Facebook Ranting * At last *

[MrsHowley81]

I just totally went off on one, I have been told I can't conceive naturally, I had an op on Monday I am a bit emotional as to be expected, and I out a status saying "No pain today A bit emotionally bruised, I think the enormity of everything has finally sunk in"

and some silly cow from her perfect world says "Think positive good things happen to good people"

I mulled over it for a short while and decided enough is enough I am not going to let these insensitive twats carry on so I reply back " I don't really think it's a case of being good or bad, I don't think anybody deserves to have to go through this and it is a little insensitive to imply that, when you get told you can't have a baby then see how you feel, I am sorry but I have had enough of peoples insensitivity"

And do you know what I am so relieved I finally said something, I hope she goes back to her perfect world with her perfect baby and thinks about what she has done to me today

 

[spidergirl]

Aww i so sorry to hear that and i hope your feeling better soon, will be praying for you. I wish i was as brave as you i would like to tell a few people the same thing. I really hate when people go on with them self who have never been though any sort of infertility in there life and make out that every thing will be fine when you know in your heart it's not send you a hug hun xx

 

[Sophe]

what a stupid coment? so bad things happen to bad people then? only bad people get cancer and other sickness??? WTF I would want to slap her!

 

[MrsHowley81]

I know she probably didn't mean it like it sounded or I took it but it was such a stupid thing to say

 

[SwabianMrs]

I know she probably didn't mean it like it sounded or I took it but it was such a stupid thing to say

I always worry someone will say something like that to me in person....and while I KNOW they don't mean it like it sounds...I might just thump them.

 

[MrsHowley81]

I am so glad I am not the only one who feels like this, I almost felt bad for what I said to her, but then I started to smile and felt liberated, she probably doesn't even care about what she has said anyway

 

[Skoer1360]

Some people are just unbelievable! I know she probably didn't mean it the way we're all taking it but still, really? Think before you speak!

 

[phoenixrose]

That comment was just as bad as "good things come to those who wait." REALLY? You try waiting for something for 2+ years with no end in site and tell me if you still believe that. Ok, rank over.

 

[Snowglobe21]

I hate generic replies like that that are so cliche and have nothing to do with what your going through. good for you for replying so she stops typing mindless crap.

 

[phoenixrose]

I'm gonna start a new thread called "the dumb $&#% people say"

 

[MrsHowley81]

yes do it, I have loads that people have said to me, I am surprised I bit my lip for so long

 

[fisher640]

Equally true is the statement "bad things happen to good people" I mean for the love of god people, both good and bad things happen to good people. It's a dumb thing to say.

Sorry Mrs. H. I'm glad you had the balls to reply because I totally wouldn't. I haven't told very many people at all that we're even TTC -- a grand total of 4 actually, two responded sympathetically my one lame friend when I told her about BBT and whatnot she said with a wave of her hand "oh I don't want to do all that, you just need to let things happen, I just want to one day realize my period is late and take a test" --- Me too. Like 3 years ago. She of course got pregnant the month after her wedding in May. Because of course she did.

 

[MrsHowley81]

It makes me sad that as women we are made to feel like this...... and by other women, and it also annoys me that we are made to feel like we have to keep it a secret, and It has been a bold move to do the things that I have, but I can't take it anymore and I won't be made to feel bad about it I am going to go out of my way now, whenever anybody mentions it or says anything stupid like oh I have been there it took me 1 year to conceive, I will say well actually I can't have a baby on my own

 

[Armywife84]

MrsHowley: 1 , Ignorant Fertile Book friend: 0

Serves the smug right!

It's nothing but a stupid cliche saying that people say in an unfortunate situation because they don't know what else to reply with and they think it gives us some solace.

 

[StorkStalker]

I celebrate that you replied... That will teach her... Even if it wasn´t meant in a mean way.. people need to stop and think a little.. I am a coward and never say anything.. I´m thinking it´s never late to start I guess...

ArmyWife.. I adore you.. you read my mind and you are a genius... you put my thoughts into words and everytime I read your posts I wish I had written that.. AND your profile pic is just plain awesome it makes me smile each time..

 

[Armywife84]

Oh no, not a genius..just have a way with words!

I would laugh if my child came out looking like that! It gives us all something to chuckle at, which we need from time to time.