Early 30's TTC #1

[piccolo]

Yeah, if you always get a nice reliable fade in (you're lucky!) I would start when it looks like it's almost there. Not sure where I read that it's best to try before the +, but it's worth a try!
As for the EWCM, I wish I knew! Mine seems to be all over the place. I usually get a few days of it, but it can also come and go.

 

[finallyready]

Thanks for the OPK info! I really appreciate it. I heard with charting temps you need to start on CD1 since I am CD4 I think I have missed the boat this cycle; so I'll stick to just the OPK tests this time around. And hopefully AF comes after a typcial 28 days (obviously a BFP is much more desirable) but if AF comes in 28 days at least I know I am regular again. Anyways assuming she comes in Feb like planned then I'll start temping then. Also I will go online and get some OPK tests...this cycle though I'll suck it up and spend a bit of cash to buy some from the groccery store.

And I agree with you all and the emotions that come with TTC being like a rollercoaster in that you get excited and BD on the right days and then spend the next 2 weeks sympton spotting when in reality very early pregnancy signs are the exact same as AF signs so in way it is like we are setting ourselves up for dissapointment. Then AF comes and you feel down or you cave and do a test and get BFN and then you are sad and then AF stops and you have that renewed hope! It sometimes seems like a never ending cycle....but we will get their ladies!!!

It's funny how your children make you worry before they are even conceived and then after they are conceived I can imaging the worrying continues and even when their born and children etc...you never stop worrying.

If I am back in the game with normal cycles, I am going to do my very best and not Test until I miss AF.

 

[rosababy]

Finally, you can still start temping even though it's CD 4. Some women skip their period days anyway, because temps can be higher and erratic. Or, they just don't feel like temping those days. I say go for it! The more months you have charted, the more doctors will know how to help you, if it ever comes to that.

 

[finallyready]

Rosababy - Yes I will for sure do that! I just did some research on charting so I took out my thermometer and put it beside my bed. I'll start first thing tomorrow am!

I just got back from grocery shopping and can NOT believe how expensive OPK's are! They were upwards of $50 for a 7 pack! Ouch! So I just ordered a bunch off the internet and will use them next cycle! I also ordered some Pre-Seed cause it was on sale, just in case we need it. I read that other lubes are NOT sperm friendly so figure it would be good to have just in case.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hi Ladies, I took a one month much needed break from BnB. First, welcome to all of the newbies!!!!! This thread is wonderful and we're all in the same boat. It's also a very lucky thread if you haven't noticed!

Piccolo- Hang in there, girl.
Silly and Holpop: YAY!!! Congrats, ladies!!!

And for my update.......


I got my today!!!!! WhooHoo!! For those of you who are new. I had a mc at roughly 8 weeks last summer. This is our second go-round and it IS our forever baby!!!!!

Ok, so I'm going to answer all of the questions that I always want to know when someone gets a BFP....

-How many months TTC? This is my 3rd month after our loss.

-Did you do anything different this month? I've taken a baby aspirin every day from CD1 until today's BFP. I heard that it increases blood flow to ovaries making them more active and increased blood flow to uterus for a better cushy home for the little guy. I also took a break from all TTC forums to try not to think about it. DH and I got into a huge fight the month before over TTC and so we tried to take a step back this month.

-What days did you BD around o time? We bd on CD 8, 10, 11, 12 and I think I ovulated on 12 or 13. Positive opk on CD11 and CD12. I don't temp.

-What day did you get your BFP? Today is either 10 or 11dpo depending on when I o'd. ALSO...I used afternoon urine! 3rd of the day! Hopefully it will get darker over the next few days. I'm going to do blood tests on hopefully Tuesday. The doc wants me to call him as soon as I get my BFP to check bhcg and progesterone due to my history.

-What were your symptoms during the 2ww? None/nada/zip. I didn't have any symptoms last time either until 5 weeks.


Now I just sit back and pray that this one sticks.

 

[peanutty81]

Hopefulmama2b CONGRATULATIONS brilliant news!!!

I too had a mc last summer (july) and probably the only month when I didn't have any symptoms.....

It is really positive to hear all these success stories gives me hope
xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[piccolo]

congrats!

 

[finallyready]

Wooot woooot! Congrats hopefulmama!

Lots and lots of 'sticky' babydust for you!

 

[rosababy]

Congrats, Hopeful!!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, too. It always helps knowing other people's ttc stories. I hope you have a really sticky bean this time!!

 

[Senora Frog]

Congrats hopeful!!!! I'm rooting for you!!!!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

You leave a forum for a coupl'a days and - look! Congrats to
Sillysilly, Holpop and hopefulmama2b! I hope the lucky streak continues!
Somehow I don't think it will be my month, though. As the current "winner" of the unfortunate post of longest time TTC in this thread, I am sad to say that I have a little bit of brown spotting today. IE, the usual.
I had felt a bit of hope this month and thought "just maybe" this could be it. But come on, why would cycle 17 be any different to the previous 16?!
So, I am preparing myself mentally not to be sad when AF arrives in two to three days. I have been forewarned.

to all!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Now my period is starting and I am soooo low. So much for my inner peace. I can't believe I'm starting cycle #8.
I wish I had never heard of implantation spotting - I feel like I can't even just accept that I'm not pregnant and try to move on until I'm bleeding heavy, and it just drags out the disappointment.

piccolo, I could have written this myself last month...hang in there, honey. I think one way we need to start looking at it is, since we ARE determined and strong women, we WILL get pregnant. So each month that isn't *it* for us, is just a month that we have to pass through to bring us closer to our end-joy, which WILL arrive.

xx

 

[sillysilly7]

Congrats hopeful!

