Early 30's TTC #1

[Aisak]

Pink, my heart breaks for you.

 

[hakunamatata]

Sorry for your loss Pink

 

[rosababy]

Oh, pink. I just noticed your ticker. I'm so so sorry.

 

[Crumbs]

Pink, I'm so sorry for your loss. Stay strong, hun.

 

[Regalpeas]

Pink I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for your strength through all this. I am here if you need someone to talk to.





Also, I just want to send a huge thank you to all of you. I browsed the thread on my phone for the last few days. You all have really encouraged me like crazy especially w/ your suggestions and ideas. You gave me the inspiration to not be down about it all. Also I took into account all that you ladies said about DH's behavior and sharing your own experiences. I've decided to let him vent and encourage him that no matter what I love him. That seems to have increased his spirits today. See next.

We got the result today and the true problem seems to be morphology. Sigh. However, we're just gonna wait to see what the FS has to say about it all.

Crumbs and Hakuna thanks a ton for the links. They really did help to put things in perspective. I will forward them to dh after we see the FS. He says he does not want to discuss anymore until things are a bit clearer. I totally understand.

Hakuna you know my thoughts about your BFP! Totally stoked! Totally excited for you. You waited long and you worked hard. And you were hella supportive to others while you waited. You deserve this!

Rosa you did it all by yourself. Strong lady! Awesome! fx fx for you.

Mrsmax I know the feeling of waiting for the next step to hurry already! It's so close now for you. I think having a closer look at what's going on gives us confidence about ttc and our eventual bfps!

To everyone else hope you're having great weekends

 

[rosababy]

regal, what was his morphology number? My dh's was like 4% on the strict scale, which is not good. However, both RE and ob/gyn didn't seem to think that should be keeping us from getting pregnant.

 

[MsJMouse]

Congrats Hakuna! Awesome news.

Rosa - I need a referral from my GP to see a specialist - even a private clinic. After my mini meltdown the other day I am okay - just had hopes that as it had happened the first time after 6 months that it would again. I truly think that it has only been the last two cycles that haven't looked a bit weird temp wise so I think my hormones were still a bit screwed up post MMC and I am not surprised by that as on talking to my mum she had heaps of probs with irregular cycles and also it took her ages for things to get back to normal after any pregnancy so chances are I am the same.

Well done on doing those two shots yourself. Just remember it will all be worth it when you hold your baby . I think you are very brave.

MrsMax - good luck with your appt next week.

RegalPeas - when do you get to see the FS??

Still waiting for DH to do his SA. He meant to do it this weekend but forgot to ring the pathology place the day before to organise it so now it will have to wait till next week.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Regal - glad both you and DH are feeling better about things!
MsJmouse - pleased that you're ok now, but silly DH for forgetting to ring lol!

So I met up with a friend yesterday who was NTNP, came off BC earlier in the year. So she's 10 weeks pregnant! I had a funny feeling before I met up with her she was gonna be pg, and I just said to DH the other day I think she'll get a BFP before me. Funny isn't it how you just get a feeling about these things. It was her first month actually TTC. I'm ok about it, better than I have been when hearing about other people's BFP's. I'm just so excited for the clomid. Though I'm a bit worried about the mood swings it can give you - I'm a moody at the best of times x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Something else I just wanted to say, I'm so glad I found this group and all you ladies are so lovely. I was browsing the TTC forums last night (which I don't often do now as it's the same posts all the time) and there are some plain horrible people on BnB! It's like a playground. And when you check the profiles and posts by some of the "ring leaders" they seem to be like it all the time, as if they're stirring up trouble on purpose (or just so rude and don't give a sh*t what they say to people.) I saw one girl say a couple of months ago "threads tend to get locked when I'm around" I mean WTF?! I was PMSL reading through some locked threads the other night but really it's horrible to read and everyone is so edgy!! Maybe they're on Clomid and I might turn out like that!! Thanks for being so nice girls! x

 

[rosababy]

mrsP, when do you start clomid? Be prepared for some hot flashes! I got them in the middle of the night and they would wake me up. Everyone reacts differently though, just something I thought I'd share.

I don't often read the other threads either anymore, since they're all the same. "check out my chart" "is this implantation bleeding?" "what's baby aspirin for?" I feel like I'm so far beyond that point. Not a good thing and I'm not in any way bragging, just that I've been at this for so long now... I've been on one thread where there was a REALLY rude girl...she left, thank goodness! I can't believe some people get their jollies from that kind of stuff! I love this thread. Everyone is so nice, and supportive.

 

[SMFirst]

pink - so sorry for your loss

hakuna - congrats - hope all goes well for you. I agree you have been patient for yourself and supportive for others, so it's your time to feel excited about this!

Rosa - sorry about the painful shots but it will be worth it..

I debated about posting this but I think it's encouraging so I will:
I met a woman recently who had tried for years to have a baby, but they just couldn't get pregnant so then they went to IVF. The had 7 unsuccessful cycles, but the 8th was the one that worked and they were blessed with a little boy. That boy is now 5, and since he was born they tried on their own again with no success.. So they still have the one child and he is spoiled!! but a nice kid.

