ever get frowned upon?

[emlubu]

That's terrible! My daughter is a terror in the shops sometimes but that's only part of growing up, I believe if I was still with her dad he would let her away with a lot more tho!! And 1 it's none of the shops women business... Cheeky cow.

On the bus I often get the looks "another young single parent" hello I'm 26 and yeh a single parent but why r most of us single parents? Cos men can't keep it in there pants.

 

[peapod11]

I'm pregnant and my ex of 4years give me a choice to go it all alone or not have it and live happily ever after with him! I choose to keep my baby and I have recently been told that I have gained alot of respect from people to make sure a livid changing decision, especially because I was still in love with my boyfriend and having him walk away when I could of choose the easy route!
My point being do not let anyone look down at u! Infact if anything people should admire single parents, no1 asks to be in this situation and outsiders don't no your circumstances behind why your doing it alone and doing it Alone is double the work than having a partner around! If I ever come across someone looking down or commenting on me or my child I won't hestiate to put them in their place! Don't let anyone make u feel ur not doing anything less than an amazing job

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

haha good point! & if i'd of stayed with my ex it'd of been just as good as being a single oarent anyway! So i'd rather do it all myself x

 

[nickyXjayno]

do people actually give you all funny looks/judge or is it just your perception?
only reason I ask is I noticed a lot of you say you get funny looks when out alone preg/with kids & no wedding rings.
I'm always out on my own as oh works & have noticed no funny looks or questions & look just like you lot shopping with baby alone.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

funny looks dont bother me, cos all i think is, if you think something or have something to say then say it dont just hide behind your snotty face & look down on me! But i have had several people make digs at me .. Although yesterday i was out shopping & a lad what worked in 1 of the shops said my son was the pollitest toddler he has ever come across so there are obviously some nice people out there what dont judge x

 

[BadassMom]

I just turned 24 but I look pretty young. A few weeks ago I was waiting in a pizza shop for my food to be ready and I was talking to the older guy who worked there. For some reason I mentioned I was pregnant and he said, "well at least you can still afford pizza". That REALLY pissed me off because I have a great job and make at least twice what he does. But because I look young and am pregnant he ASSUMED I didn't have any money. Jerk....

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

I just turned 24 but I look pretty young. A few weeks ago I was waiting in a pizza shop for my food to be ready and I was talking to the older guy who worked there. For some reason I mentioned I was pregnant and he said, "well at least you can still afford pizza". That REALLY pissed me off because I have a great job and make at least twice what he does. But because I look young and am pregnant he ASSUMED I didn't have any money. Jerk....

people like this deserve a punch & if people werent pregnant or had a kid in tow i'm sure they would of got one byy now! X

 

[Sophie1205]

It really annoys me when people look down on single parents (especially young ones). I'm 21 but look a lot younger and when I've told people i.e. mum's at the school that I'm alone with Leo they just go silent and look away. I for one am PROUD of being a single mum. It is NOT my fault I'm a single mum, and I am bringing my child up just fine regardless of my marital status. x

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

It really annoys me when people look down on single parents (especially young ones). I'm 21 but look a lot younger and when I've told people i.e. mum's at the school that I'm alone with Leo they just go silent and look away. I for one am PROUD of being a single mum. It is NOT my fault I'm a single mum, and I am bringing my child up just fine regardless of my marital status. x

thats what my mate has said about mams at school. I just think their snobs if i'm honest & if any of them look down on me i'll say something. To say they're looking down on young single mams, majority of them what make comments are more immature than most yyoung mams. & they always say a child is better off with 2 happy homes than 1 unhappy one x

 

[Sophie1205]

It really annoys me when people look down on single parents (especially young ones). I'm 21 but look a lot younger and when I've told people i.e. mum's at the school that I'm alone with Leo they just go silent and look away. I for one am PROUD of being a single mum. It is NOT my fault I'm a single mum, and I am bringing my child up just fine regardless of my marital status. x

thats what my mate has said about mams at school. I just think their snobs if i'm honest & if any of them look down on me i'll say something. To say they're looking down on young single mams, majority of them what make comments are more immature than most yyoung mams. & they always say a child is better off with 2 happy homes than 1 unhappy one x

Yeah exactly. I'd so much rather Leo have two happy separate parents then two miserable ones together. Us single mums have to work twice as hard and I see it as something we should be proud of xx

 

[BadassMom]

I've never heard that before but I love it!!! Two happy homes are so much better than one unhappy home!

 

[Laura2919]

People automatically think I am with FOB and when I say I am not I get 'I'm sorry' I just say your more sorry than me....
If people want to look down on me let them... I can't help what happened in my personal life all I can do is make the best of it for my girls..

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i'd much rather be a happy, single pparent & bring my son up in a happy home whats argument-free than be with FOB just cos we have a child together. If that means i get looked down on sod um! I know i'm doing whats best for my son x

 

[Laura2919]

The thing that annoys me is anybody can be put into this situation not just teenagers, young parents, those who don't have a job. It's easy to put the blame onto people but who knows who will be here and doing all we are in a few years time.

 

[bumphenders]

I hear the whispers all the time from people who just assume i'm like some young people.

When me and my nan were shopping I remember going into a little baby shop, and the woman asked me how far along i was and had a bit of general banter, and then she turned to me and said in a joking way 'i see you've dragged your nan shopping while your OH is at work' to which I replied saying I was single.
And her response was 'oh, so it'll be the tax payers money you're spending then'
Then she turned away from me.

I politely told her that I work full time and I chance to earn more then she does in a month then I walked out.

I couldn't believe how snotty some people are towards the younger generation.

Its like people say, they sometimes forget who raised us!

 

[Laura2919]

I'd have reported her to her manager! She would of never got away with talking to me like that, that's absolutely disgusting!

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

nothing like tarring everyone with same brush is they? X

 

[bumphenders]

I was just so shocked, I just walked out.
When I first fell pregnant I was very timid when it came to things like that, and I would avoid any kind of conflict like that...Now had she said it to me recently, I would have gone crazy on her ass

 

[teal]

bumphenders - that's absolultely shocking

Laura - so, so true. I was 24 when FOB broke up with me for refusing a termination and I was 25 when my son was born. Even though I worked full time I still felt the stigma that single mums seem to exerience. xx

 

[bumphenders]

Teal - Thank You
I'm totally over it now, and when I hear people whisper and looking at me funny, I just shrug them off now.