Elective single parenthood?

[MonkeyLex]

What do people think of women going to sperm banks alone and chosing to be single parents?

 

[purpledahlia]

Well, i have no problem with it if they can afford to support themselves and their baby. If they expect benefits then i wouldnt agree with that choice.

 

[DragonButter]

If they have the financial resources, why not?

My friend is terrible with men however she would make a fantastic mother. She feels her bio clock ticking and I have often suggested sperm banks as an option.

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I dont see why single women shouldn't be allowed to have a baby if they are in a situation to support one etc..

 

[scottishgal89]

Agree with the other girls

 

[Welshcob]

Go for it I say, if you can afford it. These ladies would not be able to get benefits other than anyone else gets as it would be on record that they chose this path alone and so are no more entitled than anyone else, infact I expect they would get little to no help as they had the funds for the treatment, it would probably knock them out of various benefit entitlements

 

[topazicatzbet]

im an elective single mum. got fed up of waiting for mr right so took things into my own hands.

 

[purpledahlia]

im an elective single mum. got fed up of waiting for mr right so took things into my own hands.

callum is gorgeous!

 

[topazicatzbet]

thanks hun

 

[LittleMadam]

I think if you can cope financially and emotionally with being a single parent then why not? I chose to be a single parent (by breaking up with FOB a few days after LO was born) and I don't regret it, even though it has been tremendously hard. Fortunately for me, I have tons of familial support.

 

[debsbaby]

many men are no better than a sperm bank anyway. I see nothing wrong with women going it alone.

 

[bloodbinds]

I think it's a great idea, but if it were me, i'd probably be more likely to go out and find a man who would be up for donating his sperm to me - it's cheaper and much funner!! Lol.

 

[rosie5637]

im an elective single mum. got fed up of waiting for mr right so took things into my own hands.

congratulations on your boy, he's gorgeous. i'm planning on going it alone next summer. did you find the process relatively easy or was it a major (but worth it) headache?

 

[topazicatzbet]

tbh it was fairly easy. i found a donor via a website and then used the good old pot and syringe method.

fell preg on my 3rd attempt.
im using the same donor to ttc number 2 now.

i keep in touch with sending pics etc and take callum to see him every few months.

he is a better dad to him than some of the FOB here.

 

[lushious09]

i dont agree with sperm banks for many reasons it kinda makes it ok for men to use getting a girl pregnant as "well its no diff then if she went to a sperm bank excuse" which is disgusting... i think babys should always know who their father is!

What happens if u use a random guys sperm from a sperm bank who happens to have had children to another woman and donated sperm to other banks ... your child could grow up and end up dating his/her brothers or sisters!! its just a risk that isint needed!

Also there are so many babies in care that need a loving home... if people want a baby so badly go adopt!

 

[Lissa3120]

I think if a woman can offer a baby a happy life, then why not? I don't see why people shouldn't have baby's just because they haven't got a life partner, if they can raise the baby alone and want to, then i think they should.
I think that yes in an ideal world a child should know who their father is. in an ideal world all us ladies in the single parents section will all be with FOBs and having a domestic bliss lifestyle like in the fairytales. I just think everything needs to be suited for each situation, not made as a general rule.
Just my opinion

 

[Lissa3120]

i dont agree with sperm banks for many reasons it kinda makes it ok for men to use getting a girl pregnant as "well its no diff then if she went to a sperm bank excuse" which is disgusting... i think babys should always know who their father is!

What happens if u use a random guys sperm from a sperm bank who happens to have had children to another woman and donated sperm to other banks ... your child could grow up and end up dating his/her brothers or sisters!! its just a risk that isint needed!

Also there are so many babies in care that need a loving home... if people want a baby so badly go adopt!

You have raised some really valid points that i hadn't thought of! However i do still stick to my original views. But I do see and appreciate as well as agree with what you are saying! thank you!

 

[lushious09]

i remember a guy i use to date telling me he was gonna donate sperm for sum cash... i told him no way in hell would i stay with him if he proceeded to do that as i didnt want little babys of him walking around!!! what if me n him had had a baby and it went on to meet his unknown child!! cringe... not only that but if u havnt met mr right then why not adopt... theres so many babys out their that are crying out for a home its so sad that they get forgotten

 

[MonkeyLex]

i remember a guy i use to date telling me he was gonna donate sperm for sum cash... i told him no way in hell would i stay with him if he proceeded to do that as i didnt want little babys of him walking around!!! what if me n him had had a baby and it went on to meet his unknown child!! cringe... not only that but if u havnt met mr right then why not adopt... theres so many babys out their that are crying out for a home its so sad that they get forgotten

It is near on imposible for a single person to adopt and that reasoning doesn't stand up, why did you have your child and not adopt?

 

[topazicatzbet]

i remember a guy i use to date telling me he was gonna donate sperm for sum cash... i told him no way in hell would i stay with him if he proceeded to do that as i didnt want little babys of him walking around!!! what if me n him had had a baby and it went on to meet his unknown child!! cringe... not only that but if u havnt met mr right then why not adopt... theres so many babys out their that are crying out for a home its so sad that they get forgotten

It is near on imposible for a single person to adopt and that reasoning doesn't stand up, why did you have your child and not adopt?

i agree, plus i really wanted to be pregnant, to raise MY child.

while i respect your opinion lushious i do disagree with it. you could easily be with some one who in the past has has a one night stand and that child turn up.