doodle and donkey :) day 1

[doodle33]

so we've decided to start trying and omg! I cant remember ever being happier. Was so great being able to tell our friends that their might be a little baby on the way soon. Because of our age (18) we've decided not to tell anyone in either family yet, according to them it will be an accident. We've both got quiet traditional and closed minded grandparents and we think it would just be unnecessary upset for all involved (n) but i am so excited! Im coming off of the pill in 9 days and then let the fun begin! Woo Good luck to all ttc peace and love xxx

 

[KahluaCupcake]

Um. If your age is a problem that is forcing you to lie to your families, what else is there?
I don't want to come across as mean, but this is a very serious, very REAL, undoable situation. If you would lie and say it's an accident, it would lead one to believe you're not really in a position to TTC.
Do you own your own home? Do you live together? How long have you been together? Remember, couples who've been together 20 years still separate.
What about financial needs? In the past three years; have either of you had to borrow money from your parents?
Do you live paycheck to paycheck or are there savings, preferably to the tune of three months' salary? Are both of you complete in your schooling?
What happens if you have a difficult pregnancy, are put on bedrest, and can't work? What will be done for money? And the months after birth when you can't work? What if, god forbid, the baby has medical issues and insurance does not cover the costs? What if one of you loses your job?
Do you have insurance through your parents or through your jobs?
What about daycare? Are you crossing your fingers and hoping your parents will watch the baby, cost-free?

And please don't think this has to do with your age. These are questions EVERYONE should be able to answer prior to TTC, whether 18 or 35.
But the whole statement about saying you plan on telling both sets of parents that this child was an accident is a major red flag.

 

[doodle33]

sorry but someone with every one of these things sorted, still hasnt got 100% stability. Things change and im ready for that. Trying to conciete isnt about ticking boxes. Its about knowing what to do, no matter which boxes need ticking at that time. I have had 3 miscarriages, the first when i was 14. I have spent the last 4 years planning and saving for a baby. I appreciate your concern but please dont worry. This child will have the best and most loving life possible.

 

[doodle33]

and in relation to the not telling the family issue. It goes much deeper than the age situation, but i hope you'll respect my wish to not say more on the matter

 

[KahluaCupcake]

I'm quite pleasantly surprised by your response; it shows more maturity than a lot of under-20s on this site tend to show. I commend you, and wish you luck!

 

[doodle33]

i appreciate that alot, i feel about 30 most days haha. Good luck to you aswell, and i guess im gunna have to get used to that response when i do get my bfp.

 

[Fliss]

YAY I know how much this means to you

 

[doodle33]

thank you he proposed to me formally last night aswell so now im doubly excited even though i knew he was going to propose as soon as he had the ring it was still a shock haha cant wait to be a proper little family