Does anyone else worry that....

[Armywife]

...their next baby will be much harder work than their first?

Poppy has been a really good baby, well, i think she has but then i do wonder if i just expected it to be so hard that anything would be better than what i imagined? Does that make sense?

Other people always say the next one will be harder but i do wonder if thats only because they so loved telling me how hard motherhood was then when i coped ok with it (even when Poppy had surgery) they still wanted to 'scare' me?

Anyway, if you understood any of that i would be interested to know if anyone else feels this way?

 

[princess_bump]

oh yes! this crosses my mind alot! people always comment about it

for me, maddi is a dream child! she's had a routine from day dot, she's always slept through since 6weeks, she's happy and fun and i feel like it's all be so easy! i get all the time, oh the next one wont sleep as well (maddi sleeps 12-14hours at night, and 2hours in the day at 21months!), the next one will be naughty etc! it'll be harder!
i usual say, "bring it on" i think the second will be easy, i feel like i no what i'm doing and i'm just excited about it

 

[luckyme225]

I like to think the opposite haha! My little guy has always been high maintenance. Didn't sleep through until 8+ months but even though he has a few days a week where he wakes up in the middle of the night. He's a fussy eater and he just started having seizure type fits. We can't even leave the house because his car sickness. Even though he's a big handful I get so much joy from him. I can't wait to have another but now we are waiting until our little guys medical condition gets better. Also in case our next one decides to be hard like his/her brother.

 

[Armywife]

Its nice to hear 2 sides!

Princess_Bump, i'm with you on the fact that i feel like i know what i'm doing now too! I think people just like to scare you! Then again, i do find that a lot of people, however good they are as parents, just like to moan about their children but i am totally determined never to get into that. I prayed for my baby girl and she is a blessing. Maybe that helps make parenting easier? Who knows?

xxx

 

[Armywife]

Lucky, i am sorry to hear your boy is poorly, i hope he improves soon. Poppy was poorly when she was born and the illnesss was hereditary so we have a high chance of future babies having the same condition. She is all better now though xx

 

[luckyme225]

Thank you Armywife. We are seeing a specialist and will hopefully have him on a new medication soon so hopefully everything will be fine. Glad to hear Poppy is all better

 

[winegums]

TOTALLY!!! everyone told me how awful it was going to be how I would be up all night how he would scream constantly!!

and the only times I remember him crying is when there was something wrong.. you fix it... no more crying!! slept through the night from 8 weeks (got into a decent routine) every time i see any member of my family 'oh you just don't know how lucky you are it's not normal you know you'll probably have a nervous breakdown with your next after how good he is'

Ha! we'll see about that!! Even if my next is a little terror I will pretend everything is fine so that they can't rub their noses in it! lol

xx

 

[Armywife]

Ha! we'll see about that!! Even if my next is a little terror I will pretend everything is fine so that they can't rub their noses in it! lol

xx

My plan exactly!

 

[princess_bump]

he he winegums! love it!

luckyme- i am so sorry to hear your lovely little mans been poorly do hope he's better soon.

armywife - i feel like that, that people to like to complain about bringing up children, and although they are hard work, i would never change if for the world, and certainly could never moan about maddi! she's the best thing i've ever done! and i think, even if baby #2 is up all the time etc, it will still be wonderful because i've been blessed again

 

[Armywife]

Definately, it says something that one day on facebook a friend of mine with grown up children messaged me saying how she loved reading my status' and looking at my profile as she can tell my world revolves around Poppy. She said not one other person posts nice status' about their children, its always 'Glad the kids are in bed' etc. I just think once you get into moaning about it, even for a laugh, it makes it harder. When Poppy is being a monkey i just laugh, it still gives me a warm fuzzy feeling watching her cry in temper because i love how spirited she can be, its another personality trait of my princess! So glad i'm not alone in feeling this way! Thanks ladies!xxx

 

[Tegans Mama]

Honestly, my circumstances are a lot different front most of yours, but I feel like our next baby will be a walk in the park compared to Tigs. Its very unlikely I'll have another who is disabled, and the only reason Tegan is sometimes hard work is because of her disabilities. If I can cope with a newborn having brain surgery and being in hospital for eight weeks and nearly dying.. I can cope with having a newborn at home.

 

[lilysmum2]

Oh yes, but my little one is hard enough as it is!
I just keep thinking, the next CANT be any worse!!!!

 

[Lullaby2009]

I'm not really worried about it. I grew up with foster children/babies all around me as a child so I'm ready for the hustle and bustle of being a busy mummy Plus Ruby has been quite easygoing really, although she certainly does have her moments that make me stop and think to myself 'how are you staying calm in all this? anyone else you know would be tearing their hair out by now!' ha ha, I've had loads of people say how patient and calm I am when she's having a full on melt down (she hates getting dressed/undressed/nappy changing/being woken up by a sudden noise etc.) but I just see it as if she's crying/screaming, then there's a reason for it, whether that reason can be helped or not. Sometimes I can make her feel better and other times I just need to be there for her while she calms down herself. Think I'll prob be the same with the next one