Faith, Hope and Infertility

[FutureMommie]

Jess I have those same struggles too wondering why people who can't take care of children have them and I still remain childless, I just keep reminding myself that God's timing is perfect and that I don't want it a minute before it is meant for me. I know when my time comes that it will indeed be perfect! My baby will indeed be perfectly healthy from head to toe. I too concentrate on my many blessings but I also pray that if children are not his will for my life that he give both my dh and myself peace about it and that we live life happily and abundently.

 

[eternaldream]

Hi nevernormal thanks for joining us.

Dh and I just got back from a vacation in myrtle beach and we just found out that my sil is pregnant with her 3rd.

Its hard on days like these to remember that God cares for me and his timing is perfect.

Dh and I are considering adopting. I think I feel that's what God want us to do. I'm not sure though. I wish God would just point me in the right direction. Haha

 

[FutureMommie]

Eternal- I'm not far from Myrtle Beach! I hope you enjoyed your vacay! I know it must have been hard hearing that news! It makes you question if he's forgotten about you but he hasn't so many things in our lives prove that he hasn't! I know that doesn't help right now so just tuck that thought away for now.

I think adoption is great we are actually considering that too!

 

[Wanting2BMom]

I am soooo glad that some one created this thread. My husband and I have been TTC for the past three years and it has been a rollercoster of emotions. I started with a FS last year and stopped because it was becoming overwhelming. I just recently started a new job and I think we are ready to start trying again even with help. WE are thinking about trying IUI to start. Sunday I said to myself that "I believe your word God". I keep saying that my level of faith is almost non-existent.

 

[No Doubt]

Waiting I completely understand what you're saying. In actually on a break from the docs and meds right now too and I just had my first natural cycle in a year. To be honest I'm not sure I want to go back down that route. I've enjoyed thus break because it hasn't been so overwhelming.

It's hard but your faith is still there. With everything we have to go through ltttc we can't afford to not have faith. And you even said that you keep telling yourself you believe His word. That's huge in the faith area. We get down sometimes and thoughts like that creep in, but they aren't true. You know that you trust God and believe what He has said.

 

[nevernormal]

I want to go to the beach!!!

I think adoption is a wonderful thing! What better way is there to mirror God's love for us than adoption?

DH and I most likely won't go farther than clomid before we start pursuing adoption. One of my reasons is I don't think it's good stewardship for us to spend thousands of dollars and/or go into debt for a chance, when that money can go towards bringing home a child already in need. That's not the right decision for everyone, of course, and I'm not knocking those who pursue IUI or IVF. DH and I just aren't in a financial position to do both, and I've always wanted to adopt regardless of having biological kids. The Bible also talks to much about taking care of widows and orphans. I really hope I end up with a mix of biological and adopted kids (all mine though ), but if DH was ready I'd be adopting tomorrow!

 

[eternaldream]

I was just thinking about how infertility/adoptions(caring for orphans) is mentioned so positively in the bible. Its never mentioned to be a curse or a weakness. It makes me feel even more that God knows what I'm going through, and some of the strongest women in the bible have dealt with the same things as me.

Dh and I are moving forward with adoption plans and its stressful. Its a different kind of stress then infertility stress but stressful nonetheless. Especially trying to find out how to finance it. I need another vacation already.

What's been on my mind though, is does God want me to adopt. Was that His plan all along or is it in his plan for me to give birth. Well I think either way, whatever He wants to happen will happen.

Someone said a few days ago..I think it was futuremommie, that after crying over the door being slammed shut, she realized that was God's way of saying its not the time. I think so many times we are to upset or stressed to see Gods little signs in our life. He's speaking to us, we just have to listen.

Oh and I just found out sil is pregnant with 3rd. I took the news fairly well. Didn't break into tears this time.

Hope everyone finds lots of reasons to smile today.

 

[No Doubt]

That's great eternal, and I'm proud of you for not breaking down when you found out about sil. Those are some of the hardest times when we find out about someone so close to us having children. And I think you are right, that God talks to us all the time, we just don't listen. I remember a Sunday school lesson from when I was maybe 17 and the teacher was talking about how back in the day God would speak so clearly with people, as if they were talking to a friend standing right in front of them. He asked the question "do you think God still talks to people today?" After all we can't hear Him, right...or can we? I answered yes, its just that we don't listen. I wonder when that changed...when people were no longer able to hear the voice of God like they used to. But I definitely think you are right about our emotions clouding us being able to listen...that happens even with people here on earth.

 

[FutureMommie]

Eternal- Whooo Hoo for moving forward with adoption, we have been considering adoption as well and I have had those same questions for God, "is this really what you want for us" If we decided to move in that direction, I will be specific in my prayers, I want it to be clear that this is what HE wants for us, not my emotions taking over. I truly believe he leads us and talks to us, we just don't always want to hear what he says but in this situation (TTC) I'm all ears now, I haven't always been but 4 years of ttc has changed that.

I hope you ladies have a wonderful weekend.

 

[eternaldream]

Psalm 34:17-18

When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit


Some inspiration for all you wonderful ladies

 

[nevernormal]

Have any of you done the "Surviving Infertility" study from Sarah's Laughter? I ordered it and it just came in a few days ago. DH said he would do it with me, so I've got to work out what time will work for us to do it together.

Just wondering if you had any thoughts about it.

I also ordered "Empty Womb, Aching Heart" by Marlo Schalesky. Read the whole book the night I got it. I'm so glad I ordered it.

 

[FutureMommie]

I've never done the surviving infertility but I did order a book called baby hunger. It's been in my nightstand drawer for months and I pulled it out yesterday and said I needed to start reading it.

 

[nevernormal]

DH and I started the study last night. He's definitely not that into it, but is doing it with me. Let me/us know what you think of Baby Hunger!

 

[FutureMommie]

I will and I'm headed over to Sarah's Laughter to check out that book.

 

[eternaldream]

Nevernormal: Let me know how those devotionals are. I'm always looking for a good devotional.

I'm feeling down and blah at the moment. Like I said earlier I'm pursuing adoption and I'm having no less stress then I was ttc. I just keep thinking is this even possible? Where the heck am I gonna get the money I need? What if I'm not even approved for some reason. I'm just sick of all the stress. Its just so hard to stay positive and to trust God when the world is overflowing with teen and others who shouldn't be parents. Its not fair.

Sorry about that. I'm done whining now.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[Prayerful]

Hi! I don't think I've ever posted to this thread before, but I have been following it. This is my 15th cycle in 13 months of TTC. I just rediscovered a song today that has become the theme song for my life, and I wanted to share it with you. It is called "While I'm Waiting" by John Waller. This song really helps me to carry on through the longing, hurt, and pain of infertility. It helps me to keep my focus on God and continue to put my faith in Him. Hopefully this song will be able to help some of you through the tough days as well.

(I'm not permitted to post the link on this site because apparently I haven't commented enough!... but you can easily find the song on You Tube.)

May God bless you all with the desire of your hearts!