Early 30's TTC #1

[rosababy]

As for me, bad news. DH called the hospital today to follow-up on our tests (as suggested by the nurse) and was told that the next stage would be to meet with a doctor and discuss our results, but they couldn't see us until AFTER summer, that a few doctors have called in "sick" and nothing is available until August?!!!

I knew the country shuts down in July but it's still May?!!! I was warned by the nurse in our initial consultation about trying to fit us in before summer but that's the reason why we scheduled tests ASAP

If I can only speak Swedish I would bug them myself but whenever I called before it would end up as a long, drawn-out struggle to understand each other. Sigh. I haven't given up!

Crumbs, how frustrating! Can you just come to the US for some tests? But seriously...waiting that long is ridiculous, especially when you got on the ball ahead of time to avoid this very situation. However, maybe in the time you have to wait, you'll get a bfp!!

Mrsmax, I had trouble opening your link to your chart. It's not working for me...

Afm, I"m off to see the RE for the first time today! My dh is going with, and I'm very interested in what he/she has to say about my dh's low morphology. Hopefully we get some tests scheduled today and get things moving along. I also have a job interview right after my appt. Big day! Just sick of my current boss, hoping for a painless transfer. Think good thoughts for me!

 

[SMFirst]

crumbs - maybe you should consider alternate methods, like going to the states like Rosa mentioned..

Rosa - definitely update us on how it goes..

 

[mrsmax]

Exciting day Rosa - let us know what happens on both scores. I have an assessment day on Friday for a freelance lecturing job - seems we are all in the need for change.

Good luck with dh's results - I remember thinking his morphology wasnt that bad?

 

[littlemrsb]

Hey Caroline!!
as you read in my other post... I am 32, TTC#1, and just starting my cycle#5.... so I am ahead of you by one in age and cycle#

yes, let's walk this journey together... and let's cheer up each other!!
I need ttc buddies that are in the same boat, to paddle the boat together

to all!

Hi I'm 32 also and TTC #1 for 9 months, can I get on board too?
New to this site, feeling a bit out on my own, DH tries but doesn't really understand how it feels...

 

[SMFirst]

Welcome LittleMrsB We are all in the same boat here so we'll understand all your worries and stress!

 

[rosababy]

Welcome littlemrsb!

Exciting day Rosa - let us know what happens on both scores. I have an assessment day on Friday for a freelance lecturing job - seems we are all in the need for change.

Good luck with dh's results - I remember thinking his morphology wasnt that bad?

Interestingly, the RE said my dh's morphology was 3% on the strict "new" scale, not 7%. Yikes. Above 4% is normal. He gave my dh a special fertility supplement to take, and he scheduled another SA for 6 weeks. He didn't seem concerned about it. He said we can fix that. Okaaaaaaayyyy....if you say so....

He told me what to be eating, told me to stop drinking (damn!) completely, and stop worrying! HA! I almost laughed in his face. Told me that this was my last clomid cycle. It's my 3rd round, and he said that's enough. If it hasn't worked by now, there's a reason. It's probably making a hostile environment and not even opening the doors for the He said an IUI would be easy, triples the chances of getting pregnant, and on a scale from 1-10 being serious, 1 being sex, 2 is an IUI. He said after testing, we'd try that. That made me feel better. Deep down, I'm really hoping I'm one of those girls who gets her bfp before testing...overall, it was a great experience. Didn't seem concerned at all, was like you're very young, we'll figure this out, and he's happy I came in now and didn't wait. He made me feel very good.

AND, I got the job!

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - Nice and Nice!!

That's great your specialist is on a mission, and getting tests and has a plan.. I'm sure you will have your BFP soon..

Hope the new job goes well - when will you start?

 

[rosababy]

Rosa - Nice and Nice!!

That's great your specialist is on a mission, and getting tests and has a plan.. I'm sure you will have your BFP soon..

Hope the new job goes well - when will you start?

