Don't want to tell baby's name

[redneckhippy]

It seems like people are constantly asking if we have names picked out. My in-laws seem to ask me everytime I see them, and so far I've been deflecting the question by saying we will wait until we find out the gender, but we are finding out the gender on Monday, so I don't have that excuse anymore. We have a boy's name picked out, and honestly, we both love the name, and I don't want to hear other people's opinion's on it. It has personal and religious significance to me and I don't want to hear why they hate the name. Their kids mostly have trendy made up names, which is fine, I don't care what they want to name their kids, but I like traditional names and we are religious so we want a religious name.

How do I deflect the question without seeming rude? Or should I just tell them anyway? It's just especially being hormonal and all, it makes me upset to hear negative comments and also I like having something that is just between me and my husband. It's not a weird name, it's just a traditional biblical name, so it's not like we are doing our kid a diservice by the name or anything.

 

[neadyda]

I just said we have a name but are keeping it a surprise until baby was here. Everyone still kept asking me though but I stuck to my word.

 

[Rachie004]

Just say you have a few names you quite like but feel like you need to see the baby when he/she is born before you decide for sure. Or have a little list of spoof names that you're not actually considering that you can allow people to comment on.

 

[staralfur]

Just say you want to keep it a surprise. We were undecided on our LO's name until she was born, but we still would've kept it a secret even if we had known the whole time. We revealed her gender so we thought it'd be nice to have something as a surprise when she was born.

 

[AngelofTroy]

I agree just say it's going to be a surprise, you never know 100% until the baby is here that they'll suit the name anyway!

 

[Pielette]

I ask people this question but I'm just genuinely interested as to whether they have a name, not what it is! My friend told me she had a boy name but not a girl name and that was that, then we just started talking about how difficult it is

I would just say yes we have a name. If pressed I'd then say it's a surprise for when baby is born.

 

[bumblebeexo]

Just don't tell them, none of their business

 

[MUMOF5]

Yep I would stick firm from the outset and just say that you won't be discussing baby's name with anyone and that you will announce when he/she is here. X

 

[Buffyx]

Just say you haven't decided yet. That's what I'll be doing!

 

[RubyRainbows]

I LOVE talking baby names - I always want to talk baby names with everyone and anyone. Drives me nuts when preggo friends and family wont tell me a definitive name, lol. My friend is due in 2 weeks and I can't stand that she wont tell me - the suspense is KILLING me!! Haha. They keep saying they both have a list of their fav names but haven't officially decided on one yet. You can say that? Or just tell them it will be a surprise and you have both agreed not to share the name until the baby arrives. I certainly understand not wanting to hear neg opinions about names you love!

 

[mod19]

I completely understand. People have asked me already if we have names picked out. We have a girl name but not a boys yet. Then they want to know what it is...and then proceed to make negative comments about that name? Uh, no. You asked what it was. Nowhere in that conversation did I ask for an opinion. I completely understand not wanting to tell people. I say keep it to yourself till baby is here and they will just have to deal with it.

 

[Noodlebear]

I wanted to keep our name secret but couldn't help myself Even if you just didn't want to tell a particular person it's up to you, your child - your choice. So just say what you want! x

 

[superfrizbee]

Both pregnancies we've kept the name secret. I just say it's a surprise people tried to get it out of me a lot with my first and I'd just tease them with ridiculous names, and this pregnancies people haven't asked so much because they know from experience it wont get them anywhere