So the message I learned from that is perseverance pays off, and it changed my perspective on IVF - it works and it's worth every penny and all the discomfort

I agree with sticking to one or a couple of threads - I stopped long ago when I found the threads that actually had nice, supportive girls like you all!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi Rosa, AF is due in about 2 weeks when I'm back from my hols so I'll be starting it then. Yeah I heard about the hot flashes & read its better to take it on a night

Hi smfirst, hope your pregnancy is going well.

I do tend to stick to a couple of threads but if there's no new posts on them I might have a browse in TTC (the 2ww is just the same old lol.) I just can't believe how rude some people are! If I read a thread & roll my eyes because the questions been asked a million times or is a bit silly I just ignore it, but there are some people who are a bit too honest lol or worse than that make out like they are a fertility expert & rather than just give advice, impose their views on them. Anyway rant over lol X

 

[mrsmax]

Gosh I have a couple of regular threads I read (this is my main one obviously!!). I dont read many others - just if Im bored - I havent seem many nasty posts! I must have been lucky. It does make me even more grateful for you guys though. It is something positive I take out of this sorry business - you are all wonderful wonderful people

On a more depressing note, I started TTc when I was 33. I turn 35 tomorrow!!! Yikes. Trying to ignore that I am now in the next category of fertility - or lack of!! I'm kind of OK with it, as the NHS already discharged me for being tooo old to help (hence why going privately). However this thread is supposed to be EARLY 30's TTC - hope you dont kick me out for being mid-30s ;0

 

[hakunamatata]

I've been pretty lucky, haven't seen anyone rude on here. Just one girl who was a little snippy because she didn't think people responded fast enough to her post.

Happy birthday Mrs Max!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Happy birthday for tomorrow mrsmax! And of course you're not too old for the thread!!

mrsmax & Hakuna, you're very lucky. I've never had any crap aimed at myself, but I've read other people being sniped at x

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Hello, my friends!

Wow, so much has gone on in the few days I wasn't able to check in. So here goes:

Mrsmax - wishing you a WONDERFUL birthday tomorrow, and we love having you on our thread; plus, on another note, you won't need to be here too much longer anyway. You WILL get pregnant soon! x

Hakuna - you blessed woman, you! CONGRATS! Way to go spermy and eggs! I hope for a healthy and uneventful pregnancy for you.

MsJMouse - I hope your spirits are still up today!

RegalPeas - no, insurance doesn't cover IUI for me, and I'm also - like Rosa - curious as to what your DH's morphology number was. My DH's was 4% on the strict scale, too, but once they pick out all the good boys and girls, his stuff works like a charm! So what I'm saying is, don't feel down/allow DH to feel down. Pregnancy is achievable even with less than stellar SA results. We can vouch for that! (Of course, keeping the sticky bean is another story...)

Aisak - what vitamins do you have your DH taking right now?

Rosa - depending on when I get the positive OPK, I'll probably be getting inseminated either Tuesday or Wednesday of next week. SQUEEEAAALLLLLL!! I CANNOT WAIT! I CANNOT WAIT! Got two more clomid pills to take and then I'll be ready to rock and roll [or ready to get knocked up, I should say!]! I hope your eggs get retrieved by the end of the week! xx

MrsPTTC - clomid won't necessarily worsen your mood swings. As far as I can tell, and my DH hasn't said otherwise, I'm pretty much the same. I just *feel* my ovaries acting up/preparing pretty eggs. When do you start taking it? This cycle?

Pink80 - my friend, my heart aches for you...no words can make what you are going through better. Just know that many, many people care about you, and that you will, eventually, emerge from this dark place. We are here for you.

 

[rosababy]

Hi Rosa, AF is due in about 2 weeks when I'm back from my hols so I'll be starting it then. Yeah I heard about the hot flashes & read its better to take it on a night

Yes, I also heard to take it at night. The hot flashes actually WOKE ME UP a few nights. It only lasted while I was taking the pills though. And by the 3rd month, I did not have them. I was just a raging beotch!

On a more depressing note, I started TTc when I was 33. I turn 35 tomorrow!!! Yikes. Trying to ignore that I am now in the next category of fertility - or lack of!! I'm kind of OK with it, as the NHS already discharged me for being tooo old to help (hence why going privately). However this thread is supposed to be EARLY 30's TTC - hope you dont kick me out for being mid-30s ;0

Not depressing! And you are NOT allowed to leave, friend! We love you! Happy birthday!! Don't worry...we'll all be in the first tri section soon. I've heard it's scary over in that section. We'll start our own thread where we do not complain, we do not worry about little twinges and every little symptom we have. (yeah right...that'll be the day! )

Rosa - depending on when I get the positive OPK, I'll probably be getting inseminated either Tuesday or Wednesday of next week. SQUEEEAAALLLLLL!! I CANNOT WAIT! I CANNOT WAIT! Got two more clomid pills to take and then I'll be ready to rock and roll [or ready to get knocked up, I should say!]! I hope your eggs get retrieved by the end of the week!

