Extended co-sleepers - help!

[OmarsMum]

DS wants to move to his room, but I'm not ready

I suffered from a loss last month, I need to cuddle my boy at night, 2 nights back at 1 am he insisted on sleeping in his room, I couldn't sleep and at 4.30am I asked his dad to carry him back to my bed

Last night he asked me to sleep with his dad and he can sleep in my room on his own but I couldn't do it.

He is ready but I'm not!

 

[belle254]

It could be the novelty/trying out independence. I would personally let him sleep alone and if he wants to cosleep again I'm sure he'd be back with you in an instant 😄
My 2 and 3 year olds have their own beds and start of in them, but by 11 have always come to find me in my bed. If they want to cosleep il let them make that choice, but if they want their own independence I will accept that too 😄 xx

 

[minties]

Is cuddling his dad no comforting? I am very sorry tp hear about your loss .

After Sophie was hit by a car last year I held her all night in bed, it's been almost 9 months and I'm ready now for her to sleep elsewhere (she kicks me and wakes me about 16 times a night...no joking).

As horrible and miserable it is for you, I think you need to respect his wishes for personal space. Thomas would not want to sleep in a bed with me either at this age. I don't think it's fair on him to be expected to comfort you in the way another adult would, he's only 5.

 

[Eve]

It's the opposite here now. OH isn't ready and Kaye still wants to sleep in our room but I am ready to have my room back to my OH and I. Some nights she sleeps in her room alone (just beside ours) but most nights when OH goes to bed after me, he goes in her room lol He worries a lot as we lost our first together (My second born) soon after birth and it has really had an affect on us.

I know it's hard but if he is ready, you should try your best to let him sleep alone. It will be hard at first but I'm sure you'll adjust soon enough

 

[Eve]

I should add, Kaye will be 6 on the 30th of December, so not too much of an age difference between our LO's

I'm also very sorry to hear of your losses

 

[OmarsMum]

It's the opposite here now. OH isn't ready and Kaye still wants to sleep in our room but I am ready to have my room back to my OH and I. Some nights she sleeps in her room alone (just beside ours) but most nights when OH goes to bed after me, he goes in her room lol He worries a lot as we lost our first together (My second born) soon after birth and it has really had an affect on us.

I know it's hard but if he is ready, you should try your best to let him sleep alone. It will be hard at first but I'm sure you'll adjust soon enough

DH is also not ready looool, I thought mine was the only OH who doesn't want his bed back, he sleeps in the spare room. I wanted to move him earlier before my mc, but now I'm not emotionally stable or ready. DS has a cold now, he needs the cuddles as well, he didn't ask again, but I know now it's time. I'm planning to move him to his room next weeks, I want him to settle before school starts on Sept 6th

 

[Eve]

It's the opposite here now. OH isn't ready and Kaye still wants to sleep in our room but I am ready to have my room back to my OH and I. Some nights she sleeps in her room alone (just beside ours) but most nights when OH goes to bed after me, he goes in her room lol He worries a lot as we lost our first together (My second born) soon after birth and it has really had an affect on us.

I know it's hard but if he is ready, you should try your best to let him sleep alone. It will be hard at first but I'm sure you'll adjust soon enough

DH is also not ready looool, I thought mine was the only OH who doesn't want his bed back, he sleeps in the spare room. I wanted to move him earlier before my mc, but now I'm not emotionally stable or ready. DS has a cold now, he needs the cuddles as well, he didn't ask again, but I know now it's time. I'm planning to move him to his room next weeks, I want him to settle before school starts on Sept 6th

He's definitely not the only one lol OH says he sleeps so much better when Kaye is close by and she also rubs his face for comfort (odd but she has since she was a baby) and it soothes her if she has a night terror.

 

[EcoMama]

Neither me nor oh are ready either. Luckily neither is my 6yr old but as we only have 1 double for a 6yr old, 2yr old and 2 adults, me and do tend to fight over who gets to sleep with the kids and who ends up in the single bed in my sons room.
We take it in turns usually, and when I am sleeping on my own I get a kind of desperation anxiety and it takes me much longer to fall asleep!

 

[EcoMama]

Blimmin iPhone! I mean seperation anxiety!