Early 30's TTC #1

[MrsPTTC]

That blog's great Aisak! Thanks x

hopeful - so sorry you found it painful, but great you had DH there to support you, I was by myself! It's a shame they found "something" but at least you will get some answers and once sorted it will help you conceive! I'm really surprised though that he mentioned surrogacy when you've had only 2 MC's. I don't mean that how it sounds and don't mean to belittle them, as I can only imagine how painful it is having one never mind two, but having more than one seems quite common looking at the profile's of some of the ladies on here Is there another reason he doesn't think you can carry to term? Sending you hunni x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Even though it's "only" been two they have been unusual and haven't followed the norm. I had retained products of conception (nasty phrase) after the first which means that the doctor accidentally left stuff in my uterus after the first D&C so I had to have a second. It then took over two months for me to get a negative pregnancy test. I think the average person doesn't have HCG in their system 2-4 weeks after. Then after my second mc (3rd D&C) I still had a positive test over three months later.

This is very abnormal and he's trying to determine why. He brought up possible reasons why this could be happening and I brought up an additional reason that I had read about that may be contributing. He said, well if that's the case we may need to borrow a uterus for nine months, but most likely it's not so lets not jump ahead. So of course, I go straight home and google it and read about the massive price tag on it unless you can find someone you know or (and it seriously said this) have someone in India carry it for you. Apparently you can get a great deal in India. Ummm....no offense to India, but it would be hard enough for someone in another US State to do it let alone another country, especially, another country with a infant mortality rate almost 10x that of the US. So in his defense, he only said it because I asked about a condition that I had read about. The HSG ruled this condition out so that's a good thing!

having more than one seems quite common looking at the profile's of some of the ladies on here I

One thing to remember about this site is it is not an accurate representation of the average population. I have read about SEVERAL girls on here who have had all the way up to 10 mc's, but that's not normal. 2 is not terribly uncommon, but three or more almost always indicates there's a reason that it's happening. Someone said one time- think of miscarriages like a die. Imagine that throwing the die and landing on one is a miscarriage. We all have a fairly decent (1 in 6) chance of landing on a one. Throw the die again and landing one one again? Ok, a little more unusual, but could totally happen. Just really bad luck. Landing on a one 3 or more times then we start to say, ok, something is up with this die. It's weighted or something because obviously we are landing on a one statistically more than we should. My situation is a little different just because it appears that my doctors are leaving stuff in there and the question is why. If my uterus is shaped abnormal and getting in the way of the egg being in a nice cushy spot they hope to find what it is and correct it to increase my chances. We'll see what Tuesday brings!

I'm not offended by what you said. I've just rambled on. I just don't think I can go through it again so I've been fighting like hell to get answers. We plan to adopt if it happens again. I think I've aged 5 years in the last one year.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hopeful... I just thought surrogacy seemed like a huge next step, but obviously there are is reason for him to say that, with what you've been through, how horrible . Yeah I know what you mean, a lot of the ladies on BnB, epecially those that have been here a while, are here as they've problems conceiving, so not Miss/Mrs average. I know a few people IRL who have had 1 miscarriage, but I have to admit I don't know anyone with 2. Hope you get your answers on Tuesday hun. I don't blame you for not wanting to go through it again, I hope you get your sticky soon. And OMG they suggested getting a surrogate in India !! LOL x

 

[Crumbs]

Aisak, that blog's awesome! She's my hero after posting that! I read this from a girl I knew in back in college and it just about broke my heart!

"Okay... I can't do this to my loved ones anymore. My last status update was a Breast Cancer Awareness thing. When we get pregnant, I will for sure be telling my nearest & dearest in a better way than a Facebook status update. Forgive me but I wanted to show my support for The Cure. Please continue to pray for us so that God may bless us with a bundle of joy (or two) soon. Thank you."

 

[rosababy]

Hi, ladies! So, I got my IVF schedule Friday! Injections start Sept 16, retrieval on Oct 7 and transfer on the 10th or 12th. Probably the 12th, since he mentioned he wanted to do a 5 day blast.