Your post reminded me I wanted to post what I did different this month.

Someone mentioned that they had EWCM many days before O. The same for me. This month, I had it one day (one time) on Wednesday and I did not O until 5 days later on Monday. We started BD that day, but I also started robitussin that day. It was actually Target brand children's mucus relief as I could not find the robitussin with only guaifenisin. You're supposed to take 2tsp 3 times a day, but I didn't always stick to that. By the day before O and the day of O the bottle was almost empty, so just had enough for 1 dose each day.

Now for the TMI - I also had many more orgasms this time around. At least 2 each time.

I used OPKs this month and last, but I've discovered I really don't need them. I get very distinct cramps between 13-15dpo that I can tell my DH that my OPK will be positive. This month, I had no fade in. The line was barely visible the day before my positive OPK. I also have a few days of positives. I usually test around 5pm, so on 13dpo I had a very strong positive at 5pm, then another positive just as strong 14dpo at 7:45pm. I tested again 15dpo and it was still positive at 1:15pm, but at 5pm it was negative. Based on temps, I O'd on 14dpo.

After I got my BFP on 9dpo, I temp'd on 10dpo and my temp went down, which of course caused me to freak out. I decided for my mental well being to stop temping. I haven't been able to stop POAS, but I'm no longer terrified to take them. I had a blood test on Friday and am awaiting the results, so hopefully it will put my mind at ease. I had no idea that it would continue to be so stressful after the BFP!!!

 

[rosababy]

Silly, thank you for answering the ewcm question. I also only had 1 day of it, and it was about 4 days before O. I didn't know if that was normal or what. I'm totally stopping temping starting Wednesday. I'm about 6 dpo, and the little dips always freak me out as the cycle starts to end. So, I'm just not going to do it. I temped until I knew I o'ed, and then I'll stop.

 

[Holpop]

Thanks for the congrats & a BIG congratulations to hopefulmamma!!!

After reading how a few others got their BFPs, i thought i'd share mine too as all help is good!

I wasn't using OPKs as my OH & i didn't want the whole process to feel mechanical & we weren't temping either. Come to think of it, we only BDd a few times in December but we were lucky. I wasn't sure when i ovulated (due to irregular AFs) & in Dec whilst 2x BDing sessions were close to mid-month, the other was approx a week later. One day i noticed that i had lots of EWCM so i launched an attack (lol) on my OH. We both think that that was the day!

I really didn't think that Dec was our lucky month & it just goes to show that it can happen anytime (& when least expected).

I was sure from about CD30 that something was happening & i got our 1st BFP on CD39. We got our 2nd BFP on CD43 (i wanted to be sure) & i'm phoning the Docs tomorrow to book myself in.

All i can say is good luck! Keep BDing & relaxing & i'm sure you'll all get your BFPs soon - fingers Xd! xxx

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Thanks so much ladies for the congrats! I went to the doc today and just got my test results to confirm the pregnancy! YAY! Now I wait until 8 weeks for first appointment, which is going to be a long wait considering I am only 3w2d.

One thing that I saw was similar between holpop, silly, and me was we all started bd on the day of the first ewcm. Actually that was my only day with excm until a few days after o.

Thanks again and baby dust to all the 30+ ladies!!

 

[arianne]

Wow! I decided to check the thread after so long and 3 bfps!!! Congrats silly, holhop and hopefulmama!!! That is soo exciting!!! Thank you so much for sharing it with us!!!

Soleil! Have you tried any supplements? Quite a while i suggested maca for you guys and just wanted to let you know that i got my husbands SA and he has a count of 23 now!! Remember how worried i was about it a long time ago?? Maca is awesome. You should try it if you havent yet. It's supposed to regulate and balance your hormones as well. Give it a try!

 

[arianne]

I am in cd9 and will start the bd show tomorrow
I am feeling very positive and happy this month. Remember i was down when af showed up?? Ahh this is a rollercoaster... I am so happy about my dh results and now i started taking it too. i have regular cycles, i know i ovulate, and have good fsh, my doctor has told me everything is excellent but i do have a feeling there is a problem that is related to my light periods, i have read a lot and it seems to be a consequence of thin lining...so ill start drinking pinneapple juice extract which helps thicking your lining... Also i think i should gain weight a bit, i think that might be the reason for my weak periods, so have done a meal plan trying to eat the right amounts of each food group and the juice extractor helps getting to those amounts easily... So i hope i can build a better linning for the embryo to implant... Im positive that has been the problem.. i feel i have been having early miscarriages due to my weak and thin lining

 

[rosababy]

Arianne, sounds like you're getting answers, and taking good steps to fix the problems! It's so empowering knowing what to fix. I went to the doctor today (my gp), just for an annual physical/pap, but ended up not doing a pap, because I'm in the middle of my luteal phase. I told her I'm sure implantation has not occurred yet, and I'm worried that opening the cervix and rooting around in there might make the little guy not implant...who knows. It was just a concern of mine, and she said normally it should be fine, but she didn't want to do anything to chance conception. She said I might as well get my next vaginal exam with an ob-gyn, and gave me a number of some good docs. Then, I had blood drawn and she's testing all of my hormones. I am so happy! I know it's just a little part of the puzzle, but at least SOMETHING is being done! I should know in 5-7 days...progesterone, testosterone, estrogen, LH, etc. All of the good stuff. Hopefully they'll all come back nice and normal.

 

[sillysilly7]

Hi rosababy,
Don't worry about them 'rooting' around in there. I had an annual at 3dpo this cycle with all the fixings and I still implanted!