F!*king Plonker!

[Jayden'sMummy]

Just been on msn speaking to a lad who i thought was Adams mate .. turns out there bloody enemies now because Adam has started loosing the plot fighting with anyone an everyone an has even lost most of his mates because of it. People are after him with guns, knives .. the lot! He's been jumped, battered an is even doing the same to other people.

Am i wrong to want to say to him:
'if you don't change now then you've lost your right to see J because i don't want to have to be the one to have to explain to him why he won't see daddy when you end up either in hospital or dead because you can't keep your gob shut or your fists to yourself!'

Just when i thought things were beginning to get some were with us three he goes and acts like a right plonker!

He is coming to mine tonight with his aunties [who I've never met before] Do i keep my mouth shut an say it when were on our own or do i say it tonight in front of his family??

Any advice would be great thanks girls xxx

 

[leeanne]

Best to tell him one-on-one honey! It's too bad that you had to hear news like that!

 

[nikky0907]

Christ!

Just as we all thought that he is becoming more responsible!

I suggest you say something to him! Fighting?Knives?Guns? Holy crap!
I don't even know what to say....

What if he ends up in jail? What if it turns out to be so much more?
He definitely needs to wake up and realize that it's not a freaking game! He has a son to thing about! An innocent little person that he needs to put first...

I would definitely go ahead and tell him off if I were you.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this..:

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Thanks girls. i know i have to say something but i feel so awful telling him to change but i know i have to because if it comes to it i WILL stop him from saying J xx

 

[brownhairedmom]

No that is not suitable behaviour to bring around a baby. What if he's out with Jayden and someone comes and attacks him??

Tell him and tell him today at some point if you can.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

No that is not suitable behaviour to bring around a baby. What if he's out with Jayden and someone comes and attacks him??

Tell him and tell him today at some point if you can.

Don't worry, he won't be taking J out on his own at all. He won't even change J's nappy or feed/wind him properly, i know ye he is still learning but come on its not rocket science!

If i manage to catch him on his own today i will defintley say something but the last thing i want is him getting in trouble with all his family [who are sooo strict] an him not wanting to come + see J anymore

xx

 

[Nikkinoonoo]

You need to speak to him Rachel for Jaydens sake. Hope it goes well when you do xXx

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

how am i going to come out with it.. i can't tell him who told me about the situation hes in because it will get him into trouble with the lads he goes around with.

am stumpedd! .. what to say? x

 

[sam's mum]

I'd just tell him you heard from someone - doesn't matter who...I hope he realises that now he's a dad he's got more than just himself to think about. He obviously cares a lot about Jayden, and hopefully you saying that to him will make him realise that he has to do something to change. If you say it to him calmly and without his family there he'll hopefully realise that you are doing what's best for your son and will want the same. Good luck x

 

[maybebaby]

I agree with the other ladies, definitely say something.

 

[Irishmum]

Yep. You can't let this slide especially if he is supposed to be acting as the male role model in J's life.

But I also agree that it should be said on a one to one basis. As little as he'll probably like you callin him on it in the first place, sayin it to him in front of ppl will prob cause the defences to go right up. And that will just make things more difficult for you!

Hope it goes well hun!

 

[xarlenex]

Rachel how did it go? He has to realise its not safe to get involved in behaviour like that. Its not fair on Jayden to grow up with surroundings like those. Hope it went as well as it could x

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Rachel how did it go? He has to realise its not safe to get involved in behaviour like that. Its not fair on Jayden to grow up with surroundings like those. Hope it went as well as it could x

I didn't get the chance to talk to him on his own last night because he turned up with all his family an they wouldn't let us talk to each other without listening in but he knows i need to talk to him an he has said he will try an get down without his [interfering] family.

Will let you all know how it goes once he finally gets the chance to pop down x