BUT...when I was making my dozens of appointments, as we got to the retrieval week, I have like 4 appointments 4 days in a row. The receptionist was like oh doc is out of town. That's okay the nurse can do it. We kept going and he's clearly gone all week, and I'm like ummm...is this going to be an issue?? So, she was like let me talk to him on Tuesday and get back to you. He may have to change your schedule. I'm like if I EVEN have to wait another cycle because he's sipping mai tais on the beach, I will be LIVID. My dh is like well he does have a life...I'm like I DONT FRIGGIN CARE I WANT A BABY!!!

So we'll see. I really hope I don't have to change it.

 

[MsJMouse]

Hi all, been MIA this last week. AF arrived last week on Monday four days late after two BFNs. It really bummed me out and I wasn't in a great place last weekend at some points in our weekend away (didn't help that it rained all day on Saturday and DH was still feeling sick). Plus my EDD was Saturday just gone so I needed to concentrate on something else other than this TTC merry-go-round. Feeling better now.

Rosa - very happy to hear you have a schedule for IVF. Hopefully the docs schedule won't stuff it up.

Hopeful - good luck with your test tomorrow.

MrsPTTC - sorry that you are at the one year mark.

Happy monday everyone. Hope you all have a great week. I am off to see the Russian Imperial Ballet on Wednesday night. Should be fun (girls night out with my sisters and mum).

 

[mrsmax]

Rosa - your post made me laugh out loud!! I read this weekend not to plan a baby for August as all the doctors will be in the Seychelles! Damn those doctors Hope it works out - you must be soooooo excited!!!!

MrsJ - massive hugs. Seems like you have a hit a blip.

I am ok at the moment and have been for a while. Dont know why. Want a bloomin BFP like crazy, but I guess now visiting clinics and stuff it feels liek something positive is happening...

happy monday all

 

[Soleil Breeze]

So I took the last clomid pill last night. Fingers crossed, crossed, crossed, that DH and I can get pregnant this cycle with the help of clomid alone! If not, it's going to be another IUI for us next cycle. Rosa, you asked why I waited - basically I've got a conference I have to attend next year April. If I don't attend, I won't get refunded for my final year of graduate school. So, given our excellent odds with IUI (1 for 1!), I figured I'd wait it out until we can have a July baby. If we get pregnant this month, I will be dancing on clouds, of course. That's why I'm taking the clomid. That and I want to figure out if it stops me from spotting.

Thanks so much for that spotting thread link, MrsPTTC! It has been very helpful! It sounds crazy, but I'm comforted knowing that I'm not the only one who goes through this spotting aggravation each cycle! I used to take the B-vits/fish oil and think that I better get back on it!

hopefulmama, I hope that your other procedure went well today. xx

MsJMouse, although your weekend getaway wasn't the best, I am hoping that by this time next year, you will have a crying, pooping, burping, beautiful baby in your arms!!

Rosa, girl, got my fingers and toes crossed that everything works out with the injections. I don't see why you need the doc. around to do that. The nurses should be able to. Shoot, when I got inseminated, the doc. didn't even do that! It was a nurse, and it all went well (the conceiving part at least).

Crumbs, I think it's a nutty campaign, but it doesn't bother me. Probably because I haven't seen it, and because I don't have any FB friends using that as their status. I would probably get upset, though, if they did. So what does that say? It doesn't bother me, but it would if I saw it!

AFM, THE PLAN: baby dancing on TH. Nothing until the day after the positive OPK and then we BD again. CD 8, ladies...praying for a miracle - a sticky one this time around. xx

 

[rosababy]

Soleil, is this your first time with clomid? I hope it goes well for you! I had mad hot flashes the first month, which woke me up in the middle of the night. The 2nd month, I was a ball of emotions. 3rd month I was fine. Are you doing the clomid along with an IUI, or just clomid? FX for you!!

Afm, IVF schedule is staying the same!!!
Injections start Sept 16, Retrieval around Oct 7 and transfer around October 12. Yippeee!! Doc said nurse can do ultrasounds and he'll be here for the retrieval and transfer. Talked to the pharmacy and meds are being delivered on Saturday. Holy crap! This is becoming real....