I'm a teacher, so it starts in the fall! I just need to go somewhere with good admin. It'll be hard to say goodbye to my beautiful HUGE classroom and great teacher friends, but I need to go somewhere where my subject is appreciated and taken seriously.

I sure hope I get my bfp soon! I'm so tired of waiting.

 

[hakunamatata]

FX for all you ladies!

 

[Aisak]

Okay...first of all...where is Arianne and how is she doing?! As sorry as i feel for myself righ now i check in mostly to see those that have been trying and trying get a bfp!

Rosa...i'm a teacher too. i'm so ready for June, i tell you what! i teach kids with severe behavior problems (kids that throw fits and fists and chairs...and often have cognitive delays) and by this point in the year i am so done. And so are they.

The SIL professional pics of the first grandchild have started in full force so i'm sitting around feeling sorry for myself. She had the nerve to tag my husband in a few of them...so pics of her kid showed up on his page. Her head is so solidly up her ass...

i really thought i'd be a mom (a couple times over) by now. It stinks. i don't like the person i am sometimes because of it (bitter and neurotic). i literally dream about seeing those 2 lines. DH is back for good in June and i am praying summer will hold a bfp for us.

i am always cheering you guys on though i haven't had much to contribute lately...this is really the only thread that i check up on regularly. Well, i often look at the bfp announcements section to give myself some hope but it seems like there's an awful lot of broads getting a bfp after 3 or 4 months on there. Pffffffffft.

Babydust, etc., etc.

 

[SMFirst]

Aisak - I think summer will bring good things for you. Sorry about your SIL being so self-absorbed...

 

[Crumbs]

Rosa, congrats on the new job!
If your RE isn't concerned about your husband's morph, I would take that as a good number! As for the clomid, I have a friend that was put on an alternative drug called Femara because Clomid didn't work for her. It actually made her uterine lining thinner.

As for me, there is no way we can fly to the States just for tests we've already taken. First of all, we don't have health insurance there and my husband wouldn't qualify anyway (he's not a resident). Aside from that, the airfare alone is just too much and we're saving up vacay time for when we're really in need (winter) I'm going to try to get them to send us the results (not even sure if they do that here) and personally talk to our nurse and see if she can squeeze us in. Aside from that it's just a waiting game but oh well, it's an excuse to try the old-fashioned way


Aisak, sorry to hear about your SIL. I starting to think they're all that way! Fx for you!

 

[MsJMouse]

Rosa - congrats on the new job. sounds like it was a pretty awesome day.

Crumbs - I can't believe everything stops like that. I work for a medical company and even if doctors are away we still have some around. Hopefully you can get something done before it all stops for summer.

Aisak - SIL can be painful.

mrsmax - good luck with your job interview on Friday.

Still waiting on AF, think that it is on its way, just marking time for it to arrive tonight or tomorrow. But that is okay. Bought a new thermometer battery so all set for next month.

Plus on a different track, got some good doctor's results today - No evidence of recurrent tumour! - one of the top ten best sentences in the world and every year that I hear it I just want to scream it from the rooftops!! So even if I don't get a BFP this month, I am okay with it after that today!

and to everyone.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Wow; there's been a lot going on in the past few days!

Birdie - congratulations my friend! I am thrilled for you! Here's to a healthy sticky bean! BTW, thank you for sharing that bit about your friend who is 13 weeks and who had/has low hcg levels. Does the doctor say that her baby is developing normally regardless?

hopeful and sillysilly - your words about the heartbeat being a big achievement gave me hope today. Thank you. Hopeful, I am praying that your faint pregnancy line is not still the *leftover.* I REALLY hope that it's a sign of a darker line to come!

Piccolo - so sorry AF showed up.

Mrsmax, it looks to me like you O'd on CD 13. Do you usually have a lot of EWCM before O?

