Email from his Dad

[princessellie]

i must say i agree with toria, i mean fair enough the email sounds genuine enough but if he meant all he said in the email then i personally think he wouldve treated you better when you were together

x

 

[starbucks101]

I agree with Toria, its so easy to sound sincere when you dont especially via email and text, because there is no emotion to it the reader has to add their own, being what seems a kind and compasionate girl, its easy to feel gulity.

I'd just ignore it, he knows you dont love him and the truth is,if he loved ytou half as much as he says he does in that cringey,vomit worthy email he wouldnt be telling you because he would want you to be happy...

Chin up chuck xx

 

[Aria]

So, I recieved this email yesterday..


hey i know i said to you id be emailing you soon and im sorry its taken this long....

i dont mean to be an arsehole ya know, i just feel like iv lost everything ya know....ma old life, my son and you and you can turn to me and say iv only lost you and thats all good but thats not how i feel. i mean everyday i think about you and how we coiuld have been a family together and i think about all the things we were gonna do as a family and now all i think about is how all those things we were gonna do as a family arent gonna happen. like the weans first holiday and the weans first christmas....i just wish you were still mine. everythin i see reminds me of you like if im gettin a lift to coatbridge n i pass the football fields ill remember those summer days when me n you used to walk roxie when she was a pup ya know. i honestly cant get you off my mind. i will always be there for kyle but i just wish i could be there for kyle with you. i miss you sooo much, i miss the way that when i used to stay over and had to sleep in the back room you would shower in the morning and come into the back room and put your cold hands on me or drag your wet haior across me n wake me up and when i did wake up youd be sittin there smiling at me with a cup of tea in your hand for me or the or the way you would wear pyjamma shorts and then pyjamma bottoms over them but they would always hang below your left hip but over your right. ya know ? i miss that. i miss the days you told me you loved me and i knew you meant it, i just miss you and i know id do anythin and everythin to get you back. im soooo hurt that you thought it was a bad idea to take me on the weans first holiday and never invited me i mean you only had to live with the decision but i have to live with the fact that i missed it and some guy who had only met the wean twice got to share that with him. i just wish i could go back in time and i woulda treated you sooo much better i miss you so much and every day that goes by kills me a lil more. im gonna go now cos im getting myself upset and this emails really gonna change nothin so im gonna go. text me, email me or dont reply to this its up to you. i love you so much and always will and you know that.
i love you to the stars and back...and ill love you forever and a day x

I'm just gonna verify..I never took some random on holiday with me and Kyle. It was my new partner, a weekend in Paris and he hadn't only met him twice. Anyway..I hate when he does this. It makes me feel like crap! I feel horrible, but I didn't love him anymore. I tried to fix things, SO MUCH when we were together. And when I'd said my bit, about how I thought things weren't working, he's say NOTHIN! Then maybe go play with Kyle, or his computer if Kyle was sleeping. Then i'd try again when we were in bed at night, just us to, knowing he cant go anywere..but he'd fall asleep!! Now i'm in tears, lying beside him trying to fix things, and hed be snoring away! So many nights I cried myself to sleep, lying right beside him. I didn't wanna live like that anymore. I told him several times before I split with him that I was falling out of love, and he done nothing, a guess he didn't take it seriously.

Kind of just a rant here. Although he has him 2 nights a week, when he says things like that in the email, I just feel terrible for spliting Kyle and his Dad up.

Sometimes you don't realize what you had until it's gone. Now that his son isn't with him 24/7, he's realizing what he had. If he's a good dad, there's no reason he shouldn't have the child 50% of the time and you the other 50%, if he's willing/able to have him half the time. Love the child more than disliking your ex. My fiancé's parents did this, and he is a much better man for it and has very close relationships with both of his parents because he knows they put him before whatever they felt for each other. Children need their daddies and they need their mommies (abusive parents aside). If you're feeling bad about father and son only having 2 nights a week together, then why not try Monday - Sunday with Parent A with Thursday night with Parent B, the next Monday - Sunday with the Parent B, and Thursday night with Parent A? This is what a friend of mine and his ex do.

 

[starbucks101]

So, I recieved this email yesterday..


hey i know i said to you id be emailing you soon and im sorry its taken this long....

i dont mean to be an arsehole ya know, i just feel like iv lost everything ya know....ma old life, my son and you and you can turn to me and say iv only lost you and thats all good but thats not how i feel. i mean everyday i think about you and how we coiuld have been a family together and i think about all the things we were gonna do as a family and now all i think about is how all those things we were gonna do as a family arent gonna happen. like the weans first holiday and the weans first christmas....i just wish you were still mine. everythin i see reminds me of you like if im gettin a lift to coatbridge n i pass the football fields ill remember those summer days when me n you used to walk roxie when she was a pup ya know. i honestly cant get you off my mind. i will always be there for kyle but i just wish i could be there for kyle with you. i miss you sooo much, i miss the way that when i used to stay over and had to sleep in the back room you would shower in the morning and come into the back room and put your cold hands on me or drag your wet haior across me n wake me up and when i did wake up youd be sittin there smiling at me with a cup of tea in your hand for me or the or the way you would wear pyjamma shorts and then pyjamma bottoms over them but they would always hang below your left hip but over your right. ya know ? i miss that. i miss the days you told me you loved me and i knew you meant it, i just miss you and i know id do anythin and everythin to get you back. im soooo hurt that you thought it was a bad idea to take me on the weans first holiday and never invited me i mean you only had to live with the decision but i have to live with the fact that i missed it and some guy who had only met the wean twice got to share that with him. i just wish i could go back in time and i woulda treated you sooo much better i miss you so much and every day that goes by kills me a lil more. im gonna go now cos im getting myself upset and this emails really gonna change nothin so im gonna go. text me, email me or dont reply to this its up to you. i love you so much and always will and you know that.
i love you to the stars and back...and ill love you forever and a day x

I'm just gonna verify..I never took some random on holiday with me and Kyle. It was my new partner, a weekend in Paris and he hadn't only met him twice. Anyway..I hate when he does this. It makes me feel like crap! I feel horrible, but I didn't love him anymore. I tried to fix things, SO MUCH when we were together. And when I'd said my bit, about how I thought things weren't working, he's say NOTHIN! Then maybe go play with Kyle, or his computer if Kyle was sleeping. Then i'd try again when we were in bed at night, just us to, knowing he cant go anywere..but he'd fall asleep!! Now i'm in tears, lying beside him trying to fix things, and hed be snoring away! So many nights I cried myself to sleep, lying right beside him. I didn't wanna live like that anymore. I told him several times before I split with him that I was falling out of love, and he done nothing, a guess he didn't take it seriously.

Kind of just a rant here. Although he has him 2 nights a week, when he says things like that in the email, I just feel terrible for spliting Kyle and his Dad up.

Sometimes you don't realize what you had until it's gone. Now that his son isn't with him 24/7, he's realizing what he had. If he's a good dad, there's no reason he shouldn't have the child 50% of the time and you the other 50%, if he's willing/able to have him half the time. Love the child more than disliking your ex. My fiancé's parents did this, and he is a much better man for it and has very close relationships with both of his parents because he knows they put him before whatever they felt for each other. Children need their daddies and they need their mommies (abusive parents aside). If you're feeling bad about father and son only having 2 nights a week together, then why not try Monday - Sunday with Parent A with Thursday night with Parent B, the next Monday - Sunday with the Parent B, and Thursday night with Parent A? This is what a friend of mine and his ex do.

Thats no good for a child under the age of at least 10.
I dont think the contact time is an issue, i think the issue is that her ex is being very selfish and trying to guilt the OP back into a rubbish relationship.