End of the road?

[JASMAK]

I am 4 1/2 years without bcp. There is some discrepency between my husband and I of how long we have been really TRYING TRYING in there. He claims 3 1/2 years, but I have only been obssessing since about Dec. 2006. At any rate...nothing is happening. Well, sure I got pregnant three times (assisted) but all ended in miscarriage. Now I have been referred to IVF, which I cannot afford and also I was cautioned about using IVF as I have recurrent miscarriage as well. So...what now? Am I at that dead end? Is this the end of this now? Do I just accept it and try to deal with it? Do I fight longer (I am 35 in Feb) and try to keep the fake smile going? Do I buy a puppy and replace the hole in my life? I wish there was someone on here who did step away and how they handled this or any advice. I have not given up this second. I am taking Clomid this cycle and I have my "second opinion" on Oct 27 or some far away date. I am just letting my mind wander there, that's all.

 

[lioness168]

Awww Jasmak sounds like you are having a really shitty time at the moment, sorry to hear. A second opinion sounds like a great idea. Have you had a lap or a HSG to find out why you are having recurrent m/c's? I have also heard there are some blood tests or something where they check certain things to see if its that that's causing the m/c's...sorry I don't know the name of what it is they check for. Never give up hope, where there is a will there is a way....I do not know if there is anything I can say to make it any better, but you are in my thoughts and can only imagine the pain you are in at the moment. You are not alone even though you feel like it at times.

 

[JASMAK]

Thanks. I have had an HSG, lap, hyserterscopy, hydrotubation, D&C, blood work, and I have tried Clomid and Prometrium. There is only one thing I haven't tried...dropping significant weight. I can't seem to lose, but, I think that I need to take it seriously. I am 5'8" and about 200lbs. I think I was 160lbs last time I got pregnant (it has never been easy for me to get pregnant). My specialist told me that the weight I am should not have any impact, but I am beginning to wonder if he is mistaken.

 

[sleepycat]

I am in a similar place Jasmak. I turned 35 in July. I was pregnant at the time and hoping I had finally made it. I had to have a D&C one week ago after a missed m/c. The fetus stopped growing at 6 weeks, I found out at 9. Horrible. It was my third m/c too, but my first m/mc.

I finally found out in December after 3 years of ttc that I was not ovulating due to a micro prolactinoma. I begged the local doc to test me and he did some useless random estro and prog. testing but at no particular time of the month! It took 3 years to get a diagnosis. I fell pregnant the month after I started taking dostinex but m/c at 5 weeks. I had faint positives for the next 2 cycles also, but got my period almost on time (chemical pregs I guess). Now I have found out just recently that I have a low amh, which explains the recurrent miscarriage but has broken my heart.

I am angry it took the medical profession so long to take me seriously. As I am suffering secondary infertilty they are very casual about helping you. I have learned to be more proactive.

I DONT THINK IT IS THE END OF THE ROAD. DONT GIVE UP.

I am getting proactive with accupuncture, chinese herbs and a list of supplements.

Google "the pregnancy miracle", it is a pretty affordable guide to boosting your fertilty, the author gives you personal support and help. She provides a very extensive list of suppliments and lifestyle changes to boost your Ovaries and egg quality.

There are cases of women with neglible AMH concieving and having healthy babies. I found these in a medical article and have seen it referred too on other sites. How is it that woman accidently have healthy children after they have "gone"through menopause? There must be a few good eggs till the end. This is what I am praying for.

I may never have had a brilliant AMH level, given I was only 34 when I got the bad news! But I have managed to have 2 healthy children, one in my later 20's, naturally, and never dreamed I'd face this hurdle. Unfortunately, I am obviously one of those people who face reduced fertility at an earlier age and I have to work hard at it now.

You may have excellent AMH, and if you do, no way should you even be thinking of giving up till your 50! If you don't, it is new and the goal posts seem to be changing already.

Best of luck and chin up. It aint over yet.

 

[Smiler13]

Jasmak, sorry that you're having a bad time right now - do you still have your appointment on 27th? If so, hope it goes well.

I guess that there're lots of women out there who have taken the decision to stop trying, but don't suppose they'd want to come on baby and bump! It's a really difficult call. And you're right, it's so hard to keep smiling sometimes!

Best wishes.