ex taking me to court for access after 13 months...

[xxsteffyxx]

I now know that it's going ahead and awaiting the phone call from CAFCASS... I'm dreading it and I have recently learned that I will have to see my violent nasty piece of an ex when we sit in the court room. Since finding out that there is nothing more I can do to prevent myself seeing him my mental health has gone completly down the toliet.

I suffer from a medical condition called 'Conversion Disorder' which basically converts stress into a 'physical' matter as my body cannot cope with stress and axiety. In the last week I have had 3 blackouts, 1 fit, had sickness and dhiorea (sp?) Everyday. It's horrible, but what can I do? Been to doctor who is just recommending some r&r and maybe a holiday to relax and strengthed my medication.

I'm just trying to think 'I'm doing this for Harvey, I'm doing this for him!!' I was stronger before he assaulted me back in April last year now I am just terrified of him, and him being alone with Harvey.

Court's was scheduled for Wednesday April 24th but I have managed to get it adjurned until after May 11th.

Hoped this was going to be a great summer, guess not

 

[Dezireey]

Oh hun hugs xxx

I'm sorry you have to go through this. What a horrible man. You just want to put the past behind you and he does this. Have you records of his violence? Anyone that was a witness or any hospital records? Get as much information as you can to prove he is not fit to be a Dad. I don't blame you for not wanting to set eyes on him again. That would stress most people out. Cross fingers and lets hope its a quick court session and he is not granted access.

In the meantime, make sure you get those stress levels down as best you can. Do things to distract you, to stop you thinking about it too much.

Let us know what happens xxx

 

[Dream.dream]

Hugs sorry you have to go through this. Have you tried seeing a psychiatrist for anti anxiety meds? Just to help you get through court ?

 

[Jade--x]

You should have a Family Justice Centre/Womens Aid or something along those lines that are for women who've been through domestic voilence in your area. They're absolutely brilliant. If you cant/dont contact them yourself, CAFCASS should if you tell them what has happened, it was CAFCASS who had them contact me. They can put special measures into place for when you're at court at they can come with you to court for support. Mine was allowed in the actual court with me where usually its just you, your ex and both of your solicitors/barristers. If you want to feel free to PM me x

 

[babycrazy1706]

big hugs to you!!!
hope all goes in your favour. take care. Xx

 

[xxsteffyxx]

He has a vast history of violence, anger and assault. He's been charged twice for ABH (thats as many as I know) as well as 'I believe' he ex also took him to court for assult whilst she was pregnant. I don't know if this is true or not... But he has history. I went to see MK ACT a womens domestic violence team after I split with him and they have records, but nothing from when I was actually with him. I darn't do anything. I was pregnant with his baby I was too scared of being alone.

As for the anti-axiety meds, I am already on a stronger prescribed dose as I have been on them since I was 13 because of my medical condition. My work are aware of the stress I am under so they understand... but still I need to carry on working. It's life!

But thanks for your kind words ladies. xx

 

[babycrazy1706]

well best wishes. let us know. take care. hugs. xx

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Court date is now 6th June 2013... 11am.

:-S