Does one ever get over a Cesarean?

[miaplus2]

just stumbled across this post. Just thinking about my first "birth" makes my cry, i had a failed induction at the royal london i was induced because a consultant felt my blood pressure COULD rise as i was over weight they didn't get the cannula into a vein so after 18hours of nothing i was told my baby was distressed (later found out she wasn't) and i was cut open and treated with no respect. It affected my second pregnancy as LO was breech and they wont attempt to turn a breech baby if the mother has a section scar... im now pregnant again and have been told i will have no chance of a VBAC and as its my 3rd section i need to be sterilized as well as i "cant have 4 sections" I'm 21 years old and now feel i'll never have a chance to be a real woman and never have the feeling of pure joy knowing my pain and work birthed my baby...and i wont be able to extend my beautiful family... sorry my post isnt very helpful but you really arent alone in your feelings hun xx

 

[Lina]

miaplus2, you don't 'have' to be sterilised, is it because you have a medical condition?

My aunt has had 4 sections and she is having another kid. I also know of a woman who has had 5 sections and another who has 8 and none have been sterilised. I had my labour debrief on friday and the midwife who saw me said she had personally witnessed a woman who had 3 previous sections birth naturally at home.

You can too!


Madasa, you are absolutely right and she said feelings of such often stemmed from lack of control and not being listened to. She said it was important that women are educated about their rights and have a strong voice, be it them or others on their behalf.

 

[miaplus2]

the fight i'd have to put up to be allowed a natural birth would be horrendous. I've just got to get over it i gues xx

 

[Sam Pearson]

It affected my second pregnancy as LO was breech and they wont attempt to turn a breech baby if the mother has a section scar..

I agree that trying to turn a breech baby isn't a good idea but the concept that breech babies need to be born surgically is a myth. Many women have breech babies vaginally. With an active labour and a healthy Mum and bub it's just a birth with baby in a less common position. It was wrong of anybody to force you to have a surgical birth just because of a breech position.

. im now pregnant again and have been told i will have no chance of a VBAC

What reason have they given you?

This website has wonderful information for Mums who have had surgical births and then gone on to have vaginal birth even after 3 and 4 ceseareans. They also have a forum where you will find lots of supportive women. https://www.birthrites.org/

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and as its my 3rd section i need to be sterilized as well as i "cant have 4 sections"

This is quite shocking advice. Even in the extreme case of a ruptured uterus a hysterctomy isn't necessary. You can learn more about why at this website:

https://www.a-little-wish.org.uk/

This Youtube video explains the vital importance of the uterus to any woman and I urge you to watch it in order to help you make an informed decision:

The Life Long Functions of the Uterus and Ovaries
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=daaTH9S8L74
The uterus is a hormone responsive reproductive sex organ that supports the bladder and the bowel, and it provides structural support to the pelvis. The ovaries produce important hormones all of a woman's life. The functions of the uterus and ovaries are essential to a woman's health and well being, physically, pschologically and sexually. There is no time in a woman's life when they are no longer needed.

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I'm 21 years old and now feel i'll never have a chance to be a real woman

Of course you are a real woman...100%. Birthing and the way our babies come into this world does not a woman make and neither does a uterus.

Ultimately it is your decision how you choose to birth this time and yours alone, nobody can make that choice for you, but I understand how hard it is to go against your care givers advice.

 

[madasa]

If someone sterilises you against your will, I should hope they could be charged with assault and battery and be stopped from practising.

You do not have to be sterilised. You do not have to automatically have another surgical birth.

https://www.homebirth.org.uk/vba2c.htm

https://www.vbac.co.uk/stories/story.php?s=zoe

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1471-0528.2009.02351.x/pdf

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzsT9q1AVW8

https://blog.ican-online.org/2012/01/19/kellis-vba2c-of-11lb12oz-asher/

There are women who have had VBA2Cs. It sounds like it is really important to you. If you decided to try, you'd need good support around you (to do the "fighting" for you). Remember, mothers consent - not doctors! You have the final say. Good luck whatever you decide to do.