Crumbs - WHAT?! Girl, if it were me, I would be demanding a copy of those results. Whether or not the doctor can speak with you about them, you should still have the right to those results. Find out how to ask for "copy of those results. NOW. Please." The end of the summer is just too freaking far away; seriously.

Welcome to littlemrsb - you will find the gals on this thread just lovely! A great support system!

Aisak - June is next month. It will be here before you know it. You will be pregnant before the year is out.

MsJMouse - I am sooo happy that you got good news about the non-appearance of a tumour. You deserve great news! Are you testing for a BFP this weekend?

Rosa - congratulations, girl! You rock! What subject is it that you teach? Just remember...job happiness will lead to further happiness. Landing the new job is a definite step in a fabulous direction! Oh, and I know that the doc. gave your hubby something to take, but just thought I'd throw out there that my DH achieved much improved results after taking the FertilAid multivitamin.

Ok! lovely ladies, I hope that I will be sharing some fabulous news with you on Monday. Just as an FYI, my hcg was 477 last week Weds. and 1368 on Monday. Still abysmally low, but at least its climbing. Progesterone dropped further. Buh.

Anyway, shouldn't end on such a *blah* note so I'll just add: I think you gals are wonderful and thanks for listening and being there for me during this time!

 

[piccolo]

Wow, Soleil is right, so much going on!
Soleil, so happy to hear that your hcg is still climbing. Sounds to me like you have a tough little bean in there.
Rosa, congrats on the job! I have been waffling the last day or so about whether I should phone my doc to get an RE referral or wait another month. I've just finished my 12th cycle, but it's not quite a year yet since we started trying. And she's already done blood work and an ultrasound. I just don't want to be THAT patient - the hypochondriac who overreacts too much. Fat chance, I am already sooo that patient... But Rosa your experience with your RE really encourages me. Maybe it is time to move on and take some more action!
Aisak, I so hear you on not liking the person you are while TTC. I find myself wanting to punch everyone with a pregnant belly. It's so ridiculous but the emotions are so raw and I can't turn them off no matter how much I try to think logically. I have realized that I am angry that I haven't conceived yet, not just sad. And since it's no one's fault, the only people I can direct that anger at are people who manage to get pregnant just by thinking about it. It's sometimes easier when people say or do insensitive things because then I can be angry justifiably!
Of course that doesn't apply to the ladies here who have gotten their bfp. It's different when I know how we all have had the same struggle. So Birdie, big congrats!

 

[SMFirst]

piccolo - I know we all feel that jealousy/negativity. It sucks but it's just a fact of life.

Soleil - keep on truckin - stay positive!!

mrsjmouse - no tumor is great news!!

AFM - I am using my favorite office-speak: "Managing Expections" for this cycle. I would love to see a BFP by this weekend, but I know that I am not one of those innocent, lucky girls who has sex and boom is pregnant... so it might not happen despite good efforts..

BTW - what does RE stand for?

 

[piccolo]

BTW - what does RE stand for?

Reproductive Endocrinologist.

 

[mrsmax]

Hi - haven't got time to respond to everything I want to as off to bed - but some wonderful things happening on this thread right now and it makes me happy. Massive hugs to all xx

 

[arianne]

Hi girls, sorry i disappeared... but I check the thread once in a while to see if there are any news...
glad to see piccolo and aisak back!!
omg aisak, i can't believe your hubby is back... makes me realized how looong i've been trying! I hope you get your bfp faster than me...

soleil... praying for your bean

sorry ladies, i know i keep saying this, but I will be getting up-to-date and respond properly... just wanted to say a quick hi for now

Oh before I forget! congrats birdie!!!

and Rosa! glad to hear you went to see an specialist... so are you considering an IUI for next cycle? I am considering doing one after this cycle (AF should we coming any day now)... I will let you girls know how it goes...

lots of XOXO for all of you!!!

 

[Aisak]

Hubby isn't back just yet...one more month to go! He is visiting this weekend though, yay! And of course i'm only on CD3. Oh well.