 

[MsJMouse]

Good luck Soleil - fingers and toes crossed for you

Rosa - Yay for the schedule staying the same. Fingers and toes also crossed for you as well!!

 

[MsJMouse]

On a completely different note (and super off topic), I finally finished reading The Shadow of the Wind (it was previously mentioned as a good read in this thread) - it was a good read once I got into it (which is why it took so long to read).

Happy Hump Day (Wednesday) Everyone. On the downhill slide to the weekend again!!!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Soliel- Good luck!!! I hope clomid does the trick so you can avoid the IUI. FX!!!!

Rosa- Glad you guys are sticking to the original schedule. It's all so EXCITING!!!! WHooHOO!!!!

MsJ- I think I was the one who recommended Shadow. I absolutely loved it, but it was a long one. I've been on a reading hiatus for several months. I just don't have the attention span this summer. I usually read a few books a month. My book club is tomorrow and I haven't even read it. Slacker!!! I'm still at work for two more hours and you're already starting a new day!

 

[MsJMouse]

That is just bizzaire when you think about it. It is 8am here and I should be getting ready for work but it is still Tuesday for you.

I read a lot of books - quite often light fiction, it just depends on how busy I am. I picked up a book yesterday and couldn't put it down so didn't get to bed till about midnight cause I wanted to finish it - silly me - I have a late night tonight as well - going to be super tired tomorrow when I actually have to go into the office to work!!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Those are the best kind- that keep you up late regardless of what you have going on the next day!

 

[rosababy]

What is the shadow of the wind about? Is it sad? I find that I really only want to read light, funny books lately, ya know? Something that's easy and keeps my mind off of ttc. I have water for elephants, but I'm hesitant to read it because I've heard it's sad.

 

[mrsmax]

I tried to get into Shadow and just couldnt. That was a couple of years ago - maybe I should try it again.

I alternate between chick flicks and thrillers and heavier stuff. Honestl, light fiction is probably my favourite. Have just finished "Girl Next Door" by Emma Noble. Very good - but a couple of baby things that made me weep. Just about to start the latest JOhn Grisham.

Happy Wednesday ladies. I am entering my fertile phase so some Bding for us this weekend - but we have friends to stay so that should be interesting...

Not sure if I mentioned it, but I am not drinking alcohol for September - damn I love my wine, but after 16 months or whatever and IVF on the horizon, I feel like I owe it to myself to give it everything i can. Weekends just aren't the same though. Sigh.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Entering the fertile phase is my favorite part of the cycle. At least you feel like you're doing something to make things happen versus sitting around and waiting like you do in the 2ww.

 

[rosababy]

Not sure if I mentioned it, but I am not drinking alcohol for September - damn I love my wine, but after 16 months or whatever and IVF on the horizon, I feel like I owe it to myself to give it everything i can. Weekends just aren't the same though. Sigh.

I'm not drinking either. I love my wine too. PLUS, we live in wine country, so we always go to wineries just to hang out. It's also hard when we're around friends and family and it's so obvious that I'm not drinking. So, then they all wonder if I'm preggo. It'll all be worth it though. I'll do anything for a family.

 

[mrsmax]

Rosa - what do you say to people about the not drinking thing? Do you tell them why? We have friends staying this w/end and I know they will think I'm pregnant. I dont think I can bear those "knowing looks". They are DH's friends so I dont really wantto tell them the truth - the guy is a bit of an idiot sometimes so will be tactless...

 

[rosababy]

Rosa - what do you say to people about the not drinking thing? Do you tell them why? We have friends staying this w/end and I know they will think I'm pregnant. I dont think I can bear those "knowing looks". They are DH's friends so I dont really wantto tell them the truth - the guy is a bit of an idiot sometimes so will be tactless...

Most of my good friends know we're doing IVF. But if there are people that I really don't want to get into with, I say we're ttc, so we're doing everything we can to help it along. However, if you want, say that you are on an antibiotic and are not supposed to drink. Or just "I'm trying to cut back a bit."