I'm going to admit this this right now - and please don't judge me and think I'm immature or just "being a baby" - I'll be 30 when the baby is born. I'm absoloutly terrified of giving birth. Seriously. I've cried myself to sleep at night fretting over it, and I even had to take a break from coming on these forums because I would get really bad anxiety attacks just thinking about birth - the ring of fire, pooping during labour, episitomies & tearing, heavy bleading and clotting for 6 weeks after birth, stinging pee after birth, etc. It's a good thing I found all this out after I was pregnant! I really don't know if I can go through with labour. I'm seriously freaked out, and am wondering if I can get an elective c-section in the UK. I'm from Canada, and I'm pretty sure you're able to choose a c-section if you really want one. One other thing - (tmi warning) is that I'm really really tight down there. If hubby doesn't help "stretch me out" with his fingers before we have sex, it can really hurt me when he tries to put his penis inside of me, so I'm worried that means I would tear a lot more.