Early 30's TTC #1

[RebeccaLO]

Can I ask, has their been a lower rate of conception with this over 30's thread vs. overall? I'm interested as I'm 33 and already a bit concerned that I'm getting older!

 

[rosababy]

Ah you see if we ended up with twins I would still want another one! Do your HCG levels or beta or whatever it's called lol indicate whether more than one? Or is it only a scan? x

The beta # doesn't really tell me anything yet. 128 could be anything. My friend irl had 600 and is only having one. We'll see in the 6 week scan.

Can I ask, has their been a lower rate of conception with this over 30's thread vs. overall? I'm interested as I'm 33 and already a bit concerned that I'm getting older!

Not sure. I do know that getting pregnant gets harder in the 30s as compared to the 20s, as far as this thread... We've had quite a few come and go with their babies.

 

[hakunamatata]

Can I ask, has their been a lower rate of conception with this over 30's thread vs. overall? I'm interested as I'm 33 and already a bit concerned that I'm getting older!

Personally, I'm 31 and conceived right away. And I have friends in the TTC forum who are in their 20's and are having a hard time. Age is definitely not the only factor.

Good luck with TTC!!

 

[hakunamatata]

We put 3 in. 2 were great quality, 1 was okay. Dh thinks twins too. I wouldn't mind twins...it's a bit scary, but instant family! And we'd never have to do this crap again! I know it'll only get worse. That's okay.

Twins will be awesome!! I'd LOVE to have twins!!

 

[hakunamatata]

Thanks hun. I have Googled but what have you read/heard about flying when preggo? I read up to 32 weeks long haul or 36 short haul. First 12 weeks has higher chance of MC but in most cases ok to fly.2nd tri is better to fly. Oh I don't know what to do but am dying to go back after our washout in October!!

I'd just check with your doctor. I checked with mine, because I'm flying to FL in 3 weeks (I'll be almost 20 weeks at that point), and she said it was fine. She recommended getting up and stretching from time to time. And she also said that there is a slightly higher risk of catching a cold (because you're in a confined space recirculating the same air) but I figure if I haven't caught hubby's cold yet, I must have a pretty good immune system.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Rosaaaaaa!! I am SO thrilled for you!! Tears of joy came to my eyes when I saw your BFP!! To the other prayer list you, too, go!

Much love, happiness and cheer to all for 2012!

I've already had a crash and burn for the year; brought DH down with me. Had a really emotional discussion with him about IVF, feelings of resentment and the like. We're good now. Just aprehensive as to whether this is the right decision for us. But when I see Rosa's story and news, it gives me hope. Makes me see things in a different light.

Rosa, did you do ICSI or just put all the swimmers in the petri dish?
MrsPTTC - I can't see the comment anymore, but I think you were the one who was wondering about the trip to Turkey. Just do it, girl! Like Rosa said, you end up postponing for no reason. Book it, and you'll get pregnant though!

This is brief, ladies; but I'll try to be back on again in a few days. x

 

[rosababy]

Thanks, SB! I've been WAITING for you to get online!! Thanks for praying for me. That means a lot to me. I'm sorry you had/are having some rough feelngs about ivf. Believe me, I know what that is like. I'm glad my story can give you some hope. Feel free to ask me anything. Go through my journal and browse if you'd like to know more, too.

We did not do icsi, but we did do assisted hatching. I'm still not exactly sure what the difference is.

Glad you're back...don't stay gone too long!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thank you Soleil! I will see what happens this month and we might book up next month if no . I deserve a second go at Turkey after our crappy weather in October! .

Sorry you've had a breakdown already . I hope things get easier, when do you start IVF?

Ladies you need to me, I am obsessing over this 2WW!! I already tested yesterday and today (8&9 DPO) BFN obviously as far too early!! And I know that I am just stupid . I hate myself SS but can't help it. I was gonna test tomorrow but now I will stop myself and not test til Saturday, 13DPO x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Welcome back Hakuna Hope all is well in your pregnancy! I would ask the doc but wouldnt want to pay all that money to have to cancel. I'm POSITIVE it's fine to fly, but not sure about sunbathing, I think I'd need to keep belly (IF it happens before then) out of the heat x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MrsPTTC- STEP AWAY FROM THE TESTS!!!! I'm an 11 dpo tester girl myself. I really think it's too early before that. Yes, people get them, but they're staring at faint, faint, faint, lines wondering if they have line eye. I feel that by 11 dpo if I'm pregnant it's going to show. That's the way it's been for me anyway each time I've been pregnant. I ordered some UK ic tests this last time that were 10 miu. I took one at 11 dpo after I already got my BFP on a FRER and it was positive, but fainter than my FRER. I love those. Maybe wait a couple of days and give it another go? I hope the third month is your charm.

Soliel- I have faith that this is going to work for you. It will. It's worked in the past and IT WILL WORK again. I just know it. It's totally not fair that you have to go through AC to get to that point, but it will be so worth it in the end. Hang in there.

 

[finallyready]

As I always do just checking in on you fine ladies! Congrats Rosa!!!! Very happy to see you got your BFP! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

to the rest of you!

 

[finallyready]

As I always do just checking in on you fine ladies! Congrats Hopefull and Rosa!!!! Very happy to see you got your BFPs! Wishing you both happy and healthy 9 months.

to the rest of you!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thank you hopeful! I know I don't usually test this early but stupidly have, dare I say it, a good feeling about this month, & cos I had a boat load of ic's I couldn't resist . And I was studying the tests like mad, thought I saw a shadow on one but no colour, & I think I have a line eye . Defo not gonna test now til sat, if AF holds off.

Finallyready, congrats on your little girl, what is she called?

x

 

[Regalpeas]

Happy New Years Ladies!

I feel so refreshed. Back to work now.

MrsPTTC fx fx for ya. I hope this is it. I'm in the 2ww too. First week though. I hate it absolutely. I dont envy you in the 2nd week, but I'll say this I am no one to stop you. LOL test away...test test until your heart's content. See when I'm not testing I am beside myself. I assume others are too. Either way you'll think on it so do what's best for you!

I really hope this is it for ya!

Soliel glad to see you back. Sorry you had a downer towards the end of the year. It's to be expected for all of us who keep trying. But never fear. Our time is coming. Just wait. You'll be on the other side happy, giddy and hard to believe you ever had a doubtful moment, ever did shed a tear void of ttc confidence and/or ever had a broken heart about all this. Chin up! We're gonna do this. Keep fighting. I pray you and DH come to a comfortable spot with your IVF decision one way or another.

Congrats on your babygirl Finally!

 

[mrsmax]

Regal - loving the pep talk MrsPTTC - fxd for you. They say things come in threes - you could be the third after Hopeful and Rosa.....

 

[Regalpeas]

Hey MrsMax . Remember to cut and paste for me next week as I enter test/AF zone hahahahah

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks regal & mrsmax. I'm not hopeful anymore as my spotting came yesterday, but 10dpo is pretty good going for me (usually 6-9) so I guess I have to be happy! Testing sat but think AF will be here then, if not tomorrow x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Oh & something I've noticed, last 3 cycles of spotting have all started on cd25! Weird coincidence or what? x

 

[Soleil Breeze]

still burning...
I was fine. Got back from our vacay today. First email I read is from the clinical nurse saying that I'll need a saline sonogram in the next few days. I broke. The hsg hurt me so much. This is going to be a similar experience. I cried. There's just so many things to go through for an IVF. I am scared.

I literally cannot keep doing this ladies. I will cringe & bear it (again) over the weekend, but this is it. I am done after the IVF attempt. DONE. I do not like how this helplessness and frustration make me feel. I don't like what the whole process is doing to DH (he doesn't like seeing me like this).

My head hurts from crying. It doesn't help that the new clinic is not accepting the old clinic's data so I have to redo a lot of what I've already done. Arrrghhhhh. I am SO nearly over this.

That is why I am going to come back and read and reread the kind words that you wrote over the past few days. Maybe I'll even cut & paste them. To inspire me. To encourage me. To remind me that this is worth it and that it CAN happen. I just need to be strong...

 

[rosababy]

Soleil. My heart is breaking for you. First of all, the saline sonogram is nothing. NOTHING compared to the hsg, so you are fine. That's the first one I did and it was nothing. Honestly. Not even in the same category as the hsg. You will be fine. Why is this new clinic not using the info from your old clinic?

I am here to tell you that IVF is very doable. The testing is the worst part. I promise. The injections, retrieval, nothing. No big deal. Transfer? Nothing. You CAN do this. Remember that it might take you more than one attempt at ivf. Lots of people need two or so rounds. No one knows how your body will react, so the docs know a lot more after the first round. I thought of my first round as a trial run. Of course, when it didn't work, I was devastated. It is emotionally draining, but physically, you can do it.

I'm so so sorry you're hurting. Ttc SUCKS. No way around it. Who knows why we are the "lucky" ones? We'll never know. What we do know is how bad we are fighting for this family that we want so bad. How bad we want this baby. How much we will LOVE this baby. How much we will appreciate this baby when it does come. Because it will come. No matter if it's from us or from someone else's body, we WILL have our babies. You can do this. This journey makes us stronger. It builds our character. It brings us closer to our dh's and it brings us closer to God.

We love you, Soleil Breeze, and you can do this.