Ex takin LO when with someone else!!

[peanut84]

OK so i know we havnt come to this stage yet!! but.....

when ur ex found someone else how/when did u cope with him takin LO for the day when they was with there new partner!!

thinkin about it i seriosly dont think i could cope and wouldnt want who ever he meets bein aorund MY daughter playing with her ect!!

did u guys put atime limit on when this was aloowed to happen and how did u know ur ex was tellin the truth!!

when he takes her i want it to be just him and her with the exception of his family obviously!!

 

[VikkieD]

When i first split from my little mans dad, we discussed the boundaries of bringing people into our sons life. It didn't last long on his part...

He moved in with someone the day i moved out with Kieran, then snuck around behind my back letting her do as she pleases with my boy. Now, i knew none of this until about five months down the line when Kieran already knew this woman and trusted her. My solicitor had advised me to go for full custody and stop access immediately, but i'm afraid that i felt that the only person that would end up getting hurt, would be Kieran...

It has been a struggle for two years over Kieran and not everyone agrees with my decisions, but i believe that i have done right by my boy and that's all that matters to me

On the other hand, not all situations are like this, some are easier than others

 

[LadyRoy]

If you met someone new would you never let him meet your LO?

 

[TiredNurse27]

Yeah what Ladyroy said ^^^

I know it's hard, when my ex moved in with a new gf (almost straight away too). I just had to accept it as I didn't want him back myself, and I knew he wouldn't let anyone around my son that would physically harm him.

 

[mskellydenise]

Let me start by saying that things will get better...it might seem like an unbearable thought now but eventually you will move on...as far as him bringing your lo around his future gf, thats something you will have to accept...its his child also and im sure you wouldnt want him trying to put the same restriction on the future relationship you enter into...if he is a loving father and has your lo best interest at heart at all times i dont think you should worry about it.

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Mum2befirst]

I no how ur thinking..my husband left me and my baby the day he was born after telling me he had cheated 6 months..he left immedietly and lives with her now and her 2 sons..he had no contact for ayear n haklf and is now taking me to court because i wont allow my baby at their house over night when hes never seen this baby since..not to mention the disgusting txts i recieved from the woman he had been cheating on me with rubbing it in my face

 

[xSophieBx]

Well firstly I'd be thinking she needs her head testing and what kind of a woman is she getting herself mixed up with a nutter like him...

I don't even want FOB nr my child cos of what his like.. I have no idea if he has a gf and personally don't care.. As long as she doesn't pose a threat to my child then I guess theres no way I'd be able to stop it anyway. When I meet someone special, I'll be bringing them into Lily's life if I feel it right to regardless wot he says.

I think I'm different though as I have no feelings and never have for the NOB, so it really doesn't bother me about him having a girlfriend. I have to say I don't relish the thought of some woman playing 'mum' with my child though. At the end of the day, how often do they see their dad? Not very often.. their with us most the time and they know we are their mummy.. so just think of that and don't worry yourself off it.. as long as your child is safe and happy thats all that matters. x

 

[SilasLove]

I might be a bit different than othersbut since my OH is in jail. But for me if I took that leap and met someone else enough to be with them I would have to access our relationship and determine if it would be beneficial for my children. I'm not in to letting my children meet every Tom, Dick & Harry. A man would have to EARN the right to meet my children and be a part of their lives.

 

[Laura2919]

Ive told FOB that he runs it by me first and same for me. If I am not happy I expect him to respect my wishes and the same for me.

Just the thought of another woman around my child is hard enough without having to deal with it in reality. FOB says he has no intention of being in another relationship for a while but who knows. When the time is right and I think that they have been together a while and they are serious then I will let them

 

[Snowball]

FOB doesn't take our children outside the house but 'if' he did I wouldn't want the kids introduced to woman after woman. FOB is very impulsive and tends to meet some random woman and think it's love and I wouldn't want that inflicted on our kids.

 

[Laura2919]

FOB doesn't take our children outside the house but 'if' he did I wouldn't want the kids introduced to woman after woman. FOB is very impulsive and tends to meet some random woman and think it's love and I wouldn't want that inflicted on our kids.

This sounds like my FOB.. Haha! Honestly, must be something in the air.

 

[rose.wombwell]

my ex moved on fairly quick and also works with this women so they'd already met and i had no say in it
i said to him before they got together if either of us find partners to wait 6 months before introducing them to our son,
he ignored it and told me there moving in together and want sonny to stay with them in a shared house, when i objected he threatned not to see our son at all...
its hard maintaning a friendly relationship with your ex when theres also another women involved i think.. def hard seperating feelings. whats the best for the child/being bitter, something im struggling with! xx