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[babybaillie]

Ive just had an email from my ex saying he will take whatever access he is entitled to with the baby. WTF!?!? He dumped me because i was keeping the baby. He also said he would carry on seeing our eldest daughter who is 4 now, but wanted nothing to do with the baby.

I suppose im pleased, as i dont want the baby to grow up without her dad. But heartbroken now hes had a change of heart, why did we ever have to split up in the 1st place

 

[edinsam]

aw hun at least like you said your bubs will have its father in its life so thats a positive

who knows things may change for you and him in the future

 

[McLovin]

what a shit! make your mind up and stick to it please guys.... stop f*cking us around all the time.... It's really not fair or even nearly OK.
Rant over

 

[babybaillie]

what a shit! make your mind up and stick to it please guys.... stop f*cking us around all the time.... It's really not fair or even nearly OK.
Rant over

I hear ya!!! I was all d cows under d sun for continuing this pregnancy. Does make u mad.

Does anyone know what sort of access dads get to babies??

 

[edinsam]

resident expert here!

minimum is one evening access during week and an overnight stay every second weekend

 

[babybaillie]

overnite access for a baby really when can he expect this? I mean how soon after baby is born?

 

[edinsam]

I think its after a month or so.

 

[Perdita]

I think when overnighters are allowed depends but think earliest is about three months though if you're breastfeeding it's later, don't worry about the overnights as they might be entitiled to it but doesn't mean they have to take it and with small babies he might decide not to - too much like hard work!! It's all about negotiation.

 

[purpledahlia]

If hes wanting to see the baby then surely he can take BOTH kids out one evening a week? say for dinner?? and maybe every second weekend instead of an overnight he could have them the full day?? Get some retail therapy in! (or sleep)

 

[babybaillie]

He has our daughter 2 days a week. Both include overnite access. He said he hopes to have the same for the baby.

Hes always been a very hands on dad, that whay i couldnt understand when he dumped me because i wouldnt have an abortion.

He even text me with a few names as suggestions. Its such a turn around.

Oh and another thing he said. i said u wont beable to have the baby overnite until shes about 3, and he said who told u this. i just bluffed and said a lawyer. and he said im not goin out with the lawyer tho, so its not what she said. eh hello ur not goin out with me either since u dumped me

 

[Lu28]

There aren't any hard and fast rules when it comes to contact, every situation is different and what works for one won't work for the other. A judge is going to want to be happy that you're comfortable with over night contact although they will want to see it moving in that direction. If you breastfeed then this will need to be taken into account too.

It's also worth bearing in mind that this is not dad's right to have contact with your baby, it's your baby's right to have contact with dad so it needs to be done in such a way that baby is comfortable and also that you as the primary carer are comfortable.

 

[having#4]

I wonder why all of a sudden he has changed his mind? But how confusing for you!!!!!! Hopefully things can work themselves out!

 

[Laura--x]

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