YAYY!!!! I can not believe you'll be PUPO that early!!! I thought you'd have to wait a while! Very exciting! My retrieval will most likely be this Friday (YIKES!!!! SO SOON!!!!) and my transfer will be either Monday or Wednesday. I'm hoping for Wednesday, because that would be day 5 which means I have a very strong embie ready to implant.

I had my scan today and I only have about 6 follies, which isn't a whole lot, but my doc did say he'd be happy to get 6-8 eggs from me. I read about women who retrieve 20+ but I have to remember a lot of those women have PCOS, and the quality of their eggs isn't always great. I was worried though, so I (not surprisingly) started crying at the office, worrying about my small numbers. the nurse said it's just fine, and I have a beautiful lining (uterine) and that I have plenty of eggs, it only takes one, and that I still have a few more days to grow them. Sigh. If you say so....

 

[Aisak]

Hey Soleil,

Initially we thought DH's morphology wasn't so great (70% abnormal, so 30% were fine i guess), but my doctor said that's actually decent as the strict scale says anything below 14% is not so hot on the morphology scale. i believe motility was 40%, which i guess is a little on the low side. Count was high. Anyhow, these were recommended by the acupuncurist:

B12 1.5 mcg per day (good for motility, count and morphology)
Folic acid 200 - 400 mcg a day (motility, count and morphology)
Vitamin C 500 - 1000 mg per day (count and motility)
Selenium 75mcg per day (needed to properly shape sperm and maintain count)
Zinc 10 - 30 mg per day (count and motility)
Coenzyme Q10 50 - 90 mg per day (motility, protects sperm from free radical damage)
Essential Fatty Acids 2000mg per day (important for hormone regulation)

So i have him taking a multi that covers the zinc, folic acid and bvits, and then we add on the rest.

 

[Regalpeas]

Hi Ladies,

Just checking in with you all.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MRS MAX! Enjoy your special day. You're still in your early 30's in my opinion. Even if you were not-- we want you around.

Same for our preggy mommies!

Rosa and Soleil he's 5%. I'm not sure if it's on a strict scale but I know they mentioned WHO and ACOG on the results. I'm not sure if that matters. I promised dh I would not post the result that's why I did not list everything but that was his lowest percentage with w/ concentration very close behind. It's our drs who really have us worried. They sounded very doubtful. But they are not specialized in fertility.

Msjmouse- we have not scheduled yet. We're thinking of going out of network so we were in the process of researching good ones. We're leaving because the FS my dr recommended before did not work out at all. The one we actually decided on for my myomectomy was great, but his location is not convenient and to be honest dh doesn't care for him as much as I do. lol So.... anyhow we found a highly recommended place yesterday. So I'll call in today to see if they'll take us.


SMfirst thanks. I love hearing stories like that. I think they should be told often and as much as possible. Thanks for sharing.

Soleil-love your PMA girl! It's shining through and through. I am so excited for you..

Rosa-I know how you feel honey! Sometimes we just have our own expectations and when we don't meet them it upsets us! Hoping you feel better! I think the the nurse is right. It only takes one! Praying for that one happy huggy snuggly bean for ya!

Aisak-thanks for the list of vits. I've been receiving alot of good advice and tips to help dh increase his healthy swimmer!

Afm, cd 8. While we set up our FS visit we will still try this cycle. We're not giving up.

Once again thanks for all of your support. It really makes all the difference.

I have been in many threads. It's a lot to keep up w/ especially when you're not here as much in the first place. I've only come across one terrible situation where someone came into the big girls trying to conceive thread and was rude and condescending. However she was a veteran here so once the thread stood against her she sent her friends and some mods and the thread was moved etc etc.But I kinda ignored it after awhile. I didnt like it at all. I almost left, but the board on average is very warm...that's why I stayed around. I also love the vibe in this thread. It's very mature, but not bitter...not insinuating that mature ladies are bitter but just saying sometimes much experience hardens us all justifiably so. I think it's a nice pace and I pray it stays that way.
Now I've seen a couple of questionable moves here or there throughout the board like someone speaking poorly of another poster in their journal or in another group thread. I've also had someone or two now that I think of it get mad at me after a comment in their journal, but i think they misinterpreted what I wrote as an insult when I was actually trying to encourage. I guess I didnt use the right words.
I prefer to talk things out so if someone offended me personally I would pm then for clarity or expect the same of them if I did the same. That cuts down on unwanted drama, but every one handles things differently. Now I try to stay in safe zones as much as possible. lol

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I am behind!!

Happy Birthday, MrsMax!!! Here, I baked a cake for you... I bet several of us cross over to the middle 30's club so don't go anywhere! Hang in there!

Soliel, 6 days pregnant! I love it!!! So, technically I'm 18 days pregnant. That little bean may be nothing more than a twinkle in my eye, but I'm still hopeful!! Loving the PMA!

Hakuna- Congrats, hun. Wishing you a healthy, happy pregnancy.

Rosa- I'll stop by your journal shortly, but whooHooo!!! Egg retrieval right around the corner!

Aisak- Way to go girl. I wish I could talk DH into taking his vitamins...