Early 30's TTC #1

[MsJMouse]

I have no idea what B&G is but I have really appreciated that a number of tv shows have started including topics like infertility and miscarriage in their story lines.

MrsPTTC - your FS sounds horrible. You poor thing, this is such an emotionally draining ride and he is supposed to be helping not be an arse!!

Rosa and Hopeful - yay for Blue!!!

MrsMax - have you tested yet?? fingers and toes crossed that you get that positive!!

Been to see the GP - TSH is now 13 Looks like no babies for a while for us. Need to get this under control. GP is reluctant to put me on thyroxine as I am not symptomatic and my thyroid hormones are all within normal levels. That works for me as well - want to try and treat this as naturally as possible even if it takes me a bit longer to get things right. So I declined the FS referral as I really feel that the TSH is the problem at the moment and the FS will be a waste of time/money. My TSH when I fell pregnant last year was 4.6. I feel heaps less stressed after my holiday so I think that will help a lot and I am going to organise another holiday for later in the year.

 

[MsJMouse]

Can you tell that today was my first day back at work after my holidays? Sorry MrsMax - I read that you were testing on Tuesday and thought you meant a day or so ago - didn't check the date you posted. Whoops. I think I had better go and eat and get some rest.

Take care everyone. Dinner is calling.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MrsJ- sorry to hear about your TSH! I hope that they can get it under control or better yet your vacation helped with it. Is there anything you did to lower for your last pregnancy? Or has it always been low just high now? Isn't your mom into herbal things? Maybe she can make some good suggestions for you!

 

[Regalpeas]

MsJMouse I know the feeling. It's so disappointing to hear yet again...wait. Hang in there. I know it's easier said than done B&G = Bill & Guiliana

MrsMax B&B tends to be great all around. I only had one other situation.The mods got into this one. There was a poster who came into a big girls thread and basically said all overweight women were wrong to try as it's irresponsible to the baby...quoting stats and side effects like preenclampsia etc. All the member rallied against her but she was a long time poster so her friends came in ONLY to argue with us not contribute. They got the mods involved and the thread was moved. I'm getting angry just remembering. The arguement was that what she was saying was fact so it was like we were attacking her.
My thing is that it was an inappropriate way to approach the situation. It was our safe place to discuss the ups and downs including TRYInG to lose weight. It was unfair for her to come in reprimand us and down us for trying. Many overweight ladies have successful pregnancies. Many average weight women do not. She should not have preached her propoganda in our thread. It was thoughtless and mean. But she had clout here. Funny enough many of our posts were deleted but her hurtful ones remained. What can you do?

Then I do remember a bnb friend getting chased off here by a mean girl queen b in a certain thread. I thought that was a shame too.

But other than that the atmosphere is much better than other boards that I have experienced.

I'm glad our group here has worked out *knocks on wood*

 

[hakunamatata]

Holy crap!!! If anyone ever told me on here that I shouldn't get pregnant because I'm overweight...

But believe it or not, I actually had someone who I barely knew at my JOB tell me that I should lose weight before I get pregnant (we weren't even talking about TTC! Like I'd even want some random guy's advice! He was just a giant creep talking about his own weight loss issues! I've heard he's said loads of inappropriate things to other people too.)

I've been quite healthy this pregnancy. All the scans are great, baby is doing perfectly fine, my blood pressure is perfect, and I measured 32 cm on week 32 which is right on target. Furthermore, I've only gained a grand total of 12 lbs while pregnant. And while I do have GD it's completely diet controlled, don't even need medication, and I'm only testing 2x a day instead of 4x because my numbers are that good. So anyone who says I shouldn't be pregnant can kiss my big butt.

Wooooooweeee that stuff gets me riled up

 

[hakunamatata]

ps I'm 99 percent sure I've hit the gym more frequently than the skinny pregnant ladies over the last 9 months

 

[Regalpeas]

Lol@ the smileys. I still get mad thinking about it.

I am so glad you're doing well in your pregnancy. You're so responsible and an inspiration.

I think people are entitled to their opinions about statistics but to be disrespectful shows a lot more about them than the people they're "schoolin'". Sigh. I wish I hadn't remembered now.

 

[Regalpeas]

P.S the dude at your job needs to cut it out. My first Fs said the body knows when it's ready to get pregnant. If weight is an issue most likely the body will require you to lose it first. I know someone who was a size 6 and she had pre enclampsia actually I know several average size who had complications. No need to discuss.

 

[mrsmax]

wow That sounds terrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No wonder it still makes you mad and how annoying her posts were left untouched.

Hakuna - good on you and you must have been pretty healthy to have got preggo in the first month Glad you are having a happy and healthy one and we cant wait to see pics of bubba when she arrives.

Talking about healthy - I am off to watch cupcake wars

 

[jogu07]

@MrsP – Aww ....That doctor is a jerk....Why don’t you go find a new one...??? Take a second opinion, I am sure that would help...!!! Some docs are so insensitive, a jack ass...!!! What are your plans...?? No offense meant but we are not as young now, not sure why the docs do not sense this...!!! My 2 cents would be, take a second opinion, atleast that wouldn’t hurt...!!! Can understand what it feels, I felt the same this time on with my doc...!!!

@MrsMax – When are you testing, I am getting excited for ya....!!!! fingers crossed and loads of baby dust....!!!

@RP – Sorry got you...Shes a real witch at times, hopefully you fall preggo this cycle...!!! fingers crossed...!!! I knew I was out cause we dint bd’ed much this time, was at mom’s place when I would have been due(to ovulate) and remember we know when we are and even when we are not.....!!!

@Rosa – Its a lovely name...!!! Where are you guys with the shoppin thing..?? All done...???

@MsJ – Sorry about the TSH thing, I know how it feels...!!! I had mine at 16 last aug ans is still stuck at 6. Something inspite of me taking thyrox religiously....!!! What medication are you taking??? Do not intend to pull your hopes down but it takes time for the levels to come down...!!! Also, you need to be stress free for the medicine to work, that is what I doc said...!!! Ohh yes even my thyroid levels are well within the range however TSH is the culprit...!!! But you never know...!!! My best friends sister has hypothyroid and PCOS too and to top it all shes overweight...!!! Her periods were regular, once she missed it for 2 months and was okay with that cause she was aware of her irregularity, however her mom insisted her to take a HPT, she did and boom it was a BFP...!!! Her levels were not normal when she conceived however she was monitored closely now that she was preggo and everything went fine for her during the pregnancy, now she is a mom to a lovely girl...!!! My point is you never know so do not consider yourself out...!!! Guess at this point and time we all need PMA...!!! So sending some to the lovely TTC ladies out here and also to the momma to be’s...!!!

Afm, the witch got me yesterday and trust me, this time I am so pleased to see her...!!! My last cycle was 70 days so taking that into consideration this has been a short one(36 days only..) yay...I am so happy, I am gonna start BBT and green tea for tomorrow....!!! Trying new things this cycle so getting excited...!!!

Good luck and loads of ....!!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Mrsmax – I’m 30 hun, if I was nearer 35 I think I’d be pushing harder. I think he did mean the down regging. I would get 6 rounds of IUI & 5 IVF rounds on the NHS and apparently there is no waiting list so that is good. As for what I want, I am shit scared of IVF or even IUI and don’t want to go for it unless we really have to. I am disappointed as I was thinking he’d agree to IUI. He didn’t say no, just that he thinks it’s more beneficial when there’s problems so he thinks I’ve got just as good a chance on the clomid by itself . I could insist on it and he said he’d do it, even IVF if we wanted it but I think it’s too soon. Interesting about the views on the thread!

Hopeful and Mrsmax – I’ve heard conflicting reports of more than 6 months of clomid, but I’ve googled and I have read it’s safe up to a year. I found an online leaflet for a hospital down south and it also said a year. So I honestly think it’s the NHS and the fact I’m in the UK. You US ladies FS’s seem much more proactive!

Rosa/Hakuna/Regal/Jogu – thanks girls. I’ve thought about changing docs but I think that would mean changing hospitals, potentially setting me back further if they need to do tests again. Also I’m pretty happy this hospital had (not sure how long ago as newspaper cutting didn’t have a date but didn’t seem too long ago) the highest IUI success rate in the country. DH seems to think he was nice as pie so perhaps I’m a bit too sensitive. Like I said above, he’s not refusing it, but I don’t want to push for it, especially IUI if he doesn’t think it’ll help… I’d rather have a natural BFP then I know we can have another child (I know I’m getting ahead of myself lol) without having the burden of whether we can afford IVF. If I am referred to another FS they might just say “well your own doc hasn’t said no" I think it’s him rather than what he is agreeing/not agreeing too that I just don’t like! Regal sorry you’ve had loads of problems with the FS too!

MsJMouse thanks hun. So sorry about your TSH Hopefully another holiday will relax you

Regal – my god, honestly some girls on here are so mean – how dare someone say that! Some of the threads I read are ridiculous (though have to admit to laughing at some of the cat fights sorry ) I hardly ever post anywhere other than my regular threads. I can’t be bothered with it all. I have heard either the 2nd or 3rd Tri are really bad for bitching, can’t remember which one is supposed to be worst…

Jogu, sorry got you hun

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[rosababy]

@Rosa – Its a lovely name...!!! Where are you guys with the shoppin thing..?? All done...???

HA! Not even begun. I have a few cute outfits that I bought last week because we found out it was a boy, but we wait for the shower here. Which is nice, because most everything you need is bought for you, but you are at the mercy of waiting for the shower. It's on June 16, so whatever we don't get, we'll buy ourselves.

 

[mrsmax]

MrsP - I undertstand what you are saying, especially as you are only 30. I am 35 so I owuld be pushing, pushing, pushing. can I just say - I am sooo jealous you get 5 free IVFs! That is crazy - especially as we get none here. Howwever, hopefully you wont need them

Rosa - I love the sound of US style baby showers. They are growing in popularity here, but I have never been to one. I dont think peopel buy really big gifts either - I think I need to move to the US

 

[rosababy]

They're fun, but they have the potential to be kind of lame. Totally depends on the ladies there and the activities. and a lot of ladies go in on a big present together, so it's a great way to get your stroller system or breast pump or whatever. They usually buy little things to go along with it, an outfit, pacifiers, a toy, etc.

 

[mrsmax]

sounds good to me. I guess they might be popular in the UK by the time I need to worry about it

 

[MrsPTTC]

can I just say - I am sooo jealous you get 5 free IVFs!

Shit sorry I made a typo! It's 3 rounds not 5, 5 would be amazing!!

Not long now til testing! How are you feeling?

Rosa, I've been to a shower over here, they're definitely getting more popular. My MIL wants to throw me one, she said years ago when I went to one with her. We'll see if it happens though. I'd feel bad people buying gifts for me though! But it's great fun! The one I went to was on an evening so everyone was drinking other than the mum to be! Bless..

x

 

[rosababy]

Well u end up going to so many and buying gifts for all of them that u don't feel bad. we have bridal showers too.

 

[mrsmax]

Happy Sunday ladies. Well, I am pretty sure the IVF didnt work this time as I woke in the middle of the night with evil period pains. I am fully expecting her to arrive today or tomorrow. Have warned DH. I am annoyed as i would at least liked the excitement of being able to test

Still, we think we will have saved enough to have another go July/August so will focus on keeping healthy until then.

 

[hakunamatata]

I'm sorry hon

 

[MrsPTTC]

So sorry mrsmax

Rosa, that is very true, if they're so popular that your friends have them then I wouldn't feel bad as you're giving back!

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