dummies?

[Tezzy]

rhys never had a dummy and ive always been really against them but ffion is such a sucky baby. she always wants to be latched onto me even though shes not hungry, she sucks and then just lets the milk dribble out when colin holds her she sucks his finger all the time and seems really contented when she does.

what do you think i should do? cave in and give her a dummy for a moments peace?

shes been latched onto me for most of the day and i have stuff i need to do

 

[Tilly]

I say give her the dummy, you can soon limit the amount of time she uses it in the day.

 

[oOKayOo]

Carly was exactly like that and the dummy worked a treat , where as ella isnt so much so doesnt really use her dummy ( i try when she is just wont settle) but she wont take it maybe for a minute but thats it!

Id try it and give it a go , after all with having 2 kids you need have some time to do things!!!

 

[Margerle]

I'd give it to her too with the idea that you'll have to be REALLY cognisant of letting her suck you completely empty and stimulate production during her growth spurts. Don't let her detatch and give her the dummy when your body needs those production cues her sucking provides

 

[Tezzy]

Thanks for all your advice, i went today and bought two orthadontic dummies and shes been settled in her crib since we got home

im going to try limiting her time with the dummy, like just when im trying to settle her, if she settles without it then great but if not then ill give it to her.

ill try and remember what you said Margerle about when she has a growth spurt.. i guess when shes hungry she wont settle with the dummy anyway???

im all new to this and the breastfeeding too and you girls have been so fantastic

 

[Margerle]

Thanks for all your advice, i went today and bought two orthadontic dummies and shes been settled in her crib since we got home

im going to try limiting her time with the dummy, like just when im trying to settle her, if she settles without it then great but if not then ill give it to her.

ill try and remember what you said Margerle about when she has a growth spurt.. i guess when shes hungry she wont settle with the dummy anyway???

im all new to this and the breastfeeding too and you girls have been so fantastic

production stimulation doesn't happen during a feed but AFTER...when the breast is completely empty, and she continues to suck. So during those growth fussy times make sure you allow her extra time on the empty breast rather than putting her in the crib with a dummy

 

[Tezzy]

Will do! thanks so much x

 

[coz]

i would let her have a dummy too, i gave my LO cos he loves to suck and it does calm him down from crying too xx

 

[Linzi]

We caved and started giving Seth his dummy this weekend because he was crying for (what we thought) was food every 30/45 mins. He just has it at night time though and we try to comfort him ourselves through the day. We thought if we did it that way he might realise when it's time to go to sleep too. He usually spits it out just before he drops off though.

Good luck hun!

xxx

 

[Margerle]

Are you BF'ing Linzi?... if so he IS crying for food. This is their first big growth spurt. (This is when they'll make up for any weight lost right after birth - if he has any to gain back. ) He's working on getting your body to make the perfect amount of milk for him.

 

[Linzi]

Yeah I am, Im not stopping him from feeding by using the dummy, but he doesn't always latch on, he just like... sits there and doesn't do anything and falls asleep, then wakes up and cries as soon as we move him.

I don't know what to do for the best really. Im such a newbie He's putting on weight and has plenty of wet nappies and I assume if he was still hungry he wouldn't fall asleep with his dummy in? I dont know.

xxx

 

[Serene123]

I've been having the same problem, everyone is telling me to give her a dummy but I really don't want to. I'm holding out as long as I can. Because I'm bottle feeding for the most part I tend to stick her on my boob after a bottle untill she falls asleep, but when she was mostly breast she wouldn't settle on me atall. She never seemed satisfied! Hang on in there Tezzy, I wish I didn't give into the bottle as I'm sure you'll wish you didn't give into the dummy if you do.

 

[Margerle]

The first month is hell on a new mommy

2-3 growth spurts, wacky sleep schedules, fussy baby, sleepy baby, tired mommy, frustrated mommy, enormous amounts of diapers, needy family, chores, finding time to eat, painful tits and nipples, painful lady bits from birth, crazy self image after pregnancy...

I have considered giving DD one as well in those nights when 4-5 hours of awake and crying for no aparent reason is putting me in a mental straight-jacket Thank goodness she doesn't seem to want to take one, because on the occassion when someone else has had to watch her for an hour or two, and has tried to give her one, she had the goofiest latch on me... (not saying you shouldn't use dummies and BF!... just in my situation my boobs would not like me anymore. )

You might find if you hang in there for that first 4-6 weeks, baby will finally settle into some semblance of routine and the need for the dummy might decrease or go away

 

[supernurse]

That's funny cause I was speaking to my midwife about this this morning. We caved in last night and gave her a dummy but it only lasted half an hour. I have been finding BF very time consuming this time and sometimes it would seem that nothing would settle her and it would seem that she wants to suck all the time. But the thing that made me realise that she doesn't need one is the fact that every night she goes to sleep no problems after the bedtime feed about 11pm and only wake once or twice in the night.
Midwife said that the feeding will settle and just like you said Marg, she is building up the supply for the next day. Before she would only feed for like 10mins and then couldn't get her to take anymore but the midwife said to try and do everything I can to wake her up and get her to feed on the other side and it's done wonders today, she has had 2 really good naps, that's how I've managed to get on here for the first time in a week.

 

[Ratty]

My LO loves his dummy. I can't just leave him sucking my breast as then he overeats and ends up with a sore tummy. He really is a pig.

supernurse, I struggle for the first two weeks to get my LO to feed off both breasts, now that he is a week older and more alert, I have no problem. He no longer falls asleep at the breast.

 

[Margerle]

Yeah I am, Im not stopping him from feeding by using the dummy, but he doesn't always latch on, he just like... sits there and doesn't do anything and falls asleep, then wakes up and cries as soon as we move him.

I don't know what to do for the best really. Im such a newbie He's putting on weight and has plenty of wet nappies and I assume if he was still hungry he wouldn't fall asleep with his dummy in? I dont know.

xxx

Ah, fussy, lover-baby I have one of these too. She seems to crave the closeness of human contact. At two weeks old, and after she's had constant human contact 24/7 for the last 9 months, I tend to give her more than most people would like .

You might find the following book interesting...

"The happiest baby on the block"

https://www.thehappiestbaby.com/

This focuses on the last trimester of infant development (the 4th trimester) and what parents can do to help better understand and console their babies.

 

[Ragirl]

Are you BF'ing Linzi?... if so he IS crying for food. This is their first big growth spurt. (This is when they'll make up for any weight lost right after birth - if he has any to gain back. ) He's working on getting your body to make the perfect amount of milk for him.

I second that. My son nursed every 45 minutes during growth phases and he really needed that food. I know at times I felt like all I was every doing was nursing...but it slowed down once we stabilized my milk production.