Does It Make Me...

[BrokenfoREVer]

A bad person for getting an injunction out on FOB before the baby is even born?

I feel really threatened by him & I don't want him in mine or my sons life. I'm happy to give him access if he wants to go through court to get supervised access as I'm not comfortable to be around him alone.

I'm moving back to my moms before baby is born so I don't have to be alone with him straight after giving birth.

I just feel harsh that I'm taking my sons dad away before he's even born.

 

[TiredNurse27]

he's taking himself away by being such a wanker

 

[xSophieBx]

^^ WSS... If u feel a injunction is needed then go for it. I had to put up with lot's of abuse when I was pregnant/after baby was born, yet I never rang the police because I wanted to remain amicable.. Well thats all gone tits up & we're now going through solictors and his solicitor is demanding proof of this behavior which I'd have if I'd rung the police.

Your not taking his dad away.. As if his dad wants to be in his son's life then he will fight it through court and prove himself with supervised contact first.. Once he does all that, he may even turn into a good dad. x

 

[ka_ox]

I agree with everything the above posters have said
Your far from being a bad person, your being a good mum by protecting your son and doing what you believe is best for him. Your hearts in the right place and your intentions are good, therefore thus makes you a good person the FOB is the bad one! xx

 

[sie35]

nobody hates the courts and what they do to kids and dads more than me but in some circumstances they are a good way of sorting the men from the boys and testing weather a guy whos no paternal ties has the comitment to be be a dad and step up theres no bond there by taking it to court as long as your honest about him it could be a good thing and its a good way of seperating a relationship with the child from a relationship with you setting rules and doing it in a way your ok with