End of May 2013 babies CONTINUED..

[charbaby]

ZFbaby my waters didn't break with my first 2 they had to break them at the hospital. My first sign was my mucus plug, The only way I can explain that is it looks like thick green snot! Lol sounds gross but true. no point worrying you about the whole experience as everyone is different but it does hurt but is all worth it in the end . I had stitches with both of mine and for me that was the worse bit after as it hurt for several days (while going to wee) x

 

[CLH_X3]

Wouldn't worry about the labour Hun!

I lost my mucus plug throughout the day and just had period pains (which were my contractions) my waters didn't break until I was literally pushing so 10cm! They burst everywhere! It is painful ... I stayed at home til I was 8.5/9 cm so only had 1cm to go til I was pushing, and I don't think it got really painful until just before I left for hospital so I must been roughly 7/8cm by then ..
If you can take it I recommend raspberry leaf tea! You can take it from about 32 weeks

 

[Zfbaby]

Thanks ladies,
Weird thing is I know I worry and panic over everything with my bub but I'm not worried/ scared about the labour. That could be a rookie mistake I know but I can handle pain when I know why it is. It's the worrying at what I can't see I handle badly. Mainly, I'm just really curious as I don't know what happens to you whilst you're at hospital. Is the worst bit the crowning or the contractions?
Also if you do tear did you know it was happening? How gory is it and how private can you be? If I'm brutally honest I've never been sure of having dh there because I really don't want him looking.
How realistic is it that he won't see things I don't want him to see? I don't want him watching lo coming out and I don't want him to see the placenta and all that gross after stuff.
Oh and if the midwife tried to make me feel the baby coming out eith my hand like on obem I'd probably freak, I don't want to touch or see!

 

[OmiOmen]

I'v never being in labour but can say that everything to to with pregnancy and having a baby can not be planned at all. You might get lucky and have everything go exactly how your birth plan says but not everyone does. Someone can have 10 kids and each one very different.

Your DH will probably see something he doesn't want to though. My husband saw my internal organs and it really grosses me out.

 

[charbaby]

I suppose you could ask him not to look but other than that I would say no because when its actually happening you won't care what anyone else is doing. Me personally didn't mind o/h looking at babies coming out he thought it was amazing and he's seen it all before down there so I didn't see the problem lol. As with being private that again all depends on what happens during labour. I had a doctor 3 midwives and 2 nurses plus o/h and my nan when i had my first but with my 2nd only o/h and 2 midwives. x

 

[Zfbaby]

I'v never being in labour but can say that everything to to with pregnancy and having a baby can not be planned at all. You might get lucky and have everything go exactly how your birth plan says but not everyone does. Someone can have 10 kids and each one very different.

Your DH will probably see something he doesn't want to though. My husband saw my internal organs and it really grosses me out.

Eww yeah that would gross me out too. A good friend of the family ended up getting a divorce because her husband watched their child being born. He couldn't look at her after and they never had sex again!! Crazy!!

 

[OmiOmen]

Wow that is crazy. I wonder what on earth he was expecting.

If I get my VBAC I am not worried about what DH will see. People seeing and touching my internal organs felt like a bit of a violation but with a vaginal birth it is all normal stuff. DH on the other hand may pass out, since he shudders and looks away if he is watching TV and Homer Simpson hurts himself.

 

[Zfbaby]

I suppose you could ask him not to look but other than that I would say no because when its actually happening you won't care what anyone else is doing. Me personally didn't mind o/h looking at babies coming out he thought it was amazing and he's seen it all before down there so I didn't see the problem lol. As with being private that again all depends on what happens during labour. I had a doctor 3 midwives and 2 nurses plus o/h and my nan when i had my first but with my 2nd only o/h and 2 midwives. x

Yeah guess it is a spectator sport lol. I just figure that if it's gross I'll never have to see the midwives again where as i know the look on my husbands face if he sees anything gross with be forever burned into my memory

 

[charbaby]

I suppose you could ask him not to look but other than that I would say no because when its actually happening you won't care what anyone else is doing. Me personally didn't mind o/h looking at babies coming out he thought it was amazing and he's seen it all before down there so I didn't see the problem lol. As with being private that again all depends on what happens during labour. I had a doctor 3 midwives and 2 nurses plus o/h and my nan when i had my first but with my 2nd only o/h and 2 midwives. x

Yeah guess it is a spectator sport lol. I just figure that if it's gross I'll never have to see the midwives again where as i know the look on my husbands face if he sees anything gross with be forever burned into my memory

I was birthing partners to 2 of my best friends and it was the most amazing thing ever! I never looked at anything as being gross, I seen the babies coming out and cut there cords. Seen all the blood after and everything but that's the stuff you put to the back of your mind and just remember the good stuff I would be a birthing partner anytime some one asked me to its just great x

 

[CLH_X3]

Haha I delivered my placenta and they literally took it straight away, pretty sure my oh was holding out lo by then, I asked them to bring it to me as I wanted to see how big it was looked like! My oh didn't look tho.

I actually said to my oh when I was in labour 'your never guna want to have sex with me again!' He told me to stup up being stupid, and we had sex 2 weeks exactly after I have birth! So no problems there.

Pushing I think is kinda better then just constant contractions, as I felt like it kinda relived the pain a lil? Also as the head crowns it does burn! And no I didn't feel myself tear, I did a little and had to have some stitches but couldn't actually feel myself tear
When they were stitching me up that didn't hurt either as they numb you up but it does hurt a day or so later when you have to wee! I'm dreading that more then labour!!

 

[charbaby]

Haha I delivered my placenta and they literally took it straight away, pretty sure my oh was holding out lo by then, I asked them to bring it to me as I wanted to see how big it was looked like! My oh didn't look tho.

I actually said to my oh when I was in labour 'your never guna want to have sex with me again!' He told me to stup up being stupid, and we had sex 2 weeks exactly after I have birth! So no problems there.

Pushing I think is kinda better then just constant contractions, as I felt like it kinda relived the pain a lil? Also as the head crowns it does burn! And no I didn't feel myself tear, I did a little and had to have some stitches but couldn't actually feel myself tear
When they were stitching me up that didn't hurt either as they numb you up but it does hurt a day or so later when you have to wee! I'm dreading that more then labour!!

I had stitches with both and I am also dreading that more than the labour!!!!! Talk about OUCH!!!!!!

 

[charbaby]

So o/h has just left to take the kids swimming and it has started to snow again!!!!

 

[pebbie1]

Zfbaby it's good to not be too worried about labour. I wasn't worried at all with my first. I got induced so have got no idea about mucous plugs etc. my contractions only became painful when I was 8 cm. my waters did break and it felt like a big pop inside and then lots of water! Hahahaha
I had gas & air and that was enough for me.
For me the most sore bit was the crowning. It's like a burning feeling but at some point your nerves get stretched so much they get blocked out so the stinging stopped. I had an episiotomy and at that point I didn't care about it as babies heartbeat was dropping so she had to come out. They put a local anaesthetic in so I didn't feel anything.
They didn't ask me to touch anything or look at anything. I remember them saying one more push and baby is out so I automatically looked and saw her come out.
My hubby said he would stay at shoulder height so he couldn't see anything but when I opened my eyes he was standing next to the midwife. He was intrigued by it all and it was his choice so I was fine by it
Like Char said, for me the most painful thing was weeing with stitches!!! I'm absolutely dreading having stitches again and I'm not dreading anything else.

 

[charbaby]

Just a reminder to all UK ladies that Asda baby event starts tomorrow x

 

[CLH_X3]

Just a reminder to all UK ladies that Asda baby event starts tomorrow x

It's already on in most stores, just bought some nappies and wipes

 

[charbaby]

Just a reminder to all UK ladies that Asda baby event starts tomorrow x

It's already on in most stores, just bought some nappies and wipes

Oh is it lol starts in mine tomorrow

 

[CLH_X3]

Just a reminder to all UK ladies that Asda baby event starts tomorrow x

It's already on in most stores, just bought some nappies and wipes

Oh is it lol starts in mine tomorrow

It's supposed to start in all of them tomorrow but every year there early!

for those that don't no, huggies newborn starter kits are £3, and inside you get £2 off coupon fr your next box, so while the sale is on you can keep getting boxes for £1 after the first spend of £3!
Inside you get a pack nappies, pack wet wipes and cotton wipes which is handy for the hospital
Bought my first box today and will get the others tomorrow

 

[babyface15]

thanks for all the tips ladies. I have a feeling dh is going to be good about it. He doesn't get grossed out easily by what he sees as normal bodily functiob (or even abnormal ) but I do think he'll be stressed seeing me in pain.

 

[charbaby]

Just a reminder to all UK ladies that Asda baby event starts tomorrow x

It's already on in most stores, just bought some nappies and wipes

Oh is it lol starts in mine tomorrow

It's supposed to start in all of them tomorrow but every year there early!

for those that don't no, huggies newborn starter kits are £3, and inside you get £2 off coupon fr your next box, so while the sale is on you can keep getting boxes for £1 after the first spend of £3!
Inside you get a pack nappies, pack wet wipes and cotton wipes which is handy for the hospital
Bought my first box today and will get the others tomorrow

My store must be lazy then! O/h works at Asda in the bakery and said it hasn't started yet

 

[babyface15]

pebbie, mizzpodd, omni or others with experience with the low placenta - the past two nights I've had so much pressure and heaviness down around my pubic line that only seemed to go away after lying down for a few hours. it slowly came on as the day went on but was worst at night. any of you get this? better yet any of you regular placenta moms get this, don't know maybe it's a normal pg pain or not lol!