HearMyPrayers
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Just wondering how much support you ladies receive from your families?
I have a "little" vent I hope I dont get too winded but I need to get this off my chest or I'm might explode! My husband and I met in Sept 2011 and by Nov 26th 2011 we were married in a small ceremony with close family and friends. My mother and her husband were anything but supportive of our marriage, my father and his wife were supportive as were DH's parents. My mother said my getting married was "killing her" because she felt we were "rushing things". From the moment my husband and I laid eyes on each other we were hooked! We were connected and it was love at first sight as cliche as it sounds I know! We just knew what we wanted and we followed our hearts regardless of who thought we were crazy! After we were married my mother and her husband allowed my and DH to move in for a year to save some money, it was only for a year so we figured not a big deal. WRONG! In the meantime I had been holding onto a secret from my DH and my sister...my sister has a daughter she is almost 2 and I've done everything for my sister and her baby from being at every dr appt while she was pregnant to ultrasounds, throwing her a lavish baby shower, gifts, everything I was there for her every night when she was home with her new baby and her dead beat boyfriend was nowhere to be found. Basically what happened was when her boyfriend did come around he was very inappropriate with me...he would touch me inappropriatly and laugh about it, it came to a point where I wouldn't stay alone in a room with him. I didnt tell my sister because she has allowed this guy to cheat on her with numerous woman and she never did anything about it, so I knew she wouldn't do anything about it when it came to me, she would just blame me for it and that would be it! Anyhow, I was holding the secret of the touching business from my DH until we no longer lived in my parents house because I didnt want it to me anymore awkward that it already was. One day my husband and I were at lunch with my cousin (she was the only other person that knew this touching incidents) and she blurts out oh hey did you every tell DH about *dead beat boyfriend* touching you?? Well.....I had no choice now I HAD to tell him! Told DH he was mad rightfully so that I kept it from him and said I needed to talk to my father or someone about it, so I did. My youngest sister (19) was listening to our conversation and decided to tell my older sister, the one who's boyfriend is a creep what I had told my father. My sister told her boyfriend what I was saying and he told my sister I wasn't allowed around my niece any longer, I'm also my niece's Godmother. My sister complied and asked me to stay away from her daughter, and we lived in the same house. Fast forward to April 2011my DH and I have found a place to live and we were to move May 1st 2011, we realized a year was way too long and things were very bad in the household, my mother complained about everything my DH did (walked too loud, talked too loud, closing doors too much at night showering past 9:30am) umm....he just was blamed for EVERYTHING it was horrible. My mother and I were fighting all the time, so we decided it was time to leave. So April 20th 2011 my mother's husband confronts me and asks if my husband and I were "getting into his liquor?) I told him we werent and if we wanted to drink we are adults and can by our own, he got mad at my response and started yelling at me....I yelled back....he started to throw plates, salt shaker, cutlury, and cups at me....my mother was standing right there her response was...."can you please take this elsewhere?" anyhow he keeps going on calling me a sl*t and wh*re and saying I dragged the first guy home from the bar that would marry me because I'm just a little sl*t and if I think anyone is going to believe me about the story I told about my sister's boyfriend then I'm dreaming because I'm nothing but a lying little bi*ch.....and he told me to get the hell out of his house.....I said we are in a week, he said no get out now. Thank goodness my DH was outside and had no idea was going on because it would have been a heck of a lot worse! Nonetheless we left and stayed at a hotel that night, and had to move out the next day. My mother and I dont talk my sister and I dont talk I haven't seen my niece since April (i miss her with all my heart) my mother knows I'm going through fertility issues but has never tried to reach out and lend support.....the last I heard was my father's wife told me that my mother said she doesn't want us to have a baby because she is afraid we will have twins or triplets and my DH will leave me! I've tried my ass off to work out a relationship with my mother these past few months and everytime it just hurts me more! She is assumed of me and my marriage, she doesn't have a single picture of our wedding up in her house, or on facebook, nothing. She has cousins wedding pictures etc all plastered all over her house but not one of my DH and I.
I'm just hurt and really angry I just dont know what more to do.
OMG sorry this was soo long and I'm sure none of it even makes sense....it just feels good to unload this crap.
I have a "little" vent I hope I dont get too winded but I need to get this off my chest or I'm might explode! My husband and I met in Sept 2011 and by Nov 26th 2011 we were married in a small ceremony with close family and friends. My mother and her husband were anything but supportive of our marriage, my father and his wife were supportive as were DH's parents. My mother said my getting married was "killing her" because she felt we were "rushing things". From the moment my husband and I laid eyes on each other we were hooked! We were connected and it was love at first sight as cliche as it sounds I know! We just knew what we wanted and we followed our hearts regardless of who thought we were crazy! After we were married my mother and her husband allowed my and DH to move in for a year to save some money, it was only for a year so we figured not a big deal. WRONG! In the meantime I had been holding onto a secret from my DH and my sister...my sister has a daughter she is almost 2 and I've done everything for my sister and her baby from being at every dr appt while she was pregnant to ultrasounds, throwing her a lavish baby shower, gifts, everything I was there for her every night when she was home with her new baby and her dead beat boyfriend was nowhere to be found. Basically what happened was when her boyfriend did come around he was very inappropriate with me...he would touch me inappropriatly and laugh about it, it came to a point where I wouldn't stay alone in a room with him. I didnt tell my sister because she has allowed this guy to cheat on her with numerous woman and she never did anything about it, so I knew she wouldn't do anything about it when it came to me, she would just blame me for it and that would be it! Anyhow, I was holding the secret of the touching business from my DH until we no longer lived in my parents house because I didnt want it to me anymore awkward that it already was. One day my husband and I were at lunch with my cousin (she was the only other person that knew this touching incidents) and she blurts out oh hey did you every tell DH about *dead beat boyfriend* touching you?? Well.....I had no choice now I HAD to tell him! Told DH he was mad rightfully so that I kept it from him and said I needed to talk to my father or someone about it, so I did. My youngest sister (19) was listening to our conversation and decided to tell my older sister, the one who's boyfriend is a creep what I had told my father. My sister told her boyfriend what I was saying and he told my sister I wasn't allowed around my niece any longer, I'm also my niece's Godmother. My sister complied and asked me to stay away from her daughter, and we lived in the same house. Fast forward to April 2011my DH and I have found a place to live and we were to move May 1st 2011, we realized a year was way too long and things were very bad in the household, my mother complained about everything my DH did (walked too loud, talked too loud, closing doors too much at night showering past 9:30am) umm....he just was blamed for EVERYTHING it was horrible. My mother and I were fighting all the time, so we decided it was time to leave. So April 20th 2011 my mother's husband confronts me and asks if my husband and I were "getting into his liquor?) I told him we werent and if we wanted to drink we are adults and can by our own, he got mad at my response and started yelling at me....I yelled back....he started to throw plates, salt shaker, cutlury, and cups at me....my mother was standing right there her response was...."can you please take this elsewhere?" anyhow he keeps going on calling me a sl*t and wh*re and saying I dragged the first guy home from the bar that would marry me because I'm just a little sl*t and if I think anyone is going to believe me about the story I told about my sister's boyfriend then I'm dreaming because I'm nothing but a lying little bi*ch.....and he told me to get the hell out of his house.....I said we are in a week, he said no get out now. Thank goodness my DH was outside and had no idea was going on because it would have been a heck of a lot worse! Nonetheless we left and stayed at a hotel that night, and had to move out the next day. My mother and I dont talk my sister and I dont talk I haven't seen my niece since April (i miss her with all my heart) my mother knows I'm going through fertility issues but has never tried to reach out and lend support.....the last I heard was my father's wife told me that my mother said she doesn't want us to have a baby because she is afraid we will have twins or triplets and my DH will leave me! I've tried my ass off to work out a relationship with my mother these past few months and everytime it just hurts me more! She is assumed of me and my marriage, she doesn't have a single picture of our wedding up in her house, or on facebook, nothing. She has cousins wedding pictures etc all plastered all over her house but not one of my DH and I.
I'm just hurt and really angry I just dont know what more to do.
OMG sorry this was soo long and I'm sure none of it even makes sense....it just feels good to unload this crap.
I hope your life only gets better from here!!
