Excruciating natural m/c

[bekireeves]

I'm so glad to have found all you fellow m/c sufferers. I recently had a m/c at 12wks, baby only being 8wks. I had an inclin that something was wrong as the sickness, sore boobs, and super sensitive smell had all suddenly ceased.
Started spotting on & off- no clots- which seemed to give me false hope, Gp out of hours basically told me there as nothing that could eb done till monday, then A&E saw me on the sat & were fab- however could not give me a scan to verify, then sent home as bleeding had stopped. Then was admitted to a gynae ward later as bleeding started again- however still no clots.
On the sunday am a fantastic caring consultant scaned me & informed us that our baby was only 8wks in size and no heartbeat. he caringly, and sensitively went through our options with us & gave us ample time to come to a decision.
We opted of the surgical removal & I was booked in for first thing on monday am, for me the thought of having to say goodbye visibly to my baby was horiffic- however i also understand that this is a truely personal decision.
later that afternoon I began to have regular lower crampin/intense period pains. at first they came every 5mins, and I didn't click that they were contractions. They slowly over several hours became stronger, more frequent, with unbelievable sweats, nausea, and anxiety as i was not aware what was happening. This continued for 5-6 hrs, with staff runing round me, trying to help. having never gone through labour before I had no idea what was happeing, and due to 'noravirus & MRSA' there were no side rooms, or private areas for me to be in. I quite honestly cannot put into words how horendous, and horrific the pain was, and due to my cervix no wanting to open I was getting no relief from bleeding.
I was given many drugs (co-codamol, oramoph, pethidine, tramadol, mophine Im & IV, and gas & air) in an attempt to ease my pain, I was also given vaginal pessaries to assist the cervix to open- which did not work, just intensified and worsened the pains, which were more often, for longer, and stronger. My husband was with me, by my side giving me support, but also equally petrified due to lack of understanding & awareness of the possabillity of contractions in early m/c. Eventually when I had been nil by mouth for long enough time I was rushed to theatre for an evacuation of produts of conception, and just as going into theatre the vaginal pessaries opened the cervix & did the job intended! I still however had the surgical procedure to clear any retained 'products', and am glad that I did so.
looking back on our ordeal, if only with a few days retrospect the one thing that I think about over, and over is the pain, and the contractions. I was not aware that this could occur in m/c & am still completley miffed by why it had to happen to me. We so desperatly wanted that baby, by that pain has, I think, put me of f ever becoming preg again.The thought of having to go through that scares me so completley & utterly- I really don't believe I can. All that pain & nothing to show for it but a whole load a tears.
Is labour pain as bad?

 

[ClaireyF]

just want to send hugs to you Beki and welcome to this site, you will find so much support and find people who have expeienced the same as you xx

 

[Orange lady]

I'm so sorry for your loss. And that you had to go through such a horrible experience.
Good luck for 2009, take care of yourself.

 

[pinkgem100]

Hi, sorry that you had to go through that and sorry for your loss. I had a missed M/C, went for my 20 week scan on the 1st Dec and found out that my little boys had no heart beat, it has stopped around 18/19 weeks (i had a scan at 18 weeks and all was fine, so it happened sortly after that). I took a tablet on the 1st and then had to go back to hospital on the 3rd December. I had always wanted to have a birth where i dint have any pain relief and so when i knew i had to deliver my baby but he wouldnt be with us, i decided that i didnt want pain relief as that was what i had planned. It was agony and i was getting so upset that i agreed with the nurse to have morphine, i could still feel the pain and so i had some more. After the 2nd lot of morphine i got really drousey, but was still in pain. Again like yourself i had my family, my partner and his family with me in the hospital, and had people rubbing my back etc. It has to be the most traumatic experience i have (and anyone that has been in this situation) had to go through. However i personally am glad that i delivered my little boy and eventhough i took pain relief it didnt help or take the pain of losing my baby away.

I hope you are doing ok and taking care of yourself.

 

[Omi]

Hiya,

ive had 2 mmc's and 2 d&c's. However, with the first mmc i started mc on my own the same day i was going in- so yeah, i know the pain! But im glad i had the d&c and wouldnt ever go through it naturally but to each his own, eh? That time i said to myself i would never, ever go through natural childbirth and would want to be drugged up to my eyeballs.

the second time, however, i knew what to expect i guess. Started spotting friday, called epau and they couldnt see me until tuesday. By saturday i was bleeding like a seive and passing huge clots. It would taper off and on sunday it started again. I was in absolute agony, but as i said i knew it was to be expected. At that point my contractions came every minute and lasted a minute and a half..that was the worst part as i didnt get enough time in between....

I thought id passed it all so when i went for the scan on tuesday i was well and truly shocked when i found out it was all still there!!! All that agony, pain and bleeding for nothing. I had a d&c a week later.

Both my pg's ended at about 6 weeks. And i am today actually going for bloodtests to see if they can find anything to indicate why ive mc both.

The main thing i took away after the second mc though, was that although the pain is excruciating and truly frightening at its worst...i think now- now i could go through childbirth! I wouldnt say easy, but i know what to expect and going through that would be bearable knowing im having a baby at the end of it. Not just pain for pains sake, if that makes sense?

Big to all you brave ladies! There is light at the end of the tunnel and all we need to do is to keep the faith!!

Omi xxx

 

[buffycat]

hi ......

i've had 2 mcs, both 'natural' too....i was more prepared (if you can be) the second time round, hence i knew that i was having contractions.......it was excrutiating i agree, but then, i really think that labour would be the same too

the main difference is the outcome though......labour should be a joyous thing (sorry, that sounds a bit hippy!) in that you have a lovely bundle of joy at the end of it all. A miscarriage though, it's miserable as you are losing something, your baby has gone, and a small piece of you dies too. I'm no expert on this, and nor would i want to be, but, having a traumatic experience like that would mean that the pain, both emotional and physical are closely linked in as much as, you remember one, and you remember the other.

I have friends with little ones, and they always say that they know that labour was painful, but that they do not remember the pain.....my guess is that that is becaused they got something wonderful out of it all, whereas we didn't.

i hope that your pain eases soon though. I'm glad that your husband was there too....mine was an absolute rock throughout (i was at home).

Please keep talking to everyone at bnb though....there are so many wonderful people here, all with different stories......i have made some lovely friends too.

if you need to talk though.....just PM me (private message)

take care...

luv & hugs

 

[vickielm]

Hiya,
I am sorry but i cannot talk about natural mc. But i too have lost my twins not so long ago. Well not sure when but i should have been 10wk at Christmas and my identical babies were measured at only 6 weeks each. I went in on monday for a D+C.

I had bleeding the Tuesday before Xmas and went for a scan Christmas eve so i def know that they had stopped growing then. But i still had hope as i did not know my datess. On the 9th Jan we had the final scan which confirmed a mmc. I should have been approx 12 weeks now and i am empty and feel crap!

I went in for the D+C in the morning and they as previously mentioned at 12pm a nurse inserted pills (up there!) to dialate my cervix etc (but i was told that my cervix was not fully closed but was told not to worry at my first scan on xmas eve as that sometimes happens in pregnancies). I was not taken down for the operation until 5pm due to problems in theatre previous to me! By this time i did experience bleeding and servere cramping pains.

I chose not to go for the natural option as i know what i am like and would never get the image out of my head of my babies.

I love the saying above 'it only makes us stronger'.

It might not feel it now but time is a healer and at leat we can concieve.

X

 

[BlackBerry25]

I also had a horrible natural miscarriage that lasted a month. It ended when I started having the worst contractions and me passing the largest blood clot ever while laying naked shivering on my bathroom floor. I was 10 weeks pregnant when I started miscarrying and it was the worst month of my life. I would have to leave work because I would fill a toilet with blood and be in the worst pain.





I am so sorry you had to go through this!

 

[Shazzy]

I am so glad for this thread. When i describe the pain to ppl the think im insane. One of my friends even mentioned how will i ever be able to handle birth after saying my m/c at almost 12 weeks was bad. Made me feel terrible. I really wanted to do this m/c natural but after full night of contractions and pain, passing so much blood and huge clots, i consented to a d&C after my doc scanned me and said that im only halfway through.

M/c naturally is very painful physically and emotionally. Im hopeful that my next time i have the pain of contractions its followed by the birth of my child and the emotion of happiness that follows.

 

[AP]

oh Hun I am so sorry it was such a terrible process for you. When I had my first mc, I opted for natural as I was going to Tenerife. Great huh? I was 6-7 weeks, and I bled like a period with no pain, but this was everyday for four whole weeks! Pretty dragged out huh? It's strange how our bodies deal with similar situations so differently.