Encouragement after Surgical Miscarriage

[wishin4bump21]

Hello everyone,

We had our first ever BFP in November. Then at about six weeks I had to have a salpingostomy (tube was not removed, but the pregnancy was removed and tube left to heal on it's own).

I'm devastated, obviously. I just need to know how others are doing with similar situations. How long did your recovery take? I am feeling a little normal (physically) about a week after the surgery and I'm returning to work after only one week off. Anyone have any issues with recovery?

Also, did you wait the full three months to try getting pregnant again? I have PCOS so I HAVE to wait and get help from my doctor when we want to try again, but the thought of waiting until February to try again is heartbreaking.

Emotionally I can't stop crying. I sobbed after a tv character had her first sonogram and heard the heartbeat. I know that this is going to be difficult so I'd like to make some friends who are going through something similar.

 

[LouOscar01]

Wishin4bump21 I also had suction evacuation in early October and took provera a month later to trigger a period. I then took Clomid and ovulated as normal. Period arrived today so not pregnant but it felt good to be doing something. As I had previously been prescribed Provera by the fertility doctors at the hospital my GP prescribed me Clomid. I'll be taking it again tomorrow for this cycle. I have PCOS too. I felt that it was unfair to wait 3 months just because we can't do this without medication. Other women have miscarriages and can try again as soon as they like because their ovaries work! I made my choice because it was best for my sanity to try again!

 

[Ltweety]

So sorry for you. I had an ectopic myself in October. To be honest, the first month was really tough emotionally. It wasn't until after my first AF I started to feel closer to normal. I didn't have surgery- I was treated with methotrexate, but in some ways the recovery from that is worse because I bled for a month and had to wait for the HCG levels to drop forever! I hear that recovery from surgery is a little faster. Please take heart, it get's better and there are tons of us to help you through it. At least you can have drinks during christmas and not worry about all the ttc woes. Just take this season to appreciate the things you DO have in your life and try not to focus on what seems to be missing. I know it's hard but TTC is just PART of our lives, as hard as it is to remember sometimes.

 

[wishin4bump21]

Thanks so much for sharing your stories ladies! Needless to say this has been so tough. I went back to work too early and ended up having to take today off (and probably tomorrow) because I'm in so much pain. Thankfully there's no hernia or anything of that nature, just overworked and stressed. I literally wake up every night from 1-3am and can't fall back asleep. I'm worried about trying to get pregnant again. My doctor seems to think it wont be an issue at all, and while I should listen to her expertise I can't help but panic.

 

[Ltweety]

wishin4bump21
Hey, I was away--had a hernia surgery actually, but wanted to check up on you. How are you feeling? Are you back at work this week?

 

[Trying4first1]

Hiya. Firstly I am so sorry for your loss
I had a D and C back in April. Physically I recovered quickly but emotionally a few months. I spent a lot of time doing things I loved and kept myself busy. That helped a lot.
Fast forward 9 months and I am pregnant again. I am very scared but so glad we managed to get a BFP after the surgery as I was starting to worry that we were going to need support. If this pregnancy also fails then I am being reffered to a gyne. But we are paying and hoping that in this is third time lucky.
You will fall pregant again, just sometimes the body needs time to heal along with the mind. Looking back now I think I needed the time to grieve and to build up my strength again.
Take care of yourself