For us, due to circumstances, it's either 100% natural conception (or pretty much) or not at all. Now I have a very selfish reason to wat to have a child too 
the condition that I have has many similarities to MS, when I'm pregnant it imporves greatly. I mean, the first time I went from using crutches and being able to take around 10 steps at a time to walking unaided at home and with one crutch outside. Long term, it's possible that I could be alot better than I am now. So that's my really selfish reason, admittedly very mush a secondary bonus, but a reason none the less.
But we've been trying for so long now.
It might not happen and it probably won't happen. Every time I do get pregnant, I MC.
Don't get me wrong, I'll probably never ever intentionally prevent now, but everything has got me thinking. Is it time to move on?
We've tried, it's something else to add onto my long list of "failiures" list. I'll always have strong opinions but for the first time in my life, I've been thinking of why life is better not having children and not feeling guilty about it.
I think other things have also made me step back and look, like someone I know becoming what DH describes as a "benefit baby factory" which is really sad TBH. Things like my health getting generally crap
and just enjoying it being DH and I, knowing that so long as we're ok, we don't have to worry about anything else. I know that one day it's likely that I will have other responsibilities regardless, but for the moment, life seems ok, for all our difficult times and issues with stuff (not each other!) we're ok just us.
the condition that I have has many similarities to MS, when I'm pregnant it imporves greatly. I mean, the first time I went from using crutches and being able to take around 10 steps at a time to walking unaided at home and with one crutch outside. Long term, it's possible that I could be alot better than I am now. So that's my really selfish reason, admittedly very mush a secondary bonus, but a reason none the less.But we've been trying for so long now.
It might not happen and it probably won't happen. Every time I do get pregnant, I MC.
Don't get me wrong, I'll probably never ever intentionally prevent now, but everything has got me thinking. Is it time to move on?
We've tried, it's something else to add onto my long list of "failiures" list. I'll always have strong opinions but for the first time in my life, I've been thinking of why life is better not having children and not feeling guilty about it.
I think other things have also made me step back and look, like someone I know becoming what DH describes as a "benefit baby factory" which is really sad TBH. Things like my health getting generally crap
and just enjoying it being DH and I, knowing that so long as we're ok, we don't have to worry about anything else. I know that one day it's likely that I will have other responsibilities regardless, but for the moment, life seems ok, for all our difficult times and issues with stuff (not each other!) we're ok just us.
