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CurlySue

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So, here I am, on Day 15 of down-reg drugs and four days before my first baseline scan. I'm tired. I'm not happy. My stomach, it's constantly churny. I feel like I've eaten something wrong. I feel constantly nervous, not knowing if it's a physical thing or a manifestation of the deep-rooted fear I feel that this might, just, not work.

What I don't need? Is the cock that I work for behaving the way he has behaved this past week.

I could give ten examples of behaviour that deserved a slap just since Thursday. I fear I am being unreasonable. I wonder if it's the stress of IVF that is leading me to feel such overwhelming fury about him, but I'm really not sure that it is. I will give you some examples: -

1. I wrote three letters to clients currently in prison. It's very hard to get visits unless you book them way in advance. I got visits for the week beginning 1st June, did them all letters to let them know and all that jazz. Twonkface calls me into the office and says "Why have you not explained to *** and *** that you were having problems getting earlier appointments to see them?" so I tell him "Because it doesn't apply to them, only ***. We're going to see them next week. I booked them visits ages ago. It's only **** that we're not seeing for awhile. It's going to look stupid if you apologise to the other two for not being in sooner than Monday 1st June when you're going in on Wednesday 27th May, isnt it? They're going to think you're not going in to see them next week if I say that."

He glares at me as if I am stupid. Tells me to use my common sense (erm, I just did?) "Just do what I tell you to do," he says. "I'll decide if it looks stupid or not."

Well, it does. He is such a tw*t that he'd rather make himself look stupid than admit that he is wrong.

2. He says that I (yes I, all my fault) have "kept him late" by not fixing evidence bundles that are to go out in the post. This is at 1.50pm. He has to be elsewhere by 2pm. The post does not go out until 4.45 so why he is standing there sorting them out himself ten minutes before an appointment and blaming me for keeping him late is beyond me. For one thing, he doesn't even know what evidence is needed because he never looks at it. I'm the one who has to bloody sift through the crap. Oh he then bitches at me for not "keeping these letters with those discs". I glare back at him and say "They were. The discs are here, on my desk. Where were the letters? Oh yeah, with the discs. On my desk." I may well have told him to stop fucking moaning at this point.

3. On Tuesday, I spoke to a client who said he was going to come in on Tuesday afternoon to pick some stuff up. Friday afternoon, he has still not turned up. I ask twonkhead if he wants it sent out to him because he has a trial coming up shortly and he won't get the evidence beforehand. He literally, physically THROWS it on the floor next to my desk and says "I said he was coming in, didn't I? Stop trying to fucking palm it off on me." He said he was coming in on Tuesday, yes. It was now Friday afternoon and he had still not been in. Logics say that it's best to get it to him over the weekend seen as how he needs to have read it all by Wednesday.

4. I am a liar, apparently, and he refuses to accept as the truth the fact that you cannot get an urgent meeting for him on Tuesday when said meeting needed to be booked two weeks in advance and it's Bank Holiday Monday coming up.

This is but four examples. There have been numerous.

Yesterday, he was out of the office for most of the day. He came in at half past one and carried out Point Number 2 and point number 3, which was the only interaction he had with me all day. Yes, to scream at me, to throw something on the floor next to my desk and to swear at me.

I don't need this shite right now, do I?

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No you sure don't. What a horrible man! Sorry you have to work with such an arse :(
I really wish I had some advice or words of comfort but i'm afraid I have no experience in your situation (work or ivf). I just didn't want to read and run.

I hope that you may be able to talk to him or seek some advice about the way in which he treats you, which is unacceptable.
I hope things get better :hugs:
 
Great management style, I think not. No you don't need any of this :hugs:

If it gets worse note everything down (all the details) just in case it needs to go further.

I hope Twonkface has a crap weekend and you can forget about it until Tuesday. He sounds like a right d*ckhead.

I hope your scan goes well,x
 
He's an utter twat and always has been. This is not the first time I've had problems with him. They eased off for awhile but are now back with a vengeance.

He speaks to me like a piece of shit, like dirt, like I am beneath him. The office manager, she says "Just remember that he's a dickhead, and if he's not speaking to you it means you don't have to have anything to do with him." Which is all fair and good, but that's not the point. The point is I am currently in the middle of treatment and I don't need this right now.

I'd love to take it further, but the place I work is so unstable that I'd end up being the one they send walking.
 
I went through the same shit at my last job. I was there for close to ten years, loved my job and had worked with numerous bosses with no problems. This one came in and started pulling shit like your boss had...it was as though she could not stand people that knew more than her about our business so she basically harassed myself and three other people daily until we hated our jobs. I went to our Board of Directors numerous times but nothing was really done so I ended up leaving. With all of the stress of LTTC, I didn't need more at work...The good news though, she recently got fired :) Although now, she is going to the media to try and drag the business through the mud, which shows her true colors as the business was a non-profit animal shelter!

Some people just plain suck!
 
You certainly dont need any of that hassle. Its gonna put ur body under pressure and that`s not gonna help with TTC.
I run my own beauty salon and about 6 months ago a member of my staff started to act in the same manner. Speaking to me like she was the boss and ordering me about. Passing sarky remarks infront of clients. After a few calm discussions I thought I had resolved the matter. Until final straw she made a total tit outta me infront of a client and I cracked. Had to let her go.
Since I let her go my Af has been so regular I`m convinced its cause im not stressed with work anymore.
Unfortuantely the way things are at the minute, some people are glad just to have a job, But u dont wanna be in the situation were you cant stick it anymore and end up walking out.
I hope you get things sorted out and hopefully you`ll stop feeling as nervous and as worried as you do.
Good luck with ur scan
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I'm really sorry you are having to deal with such an asshole. I hope things get better :hugs:
 
:hugs: what a tit you definitely don't need this right now and noone has the right to speak to any employee in that manner, but as you said what can you do, you'll be the one left with no job. I'm so sorry and wish you didn't have to have this on top of your treatment :hugs:
 
No you don't need that. Got any sick time? :hug:
 
Its not right at all to be treated like that, he is obviously doing it to make his own sad life better, he needs to get a grip!
I know its easier said than done, but let it go over your head, as long as your doing what you need to then let his mistakes hit him in the face. Make a note of what he says and does each day and you will have a record of whats going on. When the shit hits the fan he cant turn around and blame you.
Is there anyone higher you can go to??
What goes around, comes around. Please dont let it ruin your life or career and dont rise to his childish ways. He will geyt whats coming to him hun :hugs:
 
Hi
Sorry to hear about work. You really don't need that on top of everything else. Is your scan tomorrow? Keep us posted.

:hug:
 
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So sorry your having to put up with this ... would it be worth speaking to a Dr and seeing if they would may be sign you off for a little while - give you a break?
 
No, you definitely don't need that right now (or any time for that matter!) :hugs:
 
What a cock!!!!!!!!! :finger: Is there any way you could change your line manager for someone who has less of a tiny penis syndrome?!

If there's really no way around it without you being fired make a voodoo doll of him out of BluTak and stick things in it/crush it every time he does something to make you feel bad.

If it's any comfort, Karma's a bitch and he will at some point be treated as badly as he treats you!!

Hope things go well with your IVF. Sending lots of dust and hugs and hope he has a sudden epiphany that being a cock makes people treat you like a cock!!!

:hug:

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