engagment party? did you have one?

[lynne192]

i was wondering if anyone on here had or not had an engagement party? me and my partner got engaged at christmas time and his mother offered to throw up a sort of pudding engagement party, my partner said no because he doesn't get on with his family but i still want to have a engagement party even if its just a small one, only thing i keep thinkig about is that my family live nowhere near my OH's family so i am worried if we did have one that would only end up with one side of the family so might need to have two bloody engagement parties....

my partner thought something closer to our wedding would be better but i feel as though our families are not taking our engagement seriously, we have said we want to wait a while before we get married because of money and such plus we're TTC and wanted to put all money we have into helping us on that front....

anyways want to hear all your experiences in engagement parties....

 

[missy123]

i didnt have one because i got engaged around xmas too and didnt think it was fair to ask people to attend,i dont think they are as popular anymore well not in Ireland anyway

 

[Kimboowee]

We didn't have one - but we're getting married within 12/13 months of getting engaged. I think if it we're a longer wait like 18+ months then we probably would of done something.

Tbh I would only throw one if both families came. Their meant to be celebrating two people and families coming together after all x

 

[lynne192]

thank you both, i just don't know what to do more full of a story is on my other post thread: https://www.babyandbump.com/bride-beyond/339996-cant-stop-watching-four-weddings-its-causing-terrible-emotions.html

 

[mushmouth]

We didnt have one either - we were married within 9 months of the engagement but even before the date was set we never even discussed it off to read your other post
x

 

[lynne192]

i just thought it was a good idea means i can also see who i should invite to the wedding, cause right now i only really know my partners family from abroad never mind scotland. i guess just wanted a little ecknowledgement about our relationship taking the next step? we talked and my OH said he was worried his family would think we are tooo young? we're in our 20's and been together years, my son sadly is not his but we do so much together, his mother was never married but his grandparents are almost 100 and they have been married since they meet at uni when they were in thier late teens early 20's so i think they would not dissaprove.

 

[till bob]

we had one it was amazin for everyone to get together and celebrate and get lots of prezzies lol that wasnt the only reason honestly i would have one its a very special time memories u dont forget xx

 

[mushmouth]

As I've jsut said on the other thread - its totally reasonable to want that ackowledgment and I think you're right, 20's and been together years is not too young to get engaged, esp not if you're not getting married tomorrow (We married at 22 and 27)... so long as you and OH are happy, in love and commited, other people should be able to accept it.

 

[lynne192]

yeah when i was talking to my partner about it i was saying well an engagement party we'll get loads of gifts lol.... was a joke... surely thought if people give you an engagement gift they don't need to buy you a wedding one, i wanted to do it for our families to meet etc plus its going to be ages before we get married, but we don't live together... so should an engagement party be a no-no?

 

[Boony]

we had one. We got engaged in the october had the engagement party in the January and got married in the August.

At the time we were living in Elgin (scotland) and our families were in Grimsby (England) and although our families had met before they didnt know each other that well so it was nice to get everyone together whilst we were in England for the week. Plus i had to plan the whole wedding in that week so it was nice to have something to look forward to at the end of a busy week lol

 

[Boony]

Oh and we were 20 when we got married too.

 

[lynne192]

that sounds nice boony i am worried noone will show up

 

[till bob]

i was 22 wen i got married and of course ppl will turn up i think everyone feels like that wen there havin a party if ur family are anythin like mine nobody misses a free buffet and a good piss up lol xx

 

[Sambatiki]

Hi there,

We got engaged Xmas day and waited until April to have a party. It doesnt need to be expensive.... we didnt ask for gifts but naturally people did want to get is something... so we just asked for vouchers, which you'll be able to use for wedding things or use for when you get your house together.

 

[lynne192]

is it too late to throw an engagment party now since we got engaged in december. we were just sooo caught up in our pregnacy (i was pregnant but lost baby to ectopic in feb) so never done anything about it, since had time to cope with our loss and stuff been thinking about it more.

 

[Sambatiki]

Nahhh I dont think so!!! Go for it... if people ask just say you wanted to wait until the weather was better and not too close to xmas!!!

 

[mushmouth]

I agree with Samba!!

 

[lynne192]

thank you all, just been dead overwhelming year lol.... really want something good to concentrate on you know?

 

[mushmouth]

and you deserve it hon

 

[Sambatiki]

Yeah understand.... we've stopped TTC to concentrate on our wedding etc... all gets too much sometimes doesnt it.