took his money he would use it to get back at me, saying i couldnt cope or do it without him, I just want him to leave me alone now, its not as if he brings me anything but trouble.

Yeah, least i can look back and say i bought everything for her, he may of offered, but i think he was just saying it so if anyone ever asked didnt he offer you and him can say yes, but then you can give your reason why you didnt take it xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

the FOB offered to get something and for me to let him know what... did he ever bring it up again or actually purchase anything?! no course he didnt. Just wanted to make himself feel better!!!!

 

[McLovin]

I'm not religious in any way shape or form.... but i do believe in things being the way they are for a reason. BUT where the hell is the sense in men being such shits/emotionally disabled?!

 

[tinkabells]

Haha very true McLovin xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Haha very true. Sometimes i think they all need to die out lol, but then i think there must be some lovely guys out there..... somewhere.... if i look very very hard haha

 

[McLovin]

there are some lovely posts in the other forums about their' other halves...... I am very happy for those ladies but some days just plain jealous!

 

[lou_w34]

Ohhhh i so get that too, i love to read those posts, as they all seem so nice and happy, and then i remember i dont have that, so i feel jealous as hell! lol

 

[teal]

It's nice to see the nice posts about the OH being supportive (as they should be!!) but it's hard at the same time. Even though I have support from my friends/family I sometimes do feel alone.

 

[tinkabells]

I've been chatting to a few nice gys, but then again there only nice at first, i went onto a dating website, but put down only looking to chat to people and i've been chatting to one guy for about 2 months now, and he seems nice, plus how random we have a couple of friends in common!!! So kinda know he aint a complete wanker, but then again..... xxx

 

[McLovin]

nice that you have found someone to talk to online and at least know he isn't a weirdo.
I think I am going to be in my "all men are arseholes" frame of mind for a good few years yet! lol

x

 

[expecting09]

I think I am going to be in my "all men are arseholes" frame of mind for a good few years yet! lol

I'm with you on that one!!!

 

[tinkabells]

nice that you have found someone to talk to online and at least know he isn't a weirdo.
I think I am going to be in my "all men are arseholes" frame of mind for a good few years yet! lol

x

Haha im still the same, it just takes me mind off everything from time to time, but if anyone is interested the site is called plentyoffish